Do we have an obligation to Love our families even if they abuse us?

Answer 1

Yes however, there is a difference in loving someone and allowing them to hurt you physically or mentally. Love them but stay away from someone who hurts you. If you are a child, go to a loving family member and talk to them for the help that you need.

Answer 2

You are not obligated as you have free agency to do and feel as you wish. I had the same question for years as I was abused by a family member and hated my parents for a long time for not protecting me. After about 20 years, I finally prayed and found my answer....you have to forgive always as it doesn't mean that the other party was innocent, but forgiveness allows you to move on by just letting go. I had a very hard time with that, I prayed for God to remove the bitterness and pain from my heart, and now, five years later my parents and I write often, not visit yet, but hopefully in time. Best to always pray because God has the power to heal and mend things we cannot. Good luck, hope this helped!

Answer 3

Yes. We have an obligation to love "all things".

However... this does NOT mean one is obligated to stay stuck in an abusive situation. Nor does it mean that one must be "attached" to the abuser. One can, very simply (I know, that sounds contradictory) love with detachment. This allows one to move on, but to also forgive and let go, and thus be free of resentments, without having to forget (and run the consequence of continued abuse in the "forgetting"). ;)

Answer 4

The Savior teaches us to love even our enemies. This sets the bar high enough to include an abusive family. However, that doesn't mean that relief shouldn't be sought for serious abuse (e.g., criminal) or that someone should stay in an abusive marriage. Christ's admonition has to do with where our heart is -- we can hate the sin and deal with it appropriately, but treat the sinner with love. Everyone has weaknesses and if we expect our sins to be forgiven, we must forgive others.

Answer 5

Not at all. We are free spirits and no one has the right to abuse another. I have a lovely Christian friend who was beaten by her husband for many years. She refused to leave him because she had promised God that she would honour and obey him. She remains to this day in a state of quiet desperation because the church told her she should be submissive to her husband! This is not what life is about IMHO.

Answer 6

Abuse is wrong under any conditions.
Do what you can (or have to) to correct situations like that. Or get out.
Or call the Law.
Or defend yourself.
So on so on.

Now, This Child of GOD, that GOD loves, asked GOD one day---"GOD, why am I in Prison?"
GOD Replied, because you Robbed a Filling Station.

Get the Picture?
You Reap what you have Sown, and I still Love you!!!
Ditto...............

Answer 7

it's hard to love someone that abuse you even if he is from your family but you have to try you can maybe loving people will change them who knows love can do any think that's why we keep having this feeling inside of us

Answer 8

God says to Love our Enemy's>>>>>>no matter who they are. He knows It Is A Hard thing to do, So He Is willing to Help us. "We Must Ask for His Help in certain Situations, He Is Always there, Ready. We Will Receive, IF We Believe." He also says "Pray for your enemy's, and those Who Persecute YOU."

Answer 9

you have to take some abuse from anyone you are around but not when it gets to thick! blood or not. my real family isn't related but i love my blood in the relative way. my real family wouldn't hurt me...

Answer 10

Certainly not. All we have is an instinct to care for our immediate kin. Like all instincts, this can and should be overridden if necessary.

Ditch these people if they're no good for you.

CD