one of my best friends that was a girl, is now my girlfriend. because we talked soo much before, and we talked about problems we had with other girls and guys, we would talk for housrs. she first told me that she liked me about a month ago. i wasnt dure if i really liked her back like that. she is a really goood friend and really pretty so i made up my mind pretty quickly. But then then things started to move pretty fast, and now i know for sure she is the best. I love her to death, but I just can't seem to have as much fun and as many things to talk about. I dont get to see her everyday so when we talk on IM or phone we dont have much to talk about. the only time we can talk alot is if we are in person. when we are not, all we talk about is like i love you kinda thing. i need more than just topic starters.
2007-06-10 03:36:26 · 16 answers · asked by Jordan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am married to my best friend. And yes, things did slow down once we took it to the next level. We went from page long emails to just a few sentences and hours on the phone to just a few minutes.
What do we talk about? Well, the things we have in common. We share the same political and religious views. We both play the same online games...we share the same love of ethnic food and independent/foreign films.
So while we went from friends to lovers, we didn't stop talking about the things that made us such good friends. There must have been something there before you became a couple if you say you were best friends. You can't run out of things to talk about...but you can become more shy talking about things now that you are on a more intimate level. For one thing, there is now more to lose than there ever was before.
Now that you are together, you may need to consider more time apart with friends. Otherwise, you are always together and that can wear on a relationship. Even the best relationships need a break and people just need time to be apart to discover new things to talk about with their loved one. If you are always together (even via IM or the phone), you see the same things and what is there to discuss?
Also, you mentioned that you talked about girl and guy problems. Well, how do you discuss that now? What was your friendship based on to begin with? Were you more like relationship therapy partners or actual best friends that talked about everything?
Stop and think about your common interests and you should be able to find something that keeps the communication fun and interesting.
2007-06-10 03:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lunasea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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one of my best friends that was a girl, is now my girlfriend. because we talked soo much before, and we talked about problems we had with other girls and guys, we would talk for housrs. she first told me that she liked me about a month ago. i wasnt dure if i really liked her back like that. she is...
2015-08-14 20:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it best to talk about what you did during the day or other things. You probably don't realize how interesting your life really is! Tell stories about your past/childhood, that's always fun, and she might not know some of that stuff.
On the down side, if you really can't find ANYthing to talk about and you're not having fun with her, than it must not be the perfect relationship. :(
2007-06-10 03:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, don't feel as if you HAVE to talk to her every single day. that way when you do finally speak to her you'll have more to say. Also, what do you think happens to couples who've been married for 50+ years? Just relax and you'll find things to talk about and it should start coming to you naturally. and when you're with her you don't always have to be a chatterbox, lol. find things to do to keep yourselves busy and like i said, the conversation will start coming to you naturally.
good luck =)
2007-06-10 03:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by sunshinegirl802 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Made The Wrong choice by getting with her. Now
you have to pay the price when you eventually break up.
You're going to have to end a happy relationship in
order to have something to talk about. If you choose to
keep it than you got nothing to talk about.
2007-06-10 03:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep going the way your going. sounds like you just need to get adjusted to having it differently now. sometimes when people start out friends and cross that line it can feel a bit awkward and unsure. but give it time if you guys really like each other. talk to her about the adjustment. see how she is handling it. she may be going through the same thing.
2007-06-10 03:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship thing is still new for you both.....it's taken a different direction then just friendship! Give it some time to get "normal"....and above all, just be yourself. When you really connect with someone, conversation comes naturally....and you don't have to be constantly conversing with each other either!
2007-06-10 03:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by David 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try still doing some things separately so you "have something to tell", it builds up trust. Plans for the future, whether they're short term or long term, could be another avenue to explore.
2007-06-10 03:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by Colin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk about school, work, daily lives, family, friends, there are endless topics to talk about. The trouble with you is that you take your gf for granted. When you eat your food too fast, you'll choke.that's what happens to you.
2007-06-10 03:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by greentea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about the future with her and how it would be like if you two got married. That is always a fun subject to talk about with someone that you like!
2007-06-10 03:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋