My father makes fun of my grandparents... what should I do?

Question

My father makes fun of his mother and father-in-law all the time. I know its natural for people not to like their in-laws but come on, my grandmother is 88 and my grandfather is 92. Even though I don't agree with everything they say, I still believe people should respect there elders. What should I do in this situation?

actually there has never been a huge family argument. my mother was actually dating two guys when she met my father and they told her they liked him better. i have told him its wrong but he doesn't listen. he got mad at them once because they told he he ate too fast. he also still talks about bad memories in high school that happened over 40 years ago. i guess i'll just ignore the remarks.

Answer 1

Tell him to grow up. He's acting like a child complaining about elderly people. Tell him he's going to feel like a real @ss when they pass away and he has goes to the funeral. You can't take back hateful stuff you say but sure the hell can stop saying it. Tell him to follow this advice...If you don't' have anything nice to say, don't say it at all.

Answer 2

I know you really don't want to hear this, but you never know what life has been like for him through the years. You didn't say if they got along in earlier times. Sometimes people say or do things that cut to the bone. I hate to say this and it could be so untrue, but it could be something they did or said about you. This is true in my family. My in-laws are have totally disregarded them and maybe through the years they have also. But you are sound like a very loving and bright person. If it makes you feel bad, you should talk your dad and ask him why he harbors so much anger and it makes you feel uncomfortable. And you are so correct, you should respect your elders, especially at that age. And maybe if he tell you he has issues then you can explain it to him it is time to let go.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to say but if you're going to raise her in an American community then yes, people will make fun of that name (think of the movie Norbit). Milana and Nara are beautiful names, however, so i hope you don't get bummed out with what i said :(.

Answer 4

I think that respect is something that has to be earned. If your grandparents treated him badly when he first met them, then maybe he's not over that. Maybe he'll never get over it.

You most likely have two possibilities: either talk to him and tell him that you don't like hearing him talk that way about them, or ignore him.

Answer 5

Tell your dirt bag father how hoe you feel about the way he talks about your grandparents and shows them no respect,and that one day his butt will be a fossil as well if he is blessed to live as long as his in laws have.
And maybe its is natural because I did not like my ex-father in law but I did respect him when he was around as well as he did the same for me because that was my ex-wife's father and he is deceased now but her mother I love her to death to this day I still see her and call her mom and she has always treated me with love and respect to this day and I and my ex,have been divorced for quite a while and our son who's married and has given us three grandchildren.
The point is like you said your Father is wrong and he is not respecting you as well because he does it around you and by what your saying you do not like it tell him remember one day he'll be old as well and how would he like it if your future husband turns out not to like him and and talk about him like a dog what goes around comes around usually in the end.

Answer 6

i think you should tell your father that this is not done tell him to think that what he feel in future if his son-in-law do this with him & also tell him that what he feel if your mother do the same with your father's parent.
if after all that he doesn't care then just try to ignore & hope the day will come when he stop this.

Answer 7

When your grandparents are not around ask your dad why he does that. Do not let him get away with saying I don't know. Tell him how it bugs you and hurts you when he does that when you are around because you love him and your grandparents. Ask him not to do it anymore. Then see what happens.

Answer 8

Sometimes we can't change other peoples actions. You tried and thats all you can do. You grandparents know that you feel different and that you care about them. I know it hurts your feelings but just worry about yourself.

Answer 9

if no one is listening to him he will stop. totally ignore him when is taking bad about them. we he realizes that what he says does not make anyone mad or feel like they have to take your for them he will stop if no one listens to him.

Answer 10

maybe he just joking? i know he did but wont u tried to stop him. try saying 'dad, its not nice saying those to the elder and it might gain back to you'. right. remmeber of karma