When I am hurt by others, I turn the other cheek. I strive to be selfless and pray for forgiveness when I fail. Every day I suffer and my prayers are never answered. All I want is love. Everyday I see the way to be loved is to be someone I don't want to be. (Abusive, controlling, egotistical, self centered) I am none of those things and I can't bring myself to be like everyone else. If God is merciful, why won't he help me at the very least cope with my dispear. Everyday I wake up with the fealing that God wants me to be something horrible, and I'm being punished for my resistance. What should I do?
2007-06-10 01:10:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Get a therapist? I've had many therapists. The first one commited suicide after meeting me. The second had a nervous breakdown and today refuses to acknowledge I exist. She says I'm a cartoon character and I'm not real. How would you feel if the person hired to help you denied you're existance?
2007-06-10 01:21:32 · update #1
jason h, I'm not sure how to explain why I can't hurt people beyond a colection of anecdotes.
When I was 11, 3 bullies picked on me, and I fought back. They were left bloody and screaming. I had broken one kid's nose, another kid's arm, and the other two were just so shocked I defended myself they ran away screaming. The kid who's nose I broke had an older brother whow as 16. He was supposed to pick up his brother from school. He saw me and what I had done to his bro. The other kids were like, run! I didn't run, I couldn't. I said to him, it was his fault, he hit me. That guy was nearly a foot taller than me, but he was afraid of me. His eyes were just filled with fear. He picked up his bro and ran. Ran. I walked home crying like a baby, as the other kids who say what happened cheered me on. To them I was some kind of hero for staring down a high schooler. I just cried. It was just too much for me.
2007-06-10 01:35:17 · update #2
It's just possible you might be one of life's atheists and not know it yet. The notion that bad things happen just because bad things happen and not because God is punishing you might be quite reassuring.
2007-06-10 01:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by EZSum 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Greater is he that is in you than he who is in the world. You are not perfect and neither is anyone esle. That is why Jesus came. Turning the other cheeck is hard, expecially if you feel like you are bing hurt.You sound like you are striving to be like Christ, good on youfor that. But do not forget you are still a sinner saved by grace. But I cogratulate you for you trying, for how great your reward will be in Heaven. Do not let anybody put you off. You have Jesus living inside of you. This world is run by the enemy and of couse you will find opposition. But now the world is coming to a sorry end and the people in this world will soon suffer a terrible tribulation and you will not have to. Keep up the good work and stay srong in the Lord. God bless, leanne
2007-06-10 08:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe God wants you to learn how to apply his Word to your life with wisdom. For instance "When I am hurt by others, I turn the other cheek". Is that your only response? That response was given by Jesus to the Jews who were in subjugation to the Romans and He was telling them that they should not let their pride get them into trouble. Here's how Jesus told us to respond in a different situation.
Matthew 18:15 "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
" I strive to be selfless and pray for forgiveness when I fail"
That's another unbalanced, un-Biblical attitude because it has the idea that you don't have any needs and you should only consider other people. While you should be willing to put the needs of others ahead of your personal desires when the situation warrants it you should also look out for your self.
Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Jesus didn't alway say yes to what other people wanted you know.
Mark 5:18 As he was getting into the boat, the man who had been possessed with demons begged him that he might be with him. 19 And he did not permit him but said to him, "Go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you."
Luke 4:42 And when it was day, he departed and went into a desolate place. And the people sought him and came to him, and would have kept him from leaving them, 43 but he said to them, "I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns as well; for I was sent for this purpose."
" Every day I suffer and my prayers are never answered"
That must mean that you are asking for the wrong things and so while God is answering your prayers you are unaware of it because you are not getting what YOU want but what God wants to give you.
1 John 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.
"Everyday I see the way to be loved is to be someone I don't want to be. (Abusive, controlling, egotistical, self centered) I am none of those things and I can't bring myself to be like everyone else. If God is merciful, why won't he help me at the very least cope with my dispear. Everyday I wake up with the fealing that God wants me to be something horrible, and I'm being punished for my resistance. What should I do?"
You should stop listening to the Devils lies, "Is God really merciful? You know God just gives you those rules because He doesn't really care about you and He wants to look down from Heaven and get a good laugh as you continue to fail. If you do things my way people will love you just like people love God." (See Genesis 3 Eve & the Serpent)
Then get under some sound teaching from a good Pastor like Paul Sheppard http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/Enduring_Truth/archives.asp so that you can learn to apply the whole counsel of God's Word to your life with wisdom and practical applications. Just be careful that you hold on to what is good and don't let the Devil drive you to the other extreme. The evil one always brings his lies in pairs so that if a person is offended by one extreme he can the more easily drive them to the other position of error.
2007-06-10 08:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
(1) drop the "fear" of god. Look around, god does not "punish"
(2) god does not "want" anything. That is, god does not want "you" to be this way or the other way. Look around, there have been terrible people 'ruling the world' and most humble, beheaded, hanged, crucified.
(3) For a short time, "stop wanting" anything. Just look around and "find beauty" even in small things. Look at the grass, how beautiful it is!! Look at the roadside wild flowers, how beautiful they are!!
(4) Look around, "everything is happening" all by its own....
2007-06-10 08:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ah All This! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man's heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.
Proverbs 16:9
King James Version
and think this verse
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
Ecclesiastes 12:13
King James Version
Just pray.
I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the LORD; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah.
Psalms 32:5
King James Version
2007-06-10 08:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by arvin_ian 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is your faithfulness and your honor to God that had made you a target for the devil.
It is those who are strong and persist in their praise that become targets the most. The devil is trying to tempt you away from the path of God. Don't let him get away with it. Be persistent in your service of the Lord and all will be revealed to you.
Each night when you pray, see yourself surrounded and protected by His holy light. See yourself in the future as you want your life to be, with the job, family, friends, home etc. that you want to live in. COmfort yourself with all the goodness and blessings that God has on its way to you. Think of these things as if they are already a reality.
Give thanks to Him every day for at least five specific blessings and He will give you more than you could even imagine for yourself.
2007-06-10 08:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsianna P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
good lord. Get yourself to a therapist before your head explodes.
Basically, it sounds as though you are having a crisis concerning the reality of life verses the idyllic life you think you are entitled to if you just act/ behave a certain way as prescribed by the religion of your choice.
edit: uh, oh... I think I stepped in a big, steaming pile of fake emo troll....
2007-06-10 08:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by dedum 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
stop resisting. stop trying. why not try going with the flow? btw being abusive controlling egotistical and self-centered is not the "way" to be loved. it is self-centered to desire to be loved though. you get love when you give love.
2007-06-10 08:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said every day you strive to be selfless. There is your problem. That is not possible.
2007-06-10 08:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mystine G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are you. you owe nothing to anyone, other than what you accept you owe; not even to god(you better pay the bills though).
2007-06-10 08:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋