I can't get this girl out of my head or my heart we knew each other since we both was 11 year old, I have always loved her and we had our proubles in the past she ask me out then told everone she didn't i was picked on by all her friends then I did some silly things back to her because I was hurted then she went out with my friend and both of them used to wait till I come back from school and stand outside my house kissing and doing sex things which yea it hurted me then everthing went to court it was 2 of them vs me and I won the court they use to stand out of my house ever day for 2 full years (1998-2000) once Isaid Hi to her when no one won't with her then she smiled and said Hi back anyway after the court we haven't seen each other untill this past match we both walked each other in town and we both just stop and looking at each other in the eyes then this posh guy got her hand and walked past me, why does it hurt me so bad when i think of that I love her ever since we was 11
2007-06-10 01:08:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is tough, but I have a feeling that if you LET it, you will be able to heal--here is what a friend of mine wrote about breakingup and moving on--I hope this helps a little, anyway!
Good Luck, dear!
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Breaking up is hard to do - now get over it!
by Carol Allen
Published: 06/09/2007
What do you do when that person you thought was "the one" dumps you? Or, they disappoint you so much you have no choice but to dump them. There's nothing worse! I mean, this was supposed to be IT. You were finally supposed to be truly, deeply loved for the rest of your life and have everything you've always wanted... Now it just feels like someone has ripped out all of your inner organs and put your heart through a Cuisinart set on puree. What can you do?
But something else is also happening inside of you - something fantastic! Whether you're aware of it or not, deep down you know that your breakup is actually a wonderful thing. You've either been liberated from a situation where you weren't fully appreciated. Now your can acknowledge or recognize your desire for more. You're now free to find it. Perfect… sort of. Here's the rub:
Your attachment to your ex is a powerful thing. It's also your biggest obstacle en route to the life of your dreams. Sure, feeling deeply in love and connected with someone who is utterly wrong for you is confusing. And moving on from that person, although ultimately for the best, can be sheer agony. In truth, the loss of a love, no matter how unhealthy, is a kind of death. It requires going through a withdrawal phase and enduring the stages of grieving. Unfortunately, many of us have a hard time getting from the denial of Stage 1 ("Of course we'll get back together!"), to the acceptance of Stage 5 ("Wow, it's really over, and I'm actually glad.").
The thing is, all broken hearts need to mend and eventually move on. Luckily, there are key questions that can be very illuminating when trying to understand a relationship's demise. Reflecting on these questions can help you make peace with your breakup and let the healing begin.
Ask yourself:
1. Did the relationship make you feel good?
2. Did being with this person bring out your best?
3. Did you feel safe to be yourself, or were you always trying to "please your partner" and/or be perfect?
4. Did you have the same relationship goals?
Now, questions one through three are a bit gray - it's normal even in a healthy relationship to not always feel great, be your best self, and feel worshipped and adored by your partner now matter how you behave. But if it was a good relationship, then you should have felt that the positive mojo outweighed the negative far more often than not... If any one of these four key questions makes you sigh, gulp, and say NO, then your break up is a blessing. Plus, you now know what to hold out for before you hand over your heart on a silver platter to someone new and form a powerful attachment!
2007-06-10 01:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your obsessed over the idea of what could have been had you just had the opportunity. There has been too much damage in your friendship for there to ever be relationship. So you shouldn't even entertain that idea; you would just give yourself false hope. As for your friendship you have to truly be over her to even begin to amend that. There are plenty of fish in the sea, but you have to go fishing to find the right one.
2007-06-10 01:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to recover from it. it is over. it is achieved with. there is too plenty luggage related to this. circulate on. Get counseling in case you may desire to, yet you're fooling your self in case you think of it extremely is extra desirable than a closed financial ruin in background!
2016-10-08 22:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwwww!
sniff sniff i feel so sorry for you! that sounds like a sad love story.
2007-06-10 12:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u think that she loved you?first are u from egypt?
2007-06-10 01:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by shadona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋