I invited a friend of mine out to my house for the weekend, however i didnt realise that she was bringing her dog, i have 2 dogs and they don't really get along with other new dogs too well. she is planning on making the 10 hour drive after she has worked all day and then plans to hang out saturday and sunday then drive home sunday night to be back for work monday afternoon. i think it is a waste of gas to drive that far for 36 hours just to turn around and go home. i am thinking of telling her not to come since that is such a waste of gas as much as i would like to see her i would rather see her for a longer period of time.
2007-06-09 22:24:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
o.k I know my dogs pretty well and they dont get along with other dogs on their territory very well. I would love to have her out however i think that the 20 hour drive just to spend a day and a half with me is pretty dumb. i could very easily go and see her later this summer and actually have a less stressful visit
2007-06-09 22:52:22 · update #1
her dog is like her kid and i would absolutely have the dog here if mine were better with other dogs.
2007-06-10 05:24:37 · update #2
just tell her the truth that you would rather make the visit when you have more time to spend with her and that you think its a waste of time and gas to come so far for such a short time.And then if she does reschedule be sure to tell her about the dogs I wouldn't say anything about the dogs now. Just try and get out of the visit.
2007-06-10 02:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by little3nikki 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her exactly what you've told us about the dog situation. I'd leave out the gas issue -- that's her lookout if she wants to blow all that money on gas. Tell her you'd love to see her, but unfortunately, she can't bring her dog because yours are very territorial and don't get along with other dogs. Perhaps she can leave her dog with a friend for a couple of days. If not, you guys can see each other another time. If you talk about the gas issue, she'll think you're mad at her or are trying to hide something from her.
2007-06-10 11:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between uninviting someone (which is never appropriate) and cancelling the event (which is sometimes appropriate). So it would be wrong for you to tell her not to come and not to bring her dogs if you had other friends coming with their dogs.
So since you did invite her out for the weekend, I would be sure to still keep the invitation open to HER, but let her know that you'd be uncomfortable having the dog there and that you didn't realize she'd planned on bringing it. She may surprise you and come without the dog. If she won't do that, then you should suggest that it would be easier for you to come visit her later, but emphasize that she is still welcome.
2007-06-10 10:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. I didn't know you meant to bring your dog, mine are not social, I fear there may be trouble. And bring up the gas issue, and the short visit.
Be prepared to make alternative plans for another longer time, without one or the other set of dogs.
2007-06-10 12:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ma'am firstly , if you are that courageous then do tell your friend the truth , ie- the gas problem and that of the dogs.
but if you are to tell her something canard , then i suggest you to tell her that due to some unexpected circumstances you need to go out somewhere or you are busy with other work and it would be better if she could visit you some other time or you can also make up a false story regarding someone's health!
although my sincere advise to you is that do call her and tell her the truth because it is the virtue of one's truthfulness that binds the imperishable soul to the heart.if you make up a canard then you may feel bad about the false act later .
thus, ma'am be bold enough to tell her the truth & at the same time advise her to visit you some-time later when you'll be free from these problems.be honest ma'm , i am sure that she'll understand the problem .....................
2007-06-10 05:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by divyansh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you aren't really thinking of saving her gas. You are thinking you can get out of telling her that her dog isn't welcome. If I were you, I would just decide that since you have already extended the invitation, and it would be rude to cancel it, to make the best of the weekend. It seems like she is going to a lot of trouble to see you. And the dogs may get along better than you think. Next time you want to invite someone to your home, think it through, first.
2007-06-10 05:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by cactus bloom 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
CAll her and tell her something came up and you will have to make this visit some other time. You really aren't lying. Then suggest that you come to her place at some future date when you can both spend more time together. She will probably be relieved.
2007-06-10 11:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you just told us!
My partner invited a long lost friend for Thanksgiving. We have 2 cats, the friend, without asking us, brought her dog. I was furious. My cats had to spend the weekend locked in the garage, because her damn dog had to be in her sight or it howled. It ended up peeing on my floor and scratching the sisal rug. She never did offer to have the rug fixed or replaced.
Just tell her.
2007-06-10 05:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by tropical 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain no dogs allowed
2007-06-10 05:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Barbarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to the high prices of gas at the moment I feel we could not do justice to having our week end together at my place. So at this time I feel it is wise to cancel until some more opportune time .~~
2007-06-10 05:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋