If you say to many times does it loose its meaning. If you are truely sorry, is it acceptable to keep on making the same mistakes. Let me know
2007-06-09 20:56:04 · 36 answers · asked by Darkchild 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Then does the word sorry ever really cut it? Do you have to repent in some way through action....or is sorry just another word to avoid gettin into trouble
2007-06-09 23:35:55 · update #1
"I'm Sorry" is a loosely used phrase. It is even used ironically or sarcastically, so the intrinsic value is lost. One must find ways to show that they are regretful for their actions, and NOT repeat them, otherwise, what is the point in saying anything, really. Asking to excused from a mistake is fine, but consistently repeating it is a total disregard for those who have been affected/hurt by the action. Earning someones trust back again is work, and can not be achieved in a two word phrase.
2007-06-10 03:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
As others have said - if you keep doing something that is pretty much beyond your control then your 'sorry' will be accepted - although people will probably wish you could stop doing 'it' (whatever 'it' is...).
I had to say 'sorry' recently - for freaking out at a neighbour in the street - It's not like me & although I feel I had good cause I just don't like bad feeling in our little street. Well - it took me 2 weeks to go to her house and say that retched word! It was starting to make me feel sick - at the thought of knocking on her door ... wondering if she'd accept it. Anyway - alls well that ends well ... Straight away she said 'oh, don't be silly - it's fine...). It's funny though 'cos if I hadn't gone round and said sorry then we'd still be avoiding each other. Sorry can make or break relationships!
BUT in another situation - my son is always making the same mistakes over & over again. I say 'mistakes' - I mean 'down right naughty stuff'. I know he's only 9 - but he says 'sorry' to me 10 times a day. I reply with - "it means nothing - 'cos you'll just go and do it again...".
So, in that situation ... yes, it does lose its meaning.
In other situations it can be the difference between peace & world war!
Bev
2007-06-09 21:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry is word that can be used to plaster over hurt
the hurt then can heal or still remain depending on the depth of th wound
by repeating the same mistake you are attacking the same hurt o the appology loses its meaning
If the person is truely sorry they will register the hurt and care enough top stop making the same error
2007-06-10 06:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone may use the word over and over without much muscle behind it. A truly sorry person repents which means a "turn"...to go another direction. However, sometimes we all need someone to help us not to continue making the same mistake. If this is the case, we should ask someone if they would be willing to be our mentor. That person would be one who would hold him accountable for his actions and deeds.
2007-06-09 22:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you say it and why. I constantly do my little squeal of a "sorry!!!" like if I step in front of someone or something small like that. But for example if I really really am sorry I just say it more seriously. "Listen, you have no idea how sorry I am about this..."
With that said, I don't think it loses meaning at all. If you're still making the same mistakes you should work harder not to, it's not a question of whether it's acceptable or not.
2007-06-09 21:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How hard is it to say sorry? It varies for different people and situations. For example, why is it that if you accidentally inflict harm on someone, it is easier for you to apologize compared to when you harm that person on purpose? The next example, is it harder to apologize when you are going to break up with your partner or when you dirty someone's cloths?
Does apologizing lose its meaning after being repeated over and over? It all depends on your sincerity. Do you really mean it when you say sorry, wanting to gain forgiveness from others and wanting to correct yourself the next time? Or do you just want to prevent yourself from getting nagged or scolded? The word "sorry" derives from the word "sorrow", where you actually feel sad and guilty for what you have done wrong. People can feel your sincerity if you have any.
If we are truly sorry, can we repeat the mistake? Yes, as long as it is not on purpose. This question, if explained further, is basically the same as the previous question. Do you apologize for the sake of escaping scolding, or are you truly guilty for what you have done?
2007-06-09 21:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if someone is a cheat for example and they repeatedly do it and say sorry every time, then sorry really doesn't stand for much. most of the time they are just sorry they got caught.
sorry is used loosely far too much in many situations. and yes i think it does lose meaning after a while. being truly sorry comes with emotion, if emotion isn't there it hard to believe an apology.
2007-06-09 21:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not say what mistakes you make--but it is not a crime to make these mistakes--we all make mistakes. The real nice part is that you are always ready to say that you are sorry for the error. A lot of people do not say they are sorry---what you are doing is exhibiting COURTESY....common courtesy that is just like saying thank you or holding a door for another person. Please continue to be polite and keep trying to do whatever it is you do--mistakes come from trying--no mistakes means you are not trying. It is NOT hard to be polite. It is easy to be courteous--it shows you care for your fellow man. Good luck
2007-06-09 21:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That returns to how selfish you are. It always comes out easily when you are selfless. If you are sorry, you better say it. If you keep it in it will darken your heart. When you say sorry you feel free.
If one is truly sorry, they will try hard not to make the same mistakes. But I also understand tat some things are hard to give up, even when you know it's a mistake. That's when your weekness overcomes your mind.
2007-06-09 21:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by M.S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say sorry to much, it does tend to lose it's meaning. In some peoples nature, it is normal to say sorry. But still, people can get fed up with it. For instance, in a relationship, if a man-or woman-is always saying sorry for not picking them up, or not being there when the other needed them, they do tend to fall apart, and sorry does lose it's meaning. For some people, who are accident prone, and always have to say sorry, it is normal for them, and peole take it-BUT-they still get fed up with it.
And usually, some people just can't say sorry. It is a hard thing for them. If you aren't taught how to do things when you grow up, then it is kind of hard to do them when you get older.
In some cases as cheating, or lying, it is unacceptable to keep making THOSE same mistakes.
But such things as breaking stuff, or having a case of being 'ditzy' then that is acceptable to some extent.
2007-06-09 21:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by 552200154 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋