lately i observed me and my spouse get into an argument...and instead of ignoring the issue on the phone,she simply hangs up...without a word of will talk later or something like we'll see it later...she simply hangs up to show her anger/disagreement...and later doesnt even feel that she shunt have done that way....i know everyone has arguments but doest it mean you take your loved ones for granted....would she do that with her boss in office????or am i being too judgemental???is that she is unable to control her anger?? ..am i being too extra-ordinarily sensitive?? and should simply ignore her as imature???
2007-06-09 20:51:14 · 7 answers · asked by anand 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Without knowing a bit more, can you avoid arguments on the phone? Sounds like it is not a good idea to get into these sitatuations. Can you save these topics for when you are at home together and can talk about it? If she or both of you are at work, it does not sound like a good idea to discuss things that end up in an argument. Good luck.
2007-06-09 21:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me in a way she is controlling her anger by hanging up instead of staying on the phone and continuing the argument. Don't argue on the phone with her anymore. If you feel you are getting riled up, let it go for the time being and wait until you are home to talk it over.
The time to think about it may also help you avoid some arguments. Will give you more time to decide if it's really worth arguing over.
2007-06-09 21:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe she is feeling frustrated like she keeps trying to tell you something but maybe you aren't listening to what she is saying. I mean you hear her but you don't understand how she is really feeling. By hanging up the phone on you is her way of maybe getting rid of the frustration, maybe she feels if you are not really hearing what she has to say, why bother talking. It might even make her feel like she is in control of the situation or arguement. Maybe you should try sitting down with her and just listen to what she has to say first on the subject then discuss how you feel. If you really love each other you will make it through this. Explain to her how it makes you feel when she hangs up on you. Try to understand and just discuss your feelings with her.
Good Luck
shelly e
2007-06-10 00:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not argue on a phone either. So if someone wishes to argue, I hang up.
If you want to discuss the situation in an adult manner, without name calling or insinuations or getting angry I'll talk. If not, in my opinion you're not mature enough to discuss a problem.
2007-06-10 00:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by ~Casper~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people hang up out of frustration. Some hang up because they are afraid they will be unable to control their temper. I would just ignore it.
2007-06-09 21:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that I have done this to my husband, it is just sheer frustration and knowing that the argument is going to blow out of proportion and we may both say things we regret later, which would be worse.
2007-06-09 21:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your spouse wants to avoid an argument with you.......as she feels its no use of arguing on a topic ........where she is not understood............and if ultimately you have to decide or have already decided and don't wanna understand then whts the use of talking and getting into an argument on the whole.
2007-06-12 00:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by shona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋