should we go for baby number 3?

Question

we have two adorable boys, ages 2 and 3.5. financially, we're tight. my husband loves kids and especially always wanted a little girl. i'm 37 and time is ticking if we do decide to go for it. i am ambivalent. i know this means giving up at least two more years of my life to take care of a little one. however, i will miss the babyhood once my youngest hits 3. and having kids is one of the best things of my life. what to do???

Answer 1

I think you should go for it.. you seem to want it and your husband does to.. you're scared financially..but god will be with you..hopefully things will get better.. and you'll finally have your baby girl to complete your little family.. if your hubby has to work more to help financially then so be it.. its all a matter of somewhere between 2 - 3 yrs of sacrificing.. then after that you can start work again.. and also by the time you have your 3rd child.and she or he is arounf 2 .your 2 boys will be going to school.. and she can be put in daycare and you can work and be a mommy at the same time and dad will also help you out..right?! so you wont be missing out on anything..
Goodluck with whatever you do.. :)

Answer 2

I have a 16 yr old girl and a 2 1/2 yr old boy. I never wanted children at all and never planned either one. Both were birth control babies (yes I know how to use it) and now I want a third. Actually I may be pregnant now. Unplanned and I did use my patch but nothing is foolproof with my body. I had a horrible pregnancy with the last and he ended up a preemie because of it. My husband doesn't want any more so I am really scared of what could happen. I will be 37 in Sept.

My advice is this. If it is more important to him than you than you should really tell yourself that you are going to have another and live with that decision for a few weeks and see how it feels. If you just can't fathom it then talk to him about it.

I can't imagine my life without a son and a daughter and another would be such a bonus. Parenting the different sexes is very different and if you were to get a boy what a blessing he would be.

Good luck.

Answer 3

we were suprised by #3, we hadn't decided to call it quits at #2 or have a 3rd and then I found out i was pregnant. My husband is in the military and money is tight but it was well worth it. this is seriously a personal decision. I can only warn you that when you have 3 kids you are outnumbered, they gang up on you and the house is always noisy but the love is well worth it:) I wouldn't want it any other way. I have 2 boys and a girl. now that I have 3 I feel a completeness in my life that i didn't have before. if you have the desire go for it. you'll find a way fiancially.

Answer 4

Have another baby!! There is nothing better than a big family, it creates so much fun and many memories. Financial problems? Money comes and goes, the life of a child is priceless. Theres nothing wrong with 3 boys but a girl would be nice to have, since you already have 2 boys. I say GO for it! I love when they are like 1.5 yrs old and are starting to talk and everything..it is the cutest thing! :)

Answer 5

Ask yourself this question? If I have another boy, will I be happy with him or will I regret having yet another boy. Be honest with yourself. I have 2 boys and I don't want to risk having another boy. There are no guarantees. If you do have another child, think of all the expenses that goes along with another child--diapers, wipes, bottles, clothing, toys,pullups,etc. And then it will be that much longer than you can retire or have a fun evening out or whatever. How many ppl want to babysit 3 kids? Just because your hubby wants a little girl doesn't mean you should try for #3.

Answer 6

There is no guarantee you'll get a girl. I would honestly stick with the two. There is no guarantee that you'll have a healthy child either and a child with special needs - though you would love it completely could be a drain on your finances and marriage. It's harder to vacation with 5 (most hotel rooms only let you have up to 4). 5 people (with a carseat or 2) don't fit all that comfortably in a smaller sized car.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

well miss H, looks like you got stuck in a ditch, my advice is wait until your young gentlemen grow a bit older (around 4 and 7), yes, it will be a horrible punishment, but you gotta do what you gotta do, and I dont mean to scare you or anything, having a child over 40 has a chance of 1 in 800 that the child might have the Downes Syndrome-Sorry, had to get that out.

Answer 9

I think the financial situation is more important then wants. You want to bring a child into the world and be able to give them everything. You can allways adopt if you biological clock runs out.

Answer 10

this is something you should talk to your husband about. Ths is a life chaning question and i dont think you should go on us. I say go for itso you have no regrets but your 2 children and husband come first =)