Im going to be 19 in about 2 weeks, my hub will be 23 in Nov. Hes in the air force and is going to be going to iraqa for 6 months in july. He really wants to have a bab y, but im going to college and after this summer will just be starting my Bach. degree. Hes really afraid and really wants to start a family. But i dont want to with him leaving, we dont know if after the 6 months, come home for a few months then me gone another but most likley will, i want him to do his 6 months come home then go a year so we can change to a base that doest depoly as much and then start our family, id be abput 20-21 then and he 24-25. But he says he doesnt want to wait until hes 25 to have a kid, he really wants to start our family, im afraid, i dont want to move back home, i want to be out on my own, but if i was preg and scared and had a newborn alone i dunno....
should i consider his want?
we've only been married about to be 6 months this month.
2007-06-09 18:56:00 · 6 answers · asked by corrick_1 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i have told him all of this, but he just doesnt listen and says im being selfish which i admitt to him i am cuz hes not thinking of the better for our family hes thinking of his wants. Hes just really afriad.... its all so upseting. if he didnt leave so he could share responsibility i wouldnt even have to ask if i should consider it but see as how things are, i want others opinions
2007-06-09 19:18:41 · update #1
I fell pregnant in January and was told that my husband was going to be away with the military for 9 months. This was going to be our 1st. I did not keep the baby because he would be missing all the events of this occasion. He would have been worried if everything was alright and what he was missing. You husband is the one being selfish. You will be the one going through it all alone while he is away, You will be the one acting as a sole parent. You are only 19, wait a while longer. If he does not support you then you should not be with him. Starting a family is best when everyone is ready.
2007-06-09 19:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss your needs with him. You are still young and should have no trouble falling pregnant in your twenties. Let him know that a baby will be better off with an educated mum and you want him there with you throughout your pregancy, the first 6 months of a pregnancy are so important, your body will be going through changes that you will want to share with him. also if something happens to him in iraq this will cause you so much stress and may harm the baby
2007-06-10 02:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I am going with my heart on this one. If my husband wanted a child and he was going to Iraq I don't care what my plans were. I would not want to take the chance on being at his funeral without something of him in my arms to live on.
I lost an a brother in the Gulf and I would love for him to have had a child. As it stands now, his life is over, he grew up, went to school, got married and died in a war for nothing.
2007-06-10 02:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just don't understand why couples don't communicate BEFORE they get married. Is all couples do nowadays before they get married Phuck? Don't they talk? Don't they get to know each other BEFORE they decide "ah hell let's just get married?" No wonder the divorce rates are going up. The people getting married have no clue WHO they are marrying and when they finally find out who it is they don't even LIKE the other person or the other person wants the total opposite! Why didn't you and your husband talk about this BEFORE you got married, this is a MAJOR decision and one of you is going to wind up doing something you don't WANT to do and resenting the other person for it and THAT is going to eat at your marriage until finally one of you hits the road.
2007-06-10 03:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that would have to raise the child while he is gone. You are the one that would have to put college on hold and try to do full time school while pregnant. Now if he would take on all the responsibiltiy, than go for it. But for him to want you to change all your plans and your whole life so he has a kid to come home inbetween army gigs... I woudln't. That is me though...
2007-06-10 02:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to wait. you are still very young, and 25 is not old at all for him. you need to wait until you are married for a while.
2007-06-10 02:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋