When our relationship started, I guess I talked about my ex-gf a few times and my girlfriend brings it up now that she's upset about it. She wants to know why I said those things that I did. The honest truth is that I don't remember any reason I said those things I did. If I were to guess It would be that I just brought them up like casual conversation without any reason why. She thinks I either still liked her or that I was just trying to make her jealous. She says she won't stop being upset until she gets a full answer but the truth is I don't remember a single reason why I said it. Any help on getting her to believe me?
2007-06-09 18:50:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs to get over this. She is being childish. My husband and I still bring up someone to make a point or something when we talk. She is being too sensitive. It is normal to think of past loves or dates. You never forget them but it doesn't mean you want to be with them. She either has to trust you or you should tell her you are gone. No relationship can work without trust. But learn from your mistakes and lay off the old gf talk.
2007-06-09 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your new g/friend that she needs to chill out. You didn't mean for her to get all freaky on you. Tell her You are being honest and you want her to believe you.
Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship, without those you have nothing. So far your g/friend is telling you that she doesn't believe you, and she's not stopping being upset until she gets a full answer Which you are giving her!
Let her know you've answered her truthfully, you've tried talking about it and you're being totally honest...If she doesn't want to believe you.. that is something she'll have to work out on your own. Nothing more you can say or do other than appologize it's gotten into an ugly battle...and from now on you won't bring up anything in your life before the day you met this new g/friend. Goodluck*
2007-06-10 01:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I did things like that with my bf because I just wanted to see how he would react, I could care less about my ex's or ex crushes. But after I did he brought it to my attention that he didn't like it when I talked about my ex's in front of him. So, I try to refrain from saying anything about them, comparing him to them, or anything of the sort because it will make things harder on the long run, and I know if he did it I'd choke him. If you had a long relationship with your ex and were just coming out of it when you got together with your present girlfriend just tell her that. Say something like, "I apologize for bringing up (your ex's name) all those times. It's just that we were in a serious relationship and when the two of us got together I was just coming out of the relationship and was still hurt. But, now I realize that I'm no longer with her and that I'm with you. I don't want to be with her anymore and I know longer have feeling for her. I (Your feelings) you and no one else so you have nothing to worry about.
Hope it all works out. Email me if you need any extra advice.
2007-06-10 01:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you just wanted to talk about to help you get over your past girlfriend. Tell her that you love her the most and did not like your ex or you would not have been with her. Good luck. I hope this helped.
2007-06-10 01:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Perrian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None. This sounds like a 'time will heal' thing. It probally was the wrong thing to do to bring up the ex-. It probally hurt your girlfriend more than she let on. Ask her why she is still upset about it. DO NOT ask her in a way that will put her defences up! That will make things worse.....
2007-06-10 01:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chris G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try showing her that you are sincere and honest in other ways. Show her that you are trustworthy by not lying to her ever, following through on things you say you'll do, and being on time for things. This will slowly build her trust again and once it's solid, tell her outright that you do not remember, and that you are sorry.
2007-06-10 01:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by jadestone12000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to tell her u just wanted her to be jealous, cuz u love her so much and that u just want her to be with u, and u were so stupid to think jealousy is the key.
and tell her something nice my bf always tells me that," like when i get a girl(who were related to him before) topic to him, he just tells me:"BABY ! r u serious, what to get jealous about her, haven't u looked at ur self in the mirror" !
and stuff like that , good luck
2007-06-10 02:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her and go back to the girl you really love... your ex girlfriend
2007-06-10 02:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by imnickdell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
man...wrong move...rule #1...NEVER talk bout ur ex..unless the girl asks...or just say..i dont want to talk bout it...and if she ask why..say..."i love you not her...thats why i am with you"
2007-06-10 17:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just really talk to her and show her!gud luck
2007-06-10 01:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋