I've always been one of the "smart" people in school. I did have friends, but only a couple. In high school I began to "blossom" out and had more friends. My high school social life was pretty good.
However at my university I have no real close friends despite having had 3 roommates in the past. (I chose to live alone this year.) I got along very well with one of my roommates, but we lost contact after I moved out to my own apartment.
The only person I am close to now is my boyfriend, who lives in ANOTHER state. I miss him a lot.
I do feel lonely, but I also dislike spending time with most people here. Is this weird? Basically people invite me to parties sometimes, and I decline, coming up with a lame excuse, like "oh I 'm tired" or "i have to be somewhere."
What is wrong with me? I think I've become MORE isolated at university.
2007-06-09 18:02:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Your ok, your prioritizing and acting like an adult your education is the most important thing.
2007-06-09 18:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is weird at all. It doesn't sound like you have "issues" with people, but that circumstances have separated you from the people you enjoy being around.
It is not easy to turn perfect strangers into friends, One thing I would suggest, though, is to see if there are organizations that are related to your major -- Future Teachers, Engineers in Training, or whatever. This sort of group might help you make useful contacts, find people who are interested in the same field, and get involved if they have outings, activities, speakers, etc.
Good luck!
2007-06-09 18:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some human beings desire to have lots of acquaintances even however maximum of them are not truly as close as they think of they're, and then there are human beings that desire to have in basic terms 2-3 truly good acquaintances which you will have faith consisting of your existence. that would not lead them to a loner, it makes them smart and greater of a real individual. The difficult section is that it is not consistently ordinary to locate those 2 or 3 great acquaintances, yet as quickly as you do, you will desire 2 or 3 acquaintances for existence. i could locate specific activities that i actually savour doing and then probability is you will locate others that have the same interest and additionally need an extensive pal. good success!
2016-12-12 16:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong there unless your avoiding being social because of some sort of anxiety,if thats the case then you definatly should do something to help yourself, just google social anxiety and do a little research, if thats not the case then you may just be a solitary type. i preferr a very small "world " like my g/f my family her family and a very few really great friends as opposed to a regular crue of people to party with , i am just way to choosy of a person to have a lot of friends. you should really do some thinking on this and determine if you are turning people down because of anxiety issues or just simply because they and there activitys dont interest you. i find its always good to fully understand myself and why i do what i do.
2007-06-09 18:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By posting this here on YMB, you've proved that you're not a loner. Just someone who's more reserved. You just can't seem to connect with the new crowd. You don't want to hang with this crowd because you guys don't have much in common, interest wise and in thought. Its frustrating and tiring to be around them, that's why you decline their invitations. You might be getting depression from all that solitude.
You should go out and find someone to talk to. Doesn't have to be on campus. I think that'll help alot.
2007-06-09 18:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Saffren 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is weird - you are probably an introvert.
I , too am an introvert and spent most of my twenties trying to be an extrovert - a total waste of time.
If you're college courses are anything like mine were, you spend a lot of time doing groups projects, so you should be getting plenty of inter-action and be learning how to get along ( or in some cases, put up with ) others.
I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-06-09 18:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by jaybird17762001 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The all night revelers probably envy you for your grades. Well that is if they knew you. How about trying this "not" lame excuse; I would love to go but I must learn this material. Then you might invite them to study with you if it would not be distracting.
2007-06-09 18:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by james 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird if you enjoy solitude. You said that you were lonely though, so it is probably depression you should talk to your counselor and doctor.
2007-06-09 18:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being alone as long as you enjoy it.
2007-06-09 18:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
~It sounds like you're suffering from depression. Check out webmd.com.
Good luck.~
2007-06-09 18:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋