my moms been depressed lately. it gets worse every day. what should i tell her to make her feel any better?

Question

my mom's getting depressed and i think its starting to get to me... im 14 years old. its summer.. i love 30 minutes away from all my friends so she doesnt want to take me anywhere. I feel like I cant do anything. I'm basically stuck. I'm at the mercy of my depressed mother. She doesn't have a husband but shes had 3. Her mother is 85 and just ends up making her mad by saying that she's sorry too much. I just don't know what to do. I guess this isn't so much of a question as it me wanting to know what they think about this.

Answer 1

Try to talk her into seeing a Doctor. Depression is a serious illness that is very treatable..........

Answer 2

If your mom suffers from real depression, there isn't really anything you can do about it. Of course it is helpful if you don't make things worse for her. I mean, do your school work and don't get involved in drugs, sex, or other trouble. That would hurt both of you. But she will need professional help; she should start by going to a doctor. You might encourage her to do this.
I suffered from depression during my daughter's teen years. I'm sure this impacted her, while she was going through all kinds of teenage angst. But I drove her all over the place!
Can you take the bus sometimes? I know it takes time, but you could read or something.... And maybe you can find some activities and people closer to home, too.
Develop your inner resources, be considerate of your mom but don't take responsibility for her problems; she's the adult, not you.
Take responsibility for yourself, and prepare yourself for the future. That's what you need to think of. And have some fun every day.

Answer 3

I'm sure you are worried about your mother's depression, more than you are complaining about what she isn't doing for you because she is depressed. Have you tried talking to her and suggesting that she see a doctor about the way she has been feeling lately? If she isn't open to seeing a physician, then maybe you can talk to the rest of your family and her good friends and have an intervention to share your concern for her. It certainly can't hurt...Depression is an illness, and it can be treated if family and friends can get the patient to seek help. Good luck to you both!

Answer 4

You need to talk to a family member, her friends or your father and explain what is happening to your mom. Being depressed all day is very dangerous for her especially since you don't know what state of she is in. Be careful and watch her, some people when they are depressed like that they become suicidal. If you can get her to talk about what's wrong that will be a start and also try to look in the phone book for help or programs and explain to them what is happening they might be able to put her in the hospital or to see a psychiatrist. I hope you find the help your looking for.

Answer 5

As bad as it seems perhaps the best thing is to talk things over with Your mother and help her find the Good in life. Finding positive things in your lives will help get a starting place to better days. Getting time to explore the wonders of nature or exploring possible sources of help is better than whining about how things re. Each day without pain is a blessing and instead of dwelling on the negatives of Your lives the time should be spent finding good things. I hope You can help with chores around the house and I know letting Your mother know You appreciate her efforts will give her a little boost. Good Luck.

Answer 6

You can't make her feel better, and it is not your fault that she is depressed. You may try to get her involved in some sort of physical activity, such as going for a walk or bike ride. If you have an adult friend or religious leader that you could talk to, that might help you understand what is going on. Also, if you can suggest to her to see her doctor, depression is not something to be ashamed of and it can be helped. She is pretty lucky to have a daughter that cares about her, but don't let it get you depressed. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this, I know it's not easy to deal with someone who has no energy to do anything.

Do you have any relatives or friends who would be willing to come and pick you up? It would be better if another adult along with you talk to your mom about getting medical and counseling help. This is not healthy for her or you.

You can't control what your mom does, and I hope she realizes soon to get help. You can distract yourself with friends, but the problem still has to be addressed and dealt with, your mom needs help. I hope you both are able to attend a group counseling, even with a church, to let each other know how you feel.

Good luck and God Bless.

JIL

Answer 8

Tell her you are worried about her and that you need her to get help! Tell her you love her but her emotional state is not normal.
Is your dad in the picture?? Can you ask him for help? My kids tell me when I act out of the norm- I have had depressed times- and it really makes me step back and see what I am doing to them.
Please know it is not your fault! You need to open up and talk to a trusted adult-someone that may also be able to talk to your mom. While the people here on yahoo may really want to help, there is no way for us to know the full extent of your situation. You need someone on your side that is closer to the situation.
I am pulling for both of you!

Answer 9

Have you got friends you can invite over for sleepovers?You have your own stufff to deal with.Help around the house.Give her hugs and tell her that you love her.Thats all you can do.

Answer 10

Try to convince her to see a doctor. depression is a serious illness that shouldn't be ignored. maybe she needs madication.