I like him and i talked to him the other day and he told me that when he was over at his olders brother house he got some condoms. I am not sure if I should let him or not. I am only 15 and I would love to have a kid but not right now cause i am still in school.
2007-06-09 16:27:49 · 34 answers · asked by Janessia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I talked to him just the other day and he told me that he would stay with me if we did have sex and i ended up pregnat. He did not want to end up like his dad which left right after he was born. So he promised himself that he would not leave his babies life. Some one PLEASE HELP. I love him and he loves me and he asked me to marry him.
2007-06-14 10:39:11 · update #1
oh this is great... another jailbird posing as an idiot 15 year old....
2007-06-14 10:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when I met my husband.
We went to school together (were 28 now). So it is possible that he's being honest with you. However if your not sure then tell him so.
Since you are asking us for advice I would say that you are not ready for this just yet. There is no rush. Have fun with your guy with out the extra burden that sex can be. You are both obviously young sex can make everything more complicated. And If I was you I would not trust just condoms to keep from getting pregnant.
I think that if you are not ready to talk to one of your parents about contraceptives then it is wiser to wait. If he real does love you then he will wait till you are ready if he doesn't, then it is his loss.
If you too care deeply for each other then he knows by now that kids are out of the question for you until you complete school. So talk to him more and plan to not have a child in more then one way. (as in not just condoms)
This is a big life decision, really think about it before you decide. And be prepared to accept the changes that will come from making this decision. If you decide against this you may see that he losses interest. But if you decided for this you may find yourself more interested in other fellow, or you may have to lie to your parents if you are not comfortable with talking to them about it. And there is always the possibility of getting pregnant.
I suggest you find a local Planned Parenthood and make any appointment. (You can bring your guy with you if you like) Explain to them your situation and how you are not ready for a child but feel you might be ready to have sex for the first time. They will tell you your options and will also inform you if your parents permission is required for the different contraceptive available.
2007-06-16 18:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by numina_0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE H*** are you talking about .you r 15 how the h*** are you gonna have a kid now take this condom and throw it in that kids' face because he really does not care for you he just wants to get you into bed and if you still a "v" then keep it that way till you are older because once you let that go you can never get it back.Make sure your first time is with someone special not just some kid who saw a condom for a first time and got happy.
2007-06-15 08:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Marcia C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to tell you a few cold hard facts. He does not love you. He may think he loves you but he doesn't. If he truly did, he would wait until you are ready for sex. You obviously are not ready because you have so many questions and worries. When the time is right, you will know it. If you rush into having sex too early, you will regret it. Your first time should be special.
He says he will stay with you if you get pregnant and marry you, but how will he provide for you? Your future children deserve a mother who is well educated and who can provide them with a bright future. You will not be able to do this if you start having kids at 15. You may very well be able to continue high school and maybe go on to college, but it will be very difficult and stressful. You will be way to overwhelmed to be happy. Babies deserve happy mommies.
2007-06-15 04:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not even going to finish reading your entire question...Im gonna reply only to the fact that you mentioned having sex at 15...are you that desperate for attention that you would risk your virtue for some lame kid that will surely just talk trash on you later as well as dump you because youre now only just a "ho" to everyone? And I wont even bother discussing the fact that you want to have a baby at your age. What you DO need is a swift kick in the pants by your parents or anyone else who will do it. You have no clue as to the responsibilities involved in motherhood....not to mention the financial aspects. Once a mother, always a mother...for the rest of your natural life! Enjoy your teens while you can cuz they go way too fast not to.
2007-06-15 04:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies having babies. People that are under 18 are considered kids in my book. Too damn young to be thinking about marriage, having babies of their own, and being "in-love". I'm not saying that a teenage girl and boy can't have feelings for each other, but a lot of kids don't know what being in love really means. What it really feels like. You really should wait until you're an adult and financially stable before you even think or consider having kids and being a wife. Finish school, too. That'd be the most important thing right now.
2007-06-14 15:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. I know it's really hard to say no. Practice before so it doesn't feel as awkward. (practice makes perfect and makes you feel more confidnet)
Don't put yourself in a position where you are alone with him because it might get too intense. Liking or even Loving each other is not enough reason for sex. I won't say 15 is too young but I think you should save yourself for later because you can never take it back. And having a baby and going to school is not impossible, but it is a long long road.
Your "first" you should absolutely know inside and out -- and I don't just mean that you "feel" like having sex...and you should be in a long term relationship with the person. Please don't give yourself up so easy. Believe in yourself. You are worthy of waiting and saving yourself for perfection. Wait for a long serious relationship so you know if you are giving yourself up it's for something real and true and honest an good. Time tests all things.
It would be sad to have sex with him and then find out later he was a jerk or he just did it for sex or if you found someone you really really loved later on. And relationships change so fast in the teenage years. Just look around you. Girlfriends, boyfriends, they're always changing.
You are special and keep yourself saved for that someone special that deserves you and you deserve someone to treat you like a queen. YOU decide when for YOU not him. Don't "let" him. It's something to be shared that you want to "give" for love, not "let", and not for short term, and not for "like".
I have six kids, trust me, the whole condom thing doesn't always work...if you want to talk to someone your age i have a few girls your age..if you go on my myspace (okay, mine is geeky, thei'r are cool) go to www.myspace.com/fivekitten and look at my first five friends, they're my kids...i know my 21 year old, 16 year old and 14 year old would love to talk to you and say DON'T DO IT!! but they won't lecture..well, maybe the 16 year old might..but listen, if you need a girl to talk to do a friend request or email me.....
2007-06-09 16:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by momosix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre only fifteen id say dont try it just like the other pearson said live and enjoy life
theres gonna be a time thet you wished you never had sex.
keep it light and dont star a relationship with the wrong guy.
The guy youre talking about is probably wantin to take advantage of you .
Having sex before marriage can lead to deep regrets later on in life like: sexually transmitted desieases and early pregnancy
and also doctors say that condoms arnet very reasuring safety agains pregnancy.
2007-06-09 16:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, you have to live with the decision... You have to live with the fact that he Will tell his friends... It Will get around so make sure you are also ready to handle the fact that you are going to be advertising to the rest of the school that you now sexually active... Protecting yourself against STDs is a good idea if you do move forward with him... But do not use a condom for birth control... They make other devices / medication to take care of that and if you are not ready to protect yourself in this area you are risking your future... You are 15 and over the next 15 years you are going to meet hundreds of men who will like you and want to get closer to you... Unless this guy is your absolute Soul mate, I would suggest you wait until you are ready to protect against pregnancy, STDs and handle the what everyone is going to say...
2007-06-09 16:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to keep his pants zipped or you'll be the one leaving him! Boys who want sex are a dime a dozen and not worth a penny.
Having sex should happen when you're in LOVE, not just when you like him.
You're smart enough to figure this one out. You're still in school, so it's not yet time for a baby. Bravo!
2007-06-15 10:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your pants on. It is way too early to be thinking about sex and babies. Live life and enjoy it. You are only young once, don't rush it. School is important and an education can get you a lot further in life than having a baby at 15.
2007-06-09 16:31:39 · answer #11 · answered by Foxybaby1976 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋