I feel as though I've drifted away from God. I haven't been to church in over a year and haven't opened up my Bible in that long, either. I used to love going to church, it gave me a sense of overwhelming peace and closeness to God but since the death of my mother two years ago, I don't feel like worshipping anymore. Since then, I've also abrubtly cut off all remaining family (aunts,uncles, cousins, father) except for my adult brother who lives with me.
I am feeling very despondent & alone & am not sure what to do. Should I try going to church again (even though the desire is not there) in the hope of rekindling the love I once had for church & God?
2007-06-09 16:24:21 · 37 answers · asked by sunset28 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, precious one.
When you take a log from the fire - the fire dies and the log becomes cold. As soon as you return it to the fire - it glows once again with light and warmth.
You need to return to church to regain your light and to dispell your lonliness.
Return to Jesus and His love will be reborn in you.
Peace dearest one.
2007-06-09 16:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
The reason why people stop loving God or going to Church etc. after a loved one dies or some great tragedy in life is because they think God is punishing them or the person it happened to. The thing is Jesus originally taught karma and reincarnation, and no one goes to hell eternally. But king Constantine had these things taken out of the bible which was easy to do back then due to only the higher ups in the church and government had copies and women couldn't read.We have to understand karma reincarnation and no one goes to hell eternally to understand the unlimited mercy and love of God. This is a Universal fact. The reason why so despondent is because you have so many questions unanswered and the ones you get from your Church don't satisfy why because they don't have tall the answers, that is a fact, that is why their are so many Christian denominations. They don't have the whole truth. For the truth that was lost google go ogle.com The Truth will set you free. Sorry to hear of your pain of your loss of your mothers association. So my answer is find a church that truly answers your questions and satisfies you . So far for me the Essenes are the only Christians that have the bigger picture the rest have bits and peaces.
2007-06-09 16:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing last year. Just talk to God and read the Bible. Christian books really helped me out. It was just good to get another point of view. When you can, go back to church and maybe go with some friends.
Sometimes, in a relationship (and Christianity is a relationship with Jesus, not a religion), you feel the fire, and sometimes you don't. But just like with people, if you really love them, you will commit and love them even when the feelings aren't strong. God has pulled away from you to make you stronger by making you seek him out and still ovey him when he feels far away.
The church isn't prefect, but that's why we need ppl like you there to be real and love on people. Don't give up on us! Good luck with your family and I hope you reconcile. I'll pray for you.
Theology/devotionals: Mere Christianity, The Screwtape Letters, Blue Like Jazz, What's So Amazing About Grace, A Call to Die, I was just wondering, Velvet Elvis. One of those will rock your world, which one just depends on your style.
Christian fiction: Redeeming Love, Mark of the Lion series, Classics: The Brothers Karamazov, Les Miserables
2007-06-09 16:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, in your brokenness, now is the time to rekindle your relationship with the Father. The best way I know to get those feelings back is to start giving those feelings to others even though you don't "feel" like it. Love is an action verb. Begin loving your family again and find someone at church who seems to be a little one and show them the love of Jesus. "Give and it shall be given unto you, a full measure, pressed down and shaken together shall be poured into your lap"
2007-06-09 16:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it may be hard for you to go back and try to rekindle a relationship with your family i dont understand why but when you lose your mom it seems that the tie that bound the family is gone but if you can have a relationship try it will never be the same i know but for yourself see if there is some of your family you might bond with a church family is a wonderful thing and will help you get that inner peace and closeness to God back its the going back thats hard once you do you will be happy again
2007-06-09 16:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i totally understand what your going thru. as they say...been there, done that. the exact thing has happened to me. i lost my 'connection' to god and stopped going to church. i can sense that you miss your mother and might blame god for taking her away from you. please don't inter-pit what i say next as being insensitive. everybody dies. its a natural part of living. don't let your mothers passing ruin the feelings you got from worshiping and going to church. also don't cut off other family members at this time. i get the feeling from your posting that your family is religious and if that's true i'm sure your mom would not want you to drift away from your family. i also think your posting indicates that you may have a mild case of depression and you might want to consider seeing a proper therapist for help you with what you are feeling or perhaps help you select the proper anti-depressants for you. now to answer your final question...i would not go to church at least for the short term. keep the idea of going to church again in the back of your mind, maybe even setting a future date for going to church. you might even try a different church, (even a different denomination) in order to try to rekindle the love you once had. even the bible states of "having a season" to take time off. always remember that even though you are not going to church, you can always pray. you will know in your heart when you are ready to go back to church. blessed be.
2007-06-09 18:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to God. You haven't healed from your grief over your Mom. Sometimes it takes a very long time. Also, you might consider seeing a doctor as well. You could be suffering from chronic depression. It happens sometimes. The staying away from friends and family is the tip off for that one. Seek help....from God and man.
2007-06-09 16:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you have clinical depression, which can cause a person to withdraw from people and activities they used to enjoy.
You need your family. And you need your church family.
Why don't you seek counseling? You could even start with a pastor. That's what I did after my divorce, sought counseling through the church denomination I was with. Eventually, I found my peace through Islam, but having a spiritual backbone of your own religion will help you through this.
May God be with you.
2007-06-09 16:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by aminah 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been in your situation. I can tell you that you absolutely need to be in church. You are pulling away from God because of of your Mom's death. This is contributing to your despondence . Isolating ones self is never a good thing. Get back where you belong before matters get worse. Trust me they can get worse. God has been waiting and will welcome you with open arms. Good luck and God bless!!!
2007-06-09 16:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by BERT 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should..It's not easy to get yourself back into the habit of going to church..But as you stated..You can once again have that peace..Once you get right with God again..He will then give you the strength you need to make amends with your family..
Losing a parent is very hard..But I did the opposite when my dad passed away..I was out of church..And when he died I went way down..Did things I had never even did as a teen..About 6 months later it hit me..I need God in my life again..And ran back to Him..Never regretted it..
2007-06-09 16:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should go back to church. It will help. In order to have a relationship with God, you must do those things which connect us to him such as praying, singing praises, hearing and reading God's words, fellowship with other believers, communion, etc. You are definitely more likely to do these things on a regular basis if you go to church. Remember that God loves you and wants to have a personal relationship with you. You can't have that relationship if you don't reach out to him.
God Bless
2007-06-09 16:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by Micah T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋