Are you born straight? Or did you consciously make the decision to be attracted to the opposite sex?

Question

scared 2b gay, I'm trying to make a point. IF you don't make the conscious decision to be straight and if you are indeed born that way, then how can you say that you also could be born gay as well? Can you speak for every single person in the entire existence of the world?

Peace, I know exactly what category I'm in ;-)

Answer 1

Like all of my species I was born with the inclination that God gave me.

Fortunately for me I was not the victim of Abuse or did not have an overbearing mother or absent father or some character flaw or speech impediment that made people insist that I must be gay.

And no one took advantage of my confused sexual feelings when I was a teen to convince me that I was condemned by occasional urges of odd attraction to be the opposite sexually .

Answer 2

Research on this subject has discovered some interesting things about gay men, they all have smaller pituitary glands than straight men, also they all have a extra coding on the y chromosome. If you can image a X chromosome with a notch out of one of the legs of X , you can get somewhat a visual of what I am talking about. Remember a complete XX is a female and a perfect XY is a male.
The genetic link is still being debated by many researchers.
What is interesting is that many none scientist have formed their own opinion on the research and taken sides--most claiming there is no proof. They are correct to a point, we can not say for sure that it causes one to be gay, because the proof would require us to alter the genes of an embryo.
But more and more evidence is coming forth that support that being gay is genetic--you are born that way--it is not a matter of choice.

Answer 3

From a christian perspective... I chose to be heterosexual and stuck to my decision. Anything else would be sin for me. I think it is completely possible to choose to be homosexual. Maybe some people can't help it and born a certain way, not an expert about that so I won't pretend to be. But I think you can get aroused by just about anything if you let yourself... That's why you have so many weird fetishes out there. Maybe you can be born with whatever tendancies but I think you have some degree of control over it. I think too often people confuse love and lust. You can have love and affection for someone of the same sex, where it crosses the line is when it goes from that to sex. Just answering the question...

Answer 4

You do not "choose" the sex you are attracted to. To suggest that you can means that anyone could at say, 35, decide they are not straight anymore and now are attacted to the same sex.

If things were this easy then why would young boys or girls choose to be gay, with all the namecalling and predjudice that that brings? Hardly an easy life.

I believe its more nature than nurture, although that can play a part. Gay animals exist all over the animal species. I'm pretty sure no chimps or cows made any concious decision in that way.

To be honest we are likely all born bisexual - capable of being attracted to both sexes.

Answer 5

Why the hell would a person decide to be gay? Do you know the hell those people go through? My sister-in-law has a younger brother that's gay. He was on antidepressants, antipsychotics, and antianxiety medication until he came out of the closet. Now he's off all medication and in a relationship with a man. Most men's penises become erect for women, some men are turned on by other men, and others get turned on by animals. I don't think sexual attraction is a conscious decision. It just happens. I can't will my penis to become erect. It just happens or doesn't happen. It has been shown that when men are locked up in prison with other men for long periods of time they become sexually "deviant," but I still don't think they willed their penises to become erect for other men. They may choose to behave homosexually but I don't think they choose to become turned on by members of their own sex. I can't imagine waking up one day and thinking to myself, "Hmm, I think I'll try making out with a man to see if it turns me on." A man is either sexually drawn to hairy penises and backsides or he isn't. Lastly, my brother used to have a gay dog. The dog was a very intelligent mut that had a good instinct for fighting. My brother fought him against Pit Bulls and Rottweilers and the mut would win the majority of the time. The dog's only "flaw" was that when another male dog would come into his territory he would end up mating it. My brother found him several times stuck butt to butt with other male dogs. Did this dog choose to be gay?Homosexuality must be natural since it is an observed behavior in nature.

Answer 6

My intersexed friend is still wondering whether he/she was supposed to be a boy or a girl since she was born with some of both genders (physically). I was born with only female parts, so I know I'm a girl... but I'm sure there must be other factors that come into play when and as a person matures, concerning sexual behaviours or lack thereof.

Answer 7

No. The Kinsey spectrum says that everybody falls somewhere between straight and gay. There is no 100% straight person or gay person. If I follow this thought I'm having out to it's conclusion, then I think that babies are born bi, but through conditioning and socialization at a young age, they're conditioned to be one or the other. I think people who are staunchly straight are just afraid to acknowledge the fact that they *could* find somebody of the same sex attractive.

This is all only my opinion. Hope it helps.

Answer 8

I don't think anyone is born with a set sexual preference. I think everyone has the capacity to be attracted to both genders but through social conditioning are put into the position to choose just one (though some do remain bisexual). I believe it is a choice but I see nothing wrong at all with any of the possible options available.

Answer 9

i lean toward the choice factor. i can only speak from experience. it would seem correct that you can look at a member of your own sex and see that he is hansom but entertaining sexual thoughts is a matter of freewill decision. same with a beautiful female. i can be in the same room and see she is desirable but not hound her sexually. sex is a choice either way you go as i know... females have desirable things that impress me. the shape of their bodies, breasts and such. soft. their voice. i think what happens is a mental thing. you might see a member of your own sex is hansom and ponder on them. pretty soon you start to fester and start thinking homosexual. i noticed females at an early age and in the same manner let that frame of thought ingrain in me. now it is natural and i have to dig to reason why...

Answer 10

You no more choose to be gay than you choose to have blond hair and blue eyes.

It is who you are born to be. It genetic and there is nothing wrong with being gay. Love is love straight or gay.

And for those who will obviously make a judgment here I am straight.

Answer 11

I believe I was born straight.