A questions for girls and guys who lost their virginity late?

Question

Im a 19 year old virgin male and I wanted to know whether or not i should tell a girl that im gonna sleep with that im a virgin. Would you girls wanna know.....would you know if he didnt tell you....most of my non virgin guy friends tell me the first time is clumsy and short like you ejaculate in 5 mins. Anyways if i had a true girlfriend like a long term relationship theres no doubt i would tell her and i would feel comfortable but lets say i start dating casualy and were like in bed somewhere from 1 to 3 dates instead of months.

The reason im a virgin is because i use to be shy but now im talking more and opening up and i dont really care as much as i use to plus im studying dating from this dating guru which makes sence(if you wanna know i can tell you but i dont see the importance)

Anyways ya....details ladies....do you care if its just a casual relationship....would you wanna know....would you know if he didnt tell you.........????

i only used the word ejaculate cuz yahoo censors ***

Answer 1

If you've waited this long (good for you by the way...), then why not do it 'right'? If it's someone worth having sex with then it should be an open and honest relationship. You should be able to tell her...and more importantly she should be very flattered (that you're doing it with her first, that you told her,...).
Just have sex with someone you could actually tell this to without feeling uncomfortable. If you're too concerned then maybe you haven't found the right person yet.
And, if they HAVE done it before they're going to know something's up anyway. If it's someone you plan on continuing with then being honest would clear up alot of confusion for them. Better they know what's up and be ready then to be surprised and possibly disappointed.
Good luck, take care, and HAVE FUN!!!

Answer 2

Yea, we like to know. We like to know where you've been and how many mostly to be safe. Personally I think that you should stick to virginity until you are in a serious relationship. Believe me you won't regret it. And the girl you end up with will appreciate it. The first time isn't the best, not gonna lie, but that's only when you look back on it. At the time you're just so caught up in being able to do it with someone you love. I used to wanna give it up with "casual" relationships and luckily I found my boyfriend and I was so happy he was my first because it makes it even more special, seriously. That's just my opinion but as for your question...inform her and have her inform you about her past. It's taking a step ahead in safety for one (you know STD's) and that way you know the type of person you're with. Hope this helped.

Answer 3

I was 19 too when i lost my virginity, and i felt more comfortable knowing how experienced my partner was. Turned out he was a virgin too, and he was 20. I don't think it's something you should feel you have to hide or be embarrassed about.

Answer 4

I think you should tell her, but don't do it too early. I know girls who said they wouldn't sleep with a virgin because they didn't want to be their first. They just wanted to use them for sex, and felt bad using a virgin for sex.

Answer 5

i would want to know. i would be less paranoid about the STD's and all that and if the girl knew you are a virgin, shell take good care of ya ;) She'll probably know even if you dont tell her.

Answer 6

you should tell her. it doesn't matter if you are or not and she wouldn't care. You're only 19, not like 40 or something

Answer 7

You let them know that this is the first time and let them take it from there

Answer 8

I did and it made it less awkward

Answer 9

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