Okay, Like all my questions start, my fiance and I are expecting within the next week or so. Well, we have decided that no one be he will be in the delivery room. However, his mom seems damn determined to be in there, and I've already told her no once. Here's the problem, she's acting chipper about the birth and she hasn't been fighting me like an angry cat. I know this woman, she'd be throwing fit by fit right now if she knows there's no chance. Her daughter recently told me that not only was she planning no being in that room, she wanted to video tape everything and she wanted to take gross pics. I told her daughter right away that she wasn't going to be in that room and she's still acting chipper. I brought this up to my fiance and he doesn't want to talk about any of it, he keeps changing the subject and never gives me a straight answer and he still talks to his mom all nice. Im really getting the vibe that he's planning on letting her in that room without my say. Is he?
2007-06-09 15:49:41 · 7 answers · asked by matandmaegan0507 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off... Your Baby's Father should be sticking up for YOU!
Second, only the individuals you would like in the room with YOU, during YOUR precious and painful moments should be decided by YOU only!
Moreover, he should have your back on that one!
However, he may be just as scared as you are, and want HIS mom there to help HIM support YOU!
Think about that side of it. Just a thought.
Good Luck!
And remember, you are having the sweetest gift in your life!
Focus on your child! And loving every moment you have with him/her!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Dee
2007-06-09 15:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, hospitals do not allow filming or photographing of the gross pictures. Just from your point of view, that means from YOUR shoulder down - that angle.
You could check with the hospital what their policy is. Also, let the hospital and your doctor know IN ADVANCE who will be allowed into the room. And no one else. That way, it's set in advance and you won't have to fight that woman when you're in monumental pain and have other things on your mind.
Also, remember that this is HIS mother, not yours. I mean, if it was your mother, the situation would be a bit different. But this is another person, in many ways a stranger, with who probably have never shared any intimate details with.
You're the one who decides who's in the room Only you. Plus, this is your fiance, not your husband. I am saying this because without being married, you're considered (as far as the hospital is concerned) a single woman giving birth. You have all the legal rights that you want. That also includes filling out the birth certificate papers. Only YOU have the legal right to do that.
So...make advance arrangements with the hospital. NOW!
And congratulations on the baby!!!!!
2007-06-09 16:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you've tried to make it clear to everyone NOW you have to tell your doctor. Your doctor will tell her to get out. At your next check up tell your doctor exactly what's going on. A good doctor will stand by your wishes and be your advocate when the time comes.
And honestly, if your guy can't stand up to his mom NOW...you are probably going to have more problems down the road. Best to nip that little problem in the bud right now.
AND you could tell your guy that if he doesn't put his foot down NOW and stand up to his mother and tell her exactly how things are going to be at the delivery...then you can let him know that you don't have to let him in either. When it gets right down to the big moment, believe me, you won't really care who's there! The doctor and nurses are the only ones you will absolutely need at that moment. They'll be the ones telling you exactly what to do and when.
Good luck and take care!
2007-06-09 16:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear that no. If she attempts to come in tell her to get out. Regardless of what your fiance says cause in reality, your the one with the power to say who goes or stays. stand your ground
2007-06-09 15:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by KS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. But tell the hospital not to let anyone but your husband in the room...no matter what.
2007-06-09 15:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when your admitted, you request no one is to be in the birthing room but you and your husband!!! tell them who your afraid will be a problem and they will handle it
2007-06-09 16:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let him in your room and let her video tape it and take pictures. you shouldn't be shy of your birth.
ps email me the video + pics :)
2007-06-09 15:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋