i have a friend who was with the love of her life for 2 years and he cruelly left her without any explanation why.. since then she has became very depressed, has been making herself very ill with a purging eating disorder but i have found out recently shes addicted to some opioid painkillers called codeine she cant tell her family because they own a business and are very busy a lot of the time...i dont know what to do... i despair for her and cry every night advice plz ppl
2007-06-09 10:53:28 · 7 answers · asked by tania 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Get her some professional help. Sounds to me like this break up has been the break down in her mind, body and soul.
You don't necessarily have to be the one to tell her family, but they should know so that they can support her. Go with her when she sits down to tell the family--be her support when she needs you.
But make sure you do SOMETHING. Keeping this a secret is doing no one any favors, and could lead to fatal consequences for her.
2007-06-09 10:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually your friend can tell her parents but for some reason she has decided she cannot. The things you describe are classic signs of a person making an indirect call for help. They are partly in denial themselves so it is hard for them to make sense of what is going on in their minds. Perhaps this girl went with her ex-boyfriend against her parents advice - that advice may have been correct and now the poor girl has to eat humble pie. This is a tough thing to do alone. Becoming dependent on codeine is a serious matter and perhaps you can both try to locate a counsellor to support her. Remember however that ultimately your friend must decide to take charge of her own life - you cannot do that for her. Sad though the situation is, there are worse things. Stand by your friend but do not get drawn into the lies and deception that are just beginning to show! Addicts do not make very good friends.
2007-06-09 11:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is bad.
She needs to learn that this guy is *not* worth destroying herself over. Has she tried talking with a counselor of some sort? It's pretty sad that her family's business seems more important than her life, and that they can't see that she is in some pretty major trouble.
2007-06-09 11:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So her that there is alot more to live for. You could make an app at dr and have a word with them without your friend knowing just for some advice. I hope she gets better soon and i hope it don't affect you to much. My thoughts are with you both x
2007-06-09 11:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to a doctor or a physciatrist. I hate to say but there is really nothing you can do except say I'm here for you. But get her some help. And if you already tried to get her to go explain to her that it is the only way that she is going to feel better.
2007-06-09 11:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her Mom and dad need to know about , what she is doing and feeling, they can help her if they know. Show your friend that you love and care for her ,finde something to do to keep her mind off the man that left her, until the parents can think of what is the proper thing for her to do . good job to seek help. that shows me you really care for your friend. THANKS.
2007-06-09 11:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by gkmaloney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she needs a real good friend to help out of this situation because people who fall in love do not trust outsiders they need somebody real to explain the real situation
2007-06-09 11:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by shaikhudude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋