Yesterday, I went to this carnival with a group of my friends. I really like one of them, and I think she may like me, except she has a bf and he wasn't there. After a few hours, we started going on the zipper (its an enclosed cage ride that flips you) and starting the third time, she started holding my hand on the ride. We rode it a few more times, sitting closer and holding hands both times. Now I feel guilty, since we rode so many rides and sat so close and her boyfriend is one of my best friends. Am I a jerk?
2007-06-09 09:39:10 · 21 answers · asked by Thomas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actual explanations would be nice, not just "Yes you are" or "No you're not". I'm trying to figure it out, not just feel more guilty.
2007-06-09 09:52:33 · update #1
it seems like you care about this, and that makes you anything but a jerk. It's good you two didn't go any farther than simply holding hands, which could be considered a friendly sort of thing if she was just scared and looking for comfort; I have been on the zipper and it is a sort of scary ride but I have never felt the need to hold someone's hand... Just be careful around your friend, don't let him know you like her and be nice to her but don't make her feel like you expect any more from her, or expect to get that close to her again. You aren't a jerk, just be more careful and maybe in the end she will realise it's you who she really wants, but if you push her in any way she will think you're a jerk and avoid you, and you will never get anywhere with her
2007-06-09 09:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your desires got the best of you. Regret is a common feeling, and you must be a pretty good person for feeling it. Just try not to approach her in a way a boyfriend might. Just make sure nothing like this doesn't happen again (this could lead her on and your intentions can change).
2007-06-09 16:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Liquid Snake 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not a jerk, you feel guilty about what you did and thing is you where not acting alone. She had a part in it to. You both where showing some kind of feelings for each other. I think the both of you need to talk about what happened. Then decide what both of you want to come of it.
2007-06-09 17:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont feel the guilt u were just hand in hand...that realy didnt mean anything,but try not to go farther than that cause it will be worst feeling later.
becareful not to be use by other girl that would be with u because their bf is not around be sure she likes u or maybe ull regret it later
2007-06-09 16:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a jerk because jerks never feel guilty or bad about what they've done, and you do. Talk to her about it and tell her that you don't feel it was right and she should make up her mind on who she wants...
2007-06-09 16:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't say jerk,but you know she has a bf and he is your friend. If that was your gf and another guy you probably wouldn't like that. I think you should just be careful because that could make him really mad and you wouldn't want to mess up your friendship!!
2007-06-09 17:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by devin l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your friend and also that girl's opinion.
If she liked doing it, you're not a jerk.
If your friend REALLy cares about her and love her, you're a jerk.
2007-06-09 16:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by yook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a jerk, but don't push it :) Just stay away from this situation.
2007-06-09 16:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you definetly didn't try to push her away
I think you need to tell your friend (her bf) what happened
i dont think your a jerk
but just dont lead her on or play along
2007-06-09 16:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by whycantifly74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don think that makes you a jerk but be careful of not taking it any further
2007-06-09 16:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋