I have been admiring the girl at work for quite some time. I don't really know her that well as we work in different departments & only see each other in passing.
Recently I have started to build conversation when passing, so I don't start rumours, or get done for skiving. I get a good vibe from her but not sure if she is flirting or if that is just the way she is with everyone. Also, I'm not totally sure if she is single.
How do I find out if she is single without letting my secret out & how can I ask her out without making a total fool of myself? Rumours travel fast & I don't want it to be a bad one.
Help people.
2007-06-09 08:27:51 · 13 answers · asked by Sparky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Use Monday mornings as an ideal time to ask "how was your weekend?" or "what did you get up to?"; you'll soon find out if she was a partner.
If she hasn't, ask her if she fancies a drink after work on a friday; nothing bad can happen, surely?!
2007-06-09 08:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should start making more conversation with her and then once you get to know her a bit better. Then tell her, take her somewhere privare like an office or something as ask her politely, if she says no at least you'll know not to waste your time. Do ask her, you've got nothing to lose apart from maybe rumours being spread about, and trust me i sure do know what that feels like. Do it soon cause you don't want to later regret it. I mean imagine tommorow you'll be like "oh man" and we'll be like "it's ok don't worry about it" and then you'll be like "what am I gonna do" and then we'll be like "oh get over it man it's been 5 years already". Yeah i didn't know how else to say it but i think that pretty much paints quite a picture. Basically regret it really bad and you should do anything to avoid it. I mean she might not be with anyone right now, and if you leave it for any longer she might go with someone else and that will really be piss taking for you. Anyways all I can say is to tell her. So good luck, i hope I helped. Good luck honey again. tell us how it goes yeah.
2007-06-09 08:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to ask a girl if she is SINGLE.... just ask -->> "Are you single?". If she wants to know "why you asked", completely change the subject, and in a professional tone, ask her a work-related question . . . . and leave it at that. If she STILL wants to know, smile and walk away. The MORE she wants to know . . . the MORE she is available.
LOL!
Dont EVER tell her why you want to know. If she doesn't GET IT, then concentrate on a woman who DOES.
Think about it.
DO NOT ask her if "she HAS A BOYFRIEND". Because that is like saying -->> "Do you have a guy who BELONGS to you? Because if you don't, I would really like to BELONG to you."
"DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?" is an UNATTRACTIVE question, and "ARE YOU SINGLE?" won't make you look like a WUSSY. Whatever her ANSWER is, you must show NO reaction to it. Because there is nothing to REACT TO. Its just a FACT that has no OPINION.
Finding out if a woman is single is not a PERSONAL question. You can freely show amusement (smile) if she pretends it is.
You will be surpised HOW FAR it will get you to just be DIRECT. And so will THEY.
:)
2007-06-09 08:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her colleague if she is single, does she wear a ring? Anyway be a grown up and ask her out for a drink, you will soon find out if she is available or not, if she's not then so what, move on, it won't be the end of the world. Go on be a devil! If your not that brave then send her an e-mail, if she say's no, then reply by saying sorry I pressed the wrong contact, ha!
2007-06-09 08:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by DIANNE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a few of your work mates out for a drink after work then ask if she would like to come along2!! Then you can have a conversation with her and get to know her better without anyone thinking there is anything going on. Goodluck.
2007-06-09 08:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Sparky my advice is go straight to the point. Ask her. if she is back off and say ok thank you he's a very lucky guy and look elsewhere. If she says no, ask her if she would mind awfully going to dinner or similar. It will save a lot of time and sleepless nights asking yourself the same question you just asked us. Do it Monday.
2007-06-09 08:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're actually not searching for a severe dating, you would be able to desire to tell her now. maximum women choose long-term relationships, and whether she does or not, you would be able to desire to allow her comprehend the place you stand. sit down together with her privately and basically tell her that, at an identical time as you like her plenty, you're actually not waiting to have a severe dating together with her. make certain you define what you recommend with the aid of "severe," because of the fact that is different from guy to guy.
2016-11-09 22:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. This is what you should do ask her if she would like to go out for lunch but don't make it obvious ask her where shes going for lunch and say hey that's where I'm going also and tag along
2. While at lunch say wow you and your boyfriend must get along great because its so easy talking to you and if she says she doesn't have one well, take it from there.
2007-06-09 08:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Leosandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep having conversation with her in a friendly tone and you'll soon be able to know whether you should risk the big step.
2007-06-09 08:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by maggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't complicate things so much. Go and ask her out (dinner and cinema evening). I'm sure she'll be pleased. Girls usually start worrying when no one asks them out.
2007-06-09 08:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Barry K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋