GIRL TALK....ladies only (no boys allowed)....................................................................

Question

okay my sista girls....
so, please share your story as to what you consider yourself to be....
Feminist/ non feminist/ humanitarian/ other?
and HOW did you arrive at this place in life?
were you brought up with these beleifs?
did you find them later on in life, through self journey?
were you brought up one way, and switched over on your own?
Talk to me girlfrien'.......

Damn boys showed up now we cant talk about panties and vibr.....oh never mind!

ok fine....Rio says the boys can stay....
watching only though, no touching!

I for one, am not a Feminist.
I am a strong woman who has a succesful career, and I am no doormat.
But I love being feminine, and I love masculine men.
I do tend to use my feminine wiles to my advantage, and I'm not about to apologise for it.
I was raised in an Italian family where we girls were taught to "have it all".
Be feminine, accentuate your beauty, work with what you've got, but also do well in school, have a great career, be happy, and yes we were taught to please our men!
I consider myself humanitarian.
I beleive men and women should respect each other.
Are we equal?
In some areas yes. in others not really, but we are the Yin & Yang of each other, the counter balance.
I totally apreciate what the women's movement has done for us females, but I'm also sad that it has caused some negative backlash as well.
I just wish people were nicer to each other these days....

THIS IS ABSOLUTLEY A SERIOUS QUESTION !

Thanks ladies (and disobedient boys);) ...awesome answers....there were way too many good ones, to chose the winner so I had to go with the non- answer...

Answer 1

I'm gonna put the sign back up on the tree house.... no gerls, this is the boy's treehouse club!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

All my life, I was raised that women (or I) are supposed to grow up as housewife and take care of my husband. I started doing house work at the age of 4. I was able to do every type of work by age 7, except for cooking. As I grew up, my parents views change and I can have a career as long as I was a housewife. It is custom in my family to slave over the house while all the husband do is go to work and do nothing after wards. Now, I can do that and work while the husbands rules stay the same. As I grew up more, I find these rules a little unfair. Me and my sisters slaved over the house while my brothers did nothing. That is how I became a feminist. Don't get me wrong, I did the work. I just express my believes in words.

I remain one until a certain point in my life, my senior year in high school. I was looking for a research topic and being a feminist, women's rights and inequality towards women. As I research it, my topic change. I came across a article of men's discrimination. I came to realize that what I believe sounded hypocritical. I just see the unfairness that goes on towards men, too. I think that's just wrong and nobody thinks that it's nothing. And I didn't want to be that way, so I change my ways. I became a non-feminist.

I am a humanitarian and fight against feminist (the hypocrisy part of it) because I believe in equality towards all people in all types of situations. Pretty much, I see both sides of the story before I make my statement. Plus, I believe that men and women can act anyway they want as long as they aren't hurting anybody's feelings. I fight for women's right and men's rights.

Answer 4

I was raised that women could be anything they want to be and do anything they want to do and deserve to be treated fairly and that marriage should be a partnership with both spouses sharing housework and childcare. I also was kind of indoctrinated by society that because a woman is allowed to work outside the home she is expected to do so and any woman who stays at home to raise her kids lacks ambition.

Unfortunately, I learned the hard way that some of this is an ideal and not a reality. In most families, even when both spouses work, the woman still does the majority of housework and childcare. Women will never be able to go out after dark with the same care-free attitude that men have. And stay-at-home moms may lack a certain career ambition but that does not mean that they don't have lots of ambition for the kind of children they want to raise. They just have different priorities.

For the most part I consider myself a feminist, but a more conservative one. I think it is more important to secure financial, material, and emotional support for single, pregnant women than to secure the right to abortion with absolutely no limitation. I believe that a woman needs to be able to take care of herself and find a man who has and does take care of himself. There are too many men who want a mommy rather than a partner. A woman should be allowed to do anything a man is allowed to do, but that doesn't necessarily mean she should choose to or be forced to do so.

Answer 5

I used to be strictly feminist(should I say feminazi?) and believed that all men were good for nothing and that they deserved to be walked over in everything, but then I met a wonderful man(Italian), had 3 sons, learnt a bit more about what men and boys go through- the high suicide rate amongst male teens and men and the fact in some instances they're not given a fair go and I thought that chauvenism in males was terrible once, but how is being a feminazi that's doing to men what was done to us women is any better?

So now, I'm trying to see both sides of the story and have tried to listen to mens point of view a bit more and have come to realise that men are really no different than us, except in the physical sense and they deserve respect and consideration too. I think it's a self journey for me anyway or maybe I've softened up alot as I've become older.

Answer 6

Great question!

I NEVER understood why we should discrimminate based on sex, or any other classification for that matter.

There are so many different feminist theories, and I admit, some are very anti-male. And, although women have been subjugated for thousands of years, what many do not realize is that men have also been subjugated. Our culture indicates to men that they must hide and ignore any traits within them that might be looked upon as a 'female' trait. Many men grow up with these machismo stereotypes, and end up ignoring half of themselves. I believe that each individual has what is considered both male and female traits. When we block off one side of ourselves, we end up only knowing half of ourselves.

This is a serious issue for men, as our culture expects them to curtail their emotional side. This issues causes incredible stress for men, for they do have emotions, which need to be released, just as women do. The emotional emptiness of some men cause health issues, and definitely relationship issues, both personal and in the workplace.

I believe that many people think that feminism means that men and women are exactly the same, mentally and physically. And, as we know, this is not the case. The core premise of feminism was to remove the discrimmination based on sex. Being treated equally, without discrimmination, doesn't mean that men and women are the same, it means that we do not judge someone based on their sex, but on their contribution.

Feminism is also about freedom of choice....the freedom of a woman to choose to be a mother, a wife, a banker or high level business executive. And, to extend this freedom of choice to men as well........our choices should reflect our abilities and talents, and should not be based on our sex.

Answer 7

Oooh, I just have to come in here after reading the title.

Ah, I was hoping for something a little more exciting.

Humanitarian
"HOW did you arrive at this place in life?"
I don't know really, it seems like the right thing to be. Morally apt, is it not?

"were you brought up with these beleifs?"
Conversations regarding equality were rather non-existant in my family during maturation and still are. So, no, or maybe. It was never suggested to not be fair and right. Moral values were always important, it simply never referenced sex specific rights.

Does it matter my sex? Am I still allowed to answer?

Answer 8

I'm a Feminist and Humanitarian.
I grew up in a very mobile Military family.
Because much of my upbringing was in the South, I was sensitized to race issues early on.
I also had weird relatives-laugh here-- who inadvertently taught me loads about tolerance and diversity.
I am female identified and straight. This means that I prefer the company of females, but my sexual orientation is heterosexual. I also have male relatives and friends.
I was always interested in what my true role as a female was and how I could get the same respect, care and rights as males.
Dad was a Military Police Officer and ran a tight squad at home, as well as at the base.
My Mother was a very "Blanche Dubois" sort of Southern Bell, but she came from a long line of very independent and proud women. Mom just didn't get the genes for that, I guess.
I didn't have a clear idea of what I wanted to be when I grew up, but I darn sure knew what I didn't want to be. lol
All these factors helped me form the philosophy of life I have today.
Good luck

Answer 9

I am a humanitarian if that makes me a feminist, ok. Feminism for me is a humanitarian part of social science.

Why?

1- I was born in an extremely macho country
2- Most of my male friends are homosexuals, and I have seen the abuse and lack of respect to them
3- My best friend is a lesbian, going through a rough time, because where she lives
4- I have lived in several countries and in some of them things are not better for women
5- I plainly hate abuse to ANY group of people

p.s. Hope this was a serious question. Because for me this is a serious subject

Answer 10

I grew up realizing that women have to be responsible for their own actions. Getting their own education and their own job. If you say I will marry a man for his money. You will earn every penny. The self respect you get knowing you can make it on your own and you are supporting yourself is it's own best reward. He can't come home and make you feel after having two kids I can't leave no matter what he does. I will be his door mat for the children for my self because I am scared I can't support myself. Even if he hits me I just have to do better and mind him better. Life is to short for that kind of treatment. Grow up and realize when two of you lay down only one gets pregnant you! Go straight to the Dr. planned parenthood or where ever and get on the pill.
Having a baby is like trying to make it with a lead weight on both feet. Wait until you can afford this child if he leaves.
Put up with him until it is in school. [5 years]
You are not a dog that needs a liter of pups.
It for you is a life time commitment.

Answer 11

I consider myself a feminist. I've always been one, but I started taking it seriously about a year ago. I started losing interest in having a family life, and I figured that feminism would be the doctrine most open to voluntary singlehood and childlessness.

EDIT: I say we keep the guys around for our little sexy party. They can just sit and listen to us.