My friend just called me & he picked up the phone saying that I wasn't home. When I looked in the caller I.D. menu, it showed her number. I picked up the phone to call her back but he told me to put it back in the reciever. He has been always like this, it was enough for my sister to place a restraining order over him. My oldest brother even resents him for past things that he has done to him. Both of my parents are complete air heads when it comes to being a parent. But it is easier to talk with mom rather than dad though she ignores everything unpleasing in her life. I think the way my dad has pushing me, he thinks I will turn out like my sister & block him out of my life. But I know that I won't because sometimes he just doesn't know what he is doing. My dad use to hit us but stopped a long time ago. Though he doesn't use physical abuse, he uses emotional abuse. A few days ago he told me to call my friend a bi*tch because she called the house so many times.I am 15 y.o. by the way.
2007-06-09 06:51:53 · 11 answers · asked by JustMe♥. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately you are only 15. I would suggest you squirrel away as much money as you can in the next 3 years so that you can move out when you are 18. Until then (and I know this will be difficult) try to keep the peace so that you keep your sanity. Avoid confrontation with him knowing that one day you can move out and live your life your way.
Emotional abuse leaves its scars also, they just can't always be seen, take care of yourself and protect yourself.
Sorry to be so blunt but he has not learned from his mistakes with your older siblings and neither did your mom.
2007-06-09 06:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by loving_life 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ooo. I'm really sorry your dad is like that. He is a bad influence on you if he is telling you to do stuff like that. Try to remain a happy and hopeful person despite how he acts with you. He probably love you a lot but obviously lacks any parenting skills and has a very bad way of showing it. You should be upfront, firm, and yet polite with your dad. If he has stopped hitting you guys, then he is probably TRYING to be an okay parent. Tell him that you are smart and mature and don't need him to have this iron grip on your life and that it will only frustrate you and make your life harder. Good luck, even if he does not understand, as long as you're mature and good, just wait until you can move out.
2007-06-09 06:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try building a relationship with him, but if it doesn't work, than you should just ignore him. block him out of your system. Tell him what you really want from him. If nothing happens and he still keeps treating you like this, you could do what your sister did or save up all your money and leave and go somewhere else. If you chose to leave, read a note and tell them why you left, they may regret treating you like that. Then, after weeks or a few months, go back. You could see their reaction and maybe they'll change. I'm guessing you've been put through a lot. Hope you get things straightened out!
2007-06-09 07:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by CountOnMe:) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's an abuser and your mom is an enabler. Either one will mess you up in the end. Seek professional help. I know it sounds lame, but do a hotline search and see if you can find one that will tell you what you can do based on where you live and what programs are available to you at your age. All I know, from what I just read, is that you need help right now. Good Luck
2007-06-09 07:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
boy, that's a lot of stuff you're going through you need to get your dad some help like a counselor. or you could go talk to yours at school they can always listen to your problems they're always there if you need them. you have a lot on your plate so to speak. what is his problem a girl cannot like you he is an airhead big time. i'm five years ahead of you,and i have a little more freedom than you I can talk on the phone with my friends and relatives and my aunt is a little overprotective of me but she doesn't smother me because she does get to meet most of my friends that i have so what is your dad damage that he's so uptight of you having a girlfriend or a friend that is a girl that you have a platonic relationship with if you catch my drift. your dad just have accept that you're not a little kid anymore and you're getting older and girls are going to like you and it's of his business.
I hope you don't give him a restraining order.
2007-06-09 08:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug18ju 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do have a way out. It's called "emancipation of minors". I am giving you links for more information. I was a foster parent for many years, and I helped teens who were in similar homes.
2007-06-09 07:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am very sorry you have to live this way. Make sure you graduate honey, because you should move out as soon as you become 18. I'm sure it will be easier to talk to him when you are moved out and have your own life!
2007-06-09 07:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Marie Jane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to get a life of his own, i bet he has no friends to call him, you need to babysit and buy a cell phone and call her from your room, and get a lock for your door, plan to move out and ignore him in your life. he was VERY immature telling you to call her names.
2007-06-09 07:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your dad in the military or is he just a pig? I would be running away. He is evil.
2007-06-09 06:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him precisely what you purely informed us. that once you're actually not aloud to do issues it basically makes them extra tempting and you does not comprehend them if he basically permit you watch nicely-known television. that sucks. sturdy success
2016-11-09 22:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by sanzotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋