2007-06-09 05:47:39 · 15 answers · asked by psmom2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He didn't care about me. If I was not introuduced by a friend to him . He would never know me . He told his friends about me because he wanted to show off he has a well being girl.To speak the truth , I will not feel sorry if he is dead. He is too bad. When I asked him to save the money for future use he said it is my own money and it is none your business . Then I asked him what will he do if he spends all his money . He said that I should pay for him." I told him that my husband doesn't like him and won't give him money. He told me to ask my mom.I wonder why he dares say that.
2007-06-09 06:20:53 · update #1
I am not living in his country. But I know many friends there who knows I am his daughter. If I am poor I think things will be easy. I can afford but I just unwilling to spend that money. He doesn't deserve to be treated so good. I would rather spend that money by helping those poor children in the undeveloped country.
2007-06-09 06:32:21 · update #2
The bitterness that you have towards your Father will not allow you to spend any money on him. For one thing for sure, he may be your father but you don't recognize him either. You seem to put money above everything. Don't ever let money be your lord and savior be cause money will ruin your morally if you improperly use it. The decision is yours what to help him or not. Anybody Else's opinion is really uneventful. Good Luck. After all he is a human being isn't he? Would you help a homeless person if he was down and out? You don't know him either, but if someone is in peril and dying need. You would help them, I'm sure. Repayment is not necessary nor is the reason why you aided a fellow person.
2007-06-09 10:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was watching a talk show recently and a certain celebrity was being interviewed she had gone through somethings in her pass. She said something that touched me she said I blamed my mother for nothing but i forgave her for everything.Maybe he didn't know any better. It seems that in spite of how he treated you and your mom you turned out pretty good with a compassionate heart or you would not be asking for advise you would go ahead and let him suffer without caring what anyone thinks. Helping someone can be more rewarding to the person who is doing the helping. forgiving him can and will help you move on to the next level in your life. Do not be weary of doing good. It is not what he did to you in the pass that really matters now it is what you are going to do about the situation so that you can maintain your dignity and integrity. Ask for divine guidance in this matter. Gods ears is always open He is the father that gives unconditionally. No you are not bad just human you have been hurt and is still hurting. Please don't blame yourself for feeling.
2016-05-20 23:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "father" is someone who actually cares about his child's well being and shows it through love, support, guidance, discipline, etc. He has not earned the title of "Father." He is your sperm donor. Remember that. Instead, give back to those in your life who show an interest in you and you will feel more fulfilled. Let him face the consequences for the decisions he made in his life. We reap what we sow. Madame Chiang Kai-shek once wrote: "If the past has taught us anything it is that every cause brings its effect, every action has a consequence...unceasingly, life keeps books on us all. In the end, we are all the sum total of our actions...day by day, we write our own destiny; for inexorably...we become what we do." He made his life, let it be. You have no obligation to him at all. To comment on others who have said "Well, he is a human being and he needs help so..." We can only give so much to help others. When you do help others, be sure that the individual receiving the help is worthy and who will take your help to make themselves and the world a better place. Otherwise, your just wasting your time, energy and money. You become an enabler. There's plenty of programs to help those who don't appreciate help.
2007-06-09 06:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by microwaved-brain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a father, he wasn't responsible to his child. That child grew up one day asking around if he/she should responsible for this father who hasn't spent a cent on his/her upbringing. No one can fault you if your answer is negative. The person who brought you up must have imparted good values in you otherwise you wouldn't be confused and seeking opinions over here, you would have ignore this father without second considerations. I think you have already reserved a special space in your heart for him since young. Whatever, I hope something good will come out from your decisions. Say, something for you to Live and Tell to your grandchildren.
God bless you, dear.
2007-06-09 06:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well how do you feel about it. Do you want to help your father? If so, then go ahead.
Otherwise, I would say "heck no" on my part. If my father did not watch me grow up and take care of my every way that a father should, I would owe him $0.00!
2007-06-09 05:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - save your money for grammar classes...
seriously, this is a choice you have to make for yourself...do you consider him your dad, what was your relationship like besides the money? was he incapable of spending money on you or just refused to? did he offer anything of value to you that is not money - like love or guidance? does he fit your definition of father? and if you are angry about it all - do you want to turn into him by following in his footsteps and not caring for your family? how will you feel about your decision when he is dead?
2007-06-09 05:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if you're asking a legal or moral question. But only you can answer if it's a moral question. Do what feels right to you. We can't make this decision for you.
2007-06-09 05:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, let him die a lonley old man.
He made that choice when he decided to have nothing to do with you from your birth.
Don't give in to him or you'll be the sucker.
Life's a *****. Let him experience this for himself.
2007-06-09 05:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by psycho_majic_666 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
he is your father after all.even if he hasn't spent a single cent on you if you would not responsible him then you will become like him.no matter what he has done in the past.its time for you to earn respect from others.
2007-06-09 05:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by nunkoo k 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Didnt i answer that already? Wasnt my answer good enough?
2007-06-09 05:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋