it's my first time ask her and i can't forget my gf she passed away since 3 years and i can't forger her what do you recommend ?
2007-06-09 03:38:15 · 15 answers · asked by Adviser 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband, the love of my life, died almost 2 years ago now so I do know how you feel. I will tell you a secret. You will never forget her. You do not forget, you learn how to live with it. It is a hard thing to say and even harder to do but you must let her go.
You need to live in today and not in the past. Let that go. Make peace with it in saying a final good bye. Make a last tour of all the special places. Listen to your song look at all the pictures, and then put them in a box int he back of the closet, put the memories in a box deep in your heart and DO NOT LOOK AT THEM AGAIN.
That 's right don't look back. You then need to start something new in your life. Get a hobby or a new one. Take up a musical instrument ( I have taken up the Navajo wind flute and I am so happy I did) Try painting but do something that you have not tried or mastered before, better if it is something that will allow you to express your feelings. Then you throw yourself into that and become the very best at it that you can be. Learn all there is too know about the thing you choose. Do it as often as you can. When you find yourself thinking of her, stop even if you have to pinch yourself but stop and think of something else. Start to do something for some one else volonteer at the foundling hospital, adopt a grandmother at a nearby home, offer unexpected help to family members anything that gets you thinking about others and not you and your loss.
It is a hard road and nothing will ever be the same again. You cannot change it so you must accept it. It will feel fake and phony at first and you will have to force yourself to do things and to change your thought but one day you will notice that you are not really faking it anymore and you have a new interest to help occupy you and fill the time in a positive way.
You will never forget your girl or the love you shared. It will always be with you and one day you will be able to open those put away boxes and look at the photos and memories with joy and not pain and they will be there for you. The pain does not go away but it does sink down to where you do not think about it and feel it every minute it will get better. Trust me, I know from sorry experience. Time is different for everyone but you will get there if you want to. I am so very sorry for your loss, I do know how you feel.
2007-06-09 03:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 77⤊ 2⤋
Forgetting her is not possible. Embrace the times that you had together. I think you said that she passed away, if I read the correctly...then she will send the right person your way. Love her very much. I keep a picture of my ex boyfriend in my home still. It is up on the wall. My new boyfriend understands and ever looks at it from time to time and smiles. It will take time to forget how truly hurt you are. Give it time though. Goofy as this sounds, sometimes its easier if you pretend they are there with you. Sit in your room and try listening. If you listen really hard sometimes you can hear what they want to tell you. I know that sounds weird...but I sat for 2 hours and just thought and listened. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2007-06-09 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you really Loved someone, why on earth would you want to forget them? If the memory's are painful, the only thing that will heal the pain is time. But for the love of God hang on to the good memory's as long as you can. Life is a continuous learning experience. Some good, some bad. But you should take from your experiences those things that help you to grow into a complete person. We, all of us, go through it. Your not alone!
2007-06-09 03:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by zekkmarshall 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
it will take time...and lots of it
when you love someone and they die, it is not a final thing...the love goes on, and should
you should not want to forget her...you should just want to move past the wanting her back
death is such a final thing, there is no 'closure'
i think that maybe you could go out more and see what else is out there...this old world has lots of women to offer, ones that could be patient with you while you try to get beyond this
just try to not talk about your girlfriend to the next woman...see what the new one is all about
no one says you have to jump right in there and find a new girl friend, but, sometimes just looking for a mate will help get over the loss of the last one...just try not to compare, there will NEVER be one just like her!
2007-06-09 03:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hello Friend..
At first,It is hard to you or to all of us to forget someone you really love so much..There is 2 answer for that 1 is someone you really love are your parents die or get deovice..2 is someone you really love that is your girlfriend or your boyfriend had a crushed on other person..my advice is we need to move along..your teacher hates you just because you got D- on your Biology Test or your friend keep bullying you..etc..but remember Friend,If you patience with all your friend..there is reward for you in the front..
Bye Friend..
2007-06-09 03:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by HamtaroFanaticSharifahAmani..... 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
very sorry about your loss. its hard enough if you lose a partner, let lone if he/she is not alive anymore. its hard, there is no simple magic way to just 'forget' that special someone. but im very sure you will feel for someone new in the future, BUT you will never forget your lost love. good luck in your future tho~ all the best to you :)
2007-06-09 03:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by rishi b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't try to forget her, if you think about her all the time that's only natural. the truth is you never will forget her. but if you hang in there one day, you'll only think about all the great times you two had together and then you'll find inner peace.
2007-06-09 03:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by buttercupbaby 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that. I guess you can't really erase someone from your memories, we are not computers. But we can always keep them in our heart and move on with our life. If you love them, you should live life to the fullest and perform your best in eveything so you won't disappoint them. Good luck!
2007-06-09 03:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by angel 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
do you really want to forget her? or do u just want to stop thinking about her? my answer is dont forget her, but find other hobbies that will get her off ur mind.
2007-06-09 03:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
time
2007-06-09 03:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by ashdav 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋