We both long hours and he works at nite and I work in the day time. I asked him when he got home in the AM and he told me it was not my business, and accused me of trying to control him. I was just trying to decide if he had enough sleep.
He gets calls all of the time on his cell phone while we are out and about and sometimes talks for 10 minutes and I was informed not to ask him who was on the other end because it was me trying to control him.
He accused me of reading his mail and going thru his belongings. His house is such a mess, I may have looked at something laying on the table like a catalog or advertisement , while I was sitting there, but not just to get into his mail
He says I am trying to control him. I think he is nuts! Where do you draw the line here? What is his problem?
There is so much more I could tell you, but not enough space here.
2007-06-09 01:36:15 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been together for 5 yrs coming up on 6.
I dont live with him and I own my own home and make a very good living. I think I am pretty successful, and he is allowed to call me anytime and ask me where I have been and what I am doing and what time I got off work and on and on and on. I am not allowed to do the same with him. Is it him or is it me?
2007-06-09 01:37:54 · update #1
It is him.
When he is saying that you are trying to control him, he is trying to control you.
Give it up and find a nice guy who cares about you and not about control.
I'm taken.
Sorry.
2007-06-09 01:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too secretive, something (or someone) else is going on. Secrecy after five years? Wake up and move on. He's not there for you now, he won't be in the future either. There are other men out there who would love to be with you. It's not about control, it's about you finding out what he's really doing. Just think, if you weren't in a relationship with him, you could become the girl he's talking to now and may involve you more into his life. Change is never easy. Good luck!
2007-06-09 08:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by floridagirl1261 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is accusing you of what he is guilty of. I don't think your controling but if you don't like not knowing whats going on with him than you probably won't last much longer. cuz i know from experience you just gotta go with it and trust and believe what he says or let him go cuz all you will end up doing is fighting!
2007-06-09 08:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start treating him the way he treats you. When he asks you questions get upset and tell him that he is being controlling. Not to play games with him but to show him how it feels.
2007-06-09 08:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately him from what youve said.its that whole "men can do what they want and wemen have to know their place." i had a couple boyfriends like that, but i did the whole "anything you can do, so can i." boy it drove them nuts, but it helps you figure out if they are the one for you or if your just wasting your time. the ones who really like you will stop acting like that and start treating you like an equal. good luck.
2007-06-09 08:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has something to hide. Why is he so paraniod about you going through his stuff. You should find out whats going on!....he sounds really weird
2007-06-09 08:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say one way or the other, but I would be safe.
2007-06-09 08:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by yo_dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes hiding sumthing to me...
2007-06-09 08:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by julie60988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really messed up, leave him.
2007-06-09 10:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, he's obviously guilty of something
2007-06-09 08:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋