Dating this guy for 1 1/2 yrs. Periodically he'll say he will call or he didn't hear the phone, he fell asleep, one Sunday he was taking to take his dog to a no kill shelter, didn't answer my 3 calls, said he had to push his broke down car 1/2 mile to his dads & got tired so he didn't call. We just got back together last week. Once he fell alseep didn't hear his phone & Thursday we were talking, he was cooking, said he would call back, next morning said his friends came over & didn't leave til 10:45pm. I don't mean to sound petty over a phone call but I am sick of the excuses & he is a drinker so I think he uses these excuses?? what would you do? For someone who just can't be w/out me has too many excuses.
2007-06-08 23:54:09 · 18 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1 1/2 year...i mean how often he calls, how often does it happen, the next time wen he gives excuse, does he call u and tells u, or is it u who calls, does it happen all the time, if it happens all the time then
he is making excuses, c one thing is sure he is not crazy after u now it depends on u , wheher u want to b with such guy or whether u can take up the chalenge of making him crazy i.e. only if u love him so much,
u have to talk to urself to settle all this issue, whether or not u trust him is the first and most important question, then u have to devide whether u want to b with a guy who is not so much into u, try talking to him about all this and then give ita break, if he misses u so much that he wants to b with u, then u can decide if u still have feeling for him, take ur time , just dont end it for the heck of it
2007-06-09 00:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person has no integrity, no responsibilities, not dependable.
What can I say: I lived for ten years in the Army: There were no excuses, excuses were a sign of weakness, if you had to have an excuse, you were out. You either took responsibilities for your actions or you weren't accepted.
My guess is he's not mature. If he's this way now, what's it going to be like later in life. Dump him and find someone more dependable, someone that is responsible and has integrity.
2007-06-09 00:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not!
You don't deserve to be treated in that manner and he has to know that!
If he is not responsible in keeping his promises at 1 1/2 years, how do you think would he behave toward you in say 5 to 10 years of being together?
2007-06-08 23:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by attyjudz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be that he's cheating or feels smothered
if he's cheating and you find out, get rid of that scumbag! if you take him back after he cheats & he knows you know he cheated.. he will just continue to cheat because he will think he can get away with it.
maybe he's not cheating though and just feels crowded~ guys like the chase and hunt of getting girls. if you are throwing yourself at him continuously, he will pull away. (i don't know if you are or not)
maybe don't call. when you hold back from guys, they want you more. but don't hold back too much or too long because then they will think you aren't interested and that will make them go the opposite way too.
that's what i would do. i wouldn't call and just wait for a sign or hint that he is missing me and then stop ignoring him. it has worked every time for me
2007-06-09 00:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by EasilyAmused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go get yourself that book "He's just not that into you," or something like that (can't remember the exact title), written by the writers from Sex & the City.
Action speaks louder than words. He may not be that into you and therefore he's not making every effort to show that he IS that into you. And don't you deserve something better? I would hold my head up high and ditch him knowing you can do (and deserve) better.
Good luck luv.
2007-06-09 00:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Brain Tickler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetely not. this might mean that he has another girlfriend already and doesnt care about you anymore. ask him why he is doing this to you and dont stand for any more excuses. if he still loves you, then why is he acting so ignorant?
2007-06-08 23:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Just Silleh*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instinct and do what is best for you. I have a feeling you already know the answer. Life is not a rehearsal.
2007-06-09 00:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has problems that he needs to get help for. I wouldn't count on him to call you anymore. Find someone who's attentive to you and your feelings.
2007-06-08 23:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by j b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him
He obviously doesnt care much about you.
He is waste of energy
2007-06-09 00:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rosy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do not call. it is an epidemic. its nationwide. i am not being silly either. they dont call. focus on something else. move on if he is a drinker though. when you find a non drinker, chances are good he wont call often either. :) its not you.
2007-06-08 23:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by becbrett@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋