I have been dating this guy for about 3 months ,he kept after me till I agreed to go out with him and then things really started to move really fast,we spend alot of time together he even lets me stay at his place while he is working.But I AM REALLY BROKEN FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS & VERY LITTLE FAITH IN MEN & ALWAYS THINK THEY have an agenda.Even with my crazy antics like leaving nasty notes on his door he still wants to see me.I want to pull back coz it easier to walk away then deal with getting hurt.Now i started pulling back tue have not called him. is 3 days long enough to say he dont want me no more.help mee HELP ME!!!!!!!
2007-06-08 22:54:46 · 18 answers · asked by latora_king 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
OH MY GOD!!! You sound so much like me!!! I used to have (and still a bit) the same problem, but you know all the guys are not the same... By the things that you wrote i can feel that he's into you, cuz if he had an agenda he would see you, like,
2-3 times a week and dump you when he gets what he wants and not be with you every day and even let you stay at his place. Please don't walk away!!! You might never see what happens. And maybe it turns out great!! Don't miss your chance to be happy, because of the fear of getting hurt. you know that saying: It's better to love andlost, than never love at all.
I was teriffied in the past, and still scared a bit, but i gave myself a chance and it's your turn now!
good luck and all the best...
2007-06-09 06:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not be as broken as you think cos if you were---it would have taken more than 3 months. I feel for ya-- cos there are some rotten folks out there-- men and women. But you gotta get ahold of your self. The nasty notes and crazy antics scream you need to speak to someone--and could possibly need medication. That is not a bad thing-- just reality. Save ya both some trouble and go to a doctor. You maybe alot happier with some counseling and medication.
This is only a suggestion. It may save your life-- you may pull some crazy antics with the wrong nut. I wish you luck.
2007-06-09 06:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve pulled out the "previously hurt girl pushing nice guy away" card. boys will only take so much before giving up.
Either you move on, get some councelling and try again with a new guy later or you ring this guy and tell him exactly how youre feeling.
Id say by the fact that he had to keep going after you for you to agree to go out with him then you probably arent that interested in him.
2007-06-09 06:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were "dateing" 4 3 months and you spent the nite at his pad alot then it seems you broke-up because of past bad relations and then put "nasty notes on his door" and he still wanted to see you despite your "crazy antics"but now you havent called him iin 3 days and now it seems ur wooried he dont wanna c u CATCH A CLUE GIRL go to him and appologize if that doesnt work then maybe is wasnt meant to be wish you both the best lol
2007-06-09 07:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by snafu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have been burned in the past doesnt mean you shouldnt give this guy a go... if he is genuine and treats your right, you can slow down the pace if thats whats concerning you.
However, if you dont want to be with him because you are incompatable, then just be honest and talk to him.
2007-06-09 06:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by insane_blue_eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm. I am really sorry, but it sounds like you are sending him totally mixed messages and he is getting tired of playing games with you. You are being mean to him, not communicating your needs/wants, etc... And now??? I guess that I just don't get the point of your question. If you want him in your life, then explain to him that you would like to take things a bit slower - then you have to stick with that! If you don't want him in your life, then don't call or return his phone calls.
2007-06-09 06:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what the hek is you question doing here? shouldn't you be asking in singles and dating? anyway, what is past is past you can't change it but to GENERALIZE that men always have this 'agenda' is another thing. you'd better do something about you hanging on to your past or you'll miss a lot of things and worse you'll live your life with this terrible resentment. but hey, do you like this guy?
2007-06-09 06:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mek of the MACHINE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 3 days is not enough, because most of men are vain and they don't show their love. If there is love between both of u then continue your relationship if one of u don't love the other just cut it.
2007-06-09 06:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are exhibiting classic symptoms of someone who is emotionally grieving over a relationship you lost. You are not ready to date yet. Be honest and he will understand.
2007-06-09 06:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a language section.
And it seems like you could use a lot of help in improving your English, too.
So why don't you concentrate on education, first and worry about romance later?
2007-06-09 21:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by russiancatsima 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋