How would you react if your well behaved 17 year old daughter told you she is a COCAINE addict?

Question

What would you do about it?

I'm not a parent, I'm the daughter... I want to tell my parents and get help, but I'm scared to death to do that... I only started doing it a couple months ago but I'm so addicted and I want to quit...

Does anyone have advice on how to tell them?

(and by well behaved, I mean I'm home by curfew, I'm polite, I dont drink, I do fairly well in school, etc)

Answer 1

I'd probably flagellate myself for being so blind that I didn't see it. In this case, you should flagellate that parent and step on his/her rose colored glasses. How stupid can a parent be not to see something like that? That parent wins the numbskull of the year award.

There's only one thing to do to the daughter. Beat the holy living crap out of her and say you had to do it to calm her down from a cocaine episode. Then, check her *** into a clinic and say you will erase her *** if she doesn't see it through. Afterwards, make up with her and help her find God., and explain you did it all to save her.

In the very end the parent should really think about why he/she didn't see the signs. I think the parent has the problem here and should check their own self into a rehab clinic. How absentee does a parent have to be to miss this kind of thing?

Answer 2

I'd wake up- how is your 17 year old "well behaved" if she's a cocaine addict? You're missing something here...
your daughter needs some help, and so do you... maybe see if there is a drug counseling center in your area, or even one that's not in your area that she can go to. I'm sure they have counseling available for the families as well. Good luck~


I checked back and see your addition. You're not well behaved, and you obviously need to talk to your parents about your double life. Just tell them the truth. Don't lie to them, you need to be completely honest so that they can help you with what's going on. I stress this because it seems you have a tendency to minimize what's really going on- saying that "you don't drink, you're home by curfew, etc."- does that really matter when what you do do, is cocaine? I don't think so. Maybe you could talk to an older sibling, and have them talk to your parents with you? Or a trusted, non addicted friend? Then you won't be able to back out of talking to your parents. You could also look into drug counseling centers in your area, and suggest to your parents that you could and should get help there. I think that they are in some denial, or way too absent from your life, to have not seen this, so you may need to lay out exactly what you need to do, rather than think that they'll provide it for you. I'm sure that being the adult in this situation, rather than get comfort as their daughter would be hard to do while dealing with your addiction, but you're obviously in a bad situation, please don't let it get worse- get help. Good luck~

Answer 3

You know your parents best. Don't mind the responses on here, people are going to automatically judge you based on your drug use. You are not a bad person because you tried a drug, a drug that feels good, and became dependent on it-- that is why drugs are a negative influence on your life and why people spend so much time trying to keep kids from getting involved with them. I've done various drugs, and at the same time kept great grades, been a good person and never became addicted. You acknowledging that you don't want to have it ruin your life and you want to stop shows that you are a responsible person who let a very powerful substance take control.

Don't judge this poor girl so harshly, shes trying to do the right thing. You are only going to scare her from seeking the assistance she needs and deserves.

When you approach your parents, make sure you tell them you know you made a mistake and thats why you are talking to them now. You want to get help, you are doing a good thing. Emphasize how you are sorry for betraying their trust, and that you're being honest now. You made a bad decision, thats how you learn... people who never make mistake don't ever really learn the lessons most valuable in life.

Answer 4

Good for you for making the choice to seek out help for your addiction and for admitting to yourself that you realize you are in trouble. Honestly I would check in your area to see if theres any rehab centers or support groups in your area. If there is...call them (you could always do it anonymously just to get advice) and see what they say. I can tell you right now that if you are a "good kid" this may hit your parents pretty hard. There is support for the parents too. Maybe if you have a relative or family friend or someone from your school like a teacher or counselor, they could be there for support of them. I can say that if you do talk to a school counselor or teacher, they will be very proud of you for stepping up and taking the responsibility back in your life before the problem gets way out of control. They will help you!

Answer 5

A. Pray for Guidence from GOD.

B. tell her that hard drugs are for lowlifes, not her, but that if she keeps it up she too will one day be a lowlife. Tell her that the feeling it gives her is the same feeling that she would get naturally from a good physical fitness regimen or a sport but that exercise does her good and cocaine destroys you. Show her before and after pictures of junkies on the internet.

C. Tell her that you love her and that you need her to be clean and healthy for you and for all the people that will rely on her in her life.

Answer 6

Maybe you work too much. Your daughter wouldn't be "well behaved" and addicted to cocaine. You should have noticed alot sooner than you did.

Lets see, I personally would take her down to the police station to talk with some of my buddies. Here at the PD, where I work, we have pictures of age progressions relating to a drug user. I'd have the officers show her them, talk to her about the legal repercussions of drug usage, and show her the jail cell she'd be staying in-if she got caught. It would be tough love but I believe it would work. Then I'd send her to a rehab and let her know that the entire family is 110% behind her and we know she can succeed.

Answer 7

first i will always keep a eye on my kids bcz i wudnt want them to hang around any kind of ppl that does cocaine. second i would give her an old school beating and third i would put her in an extreme strict rehab.

Answer 8

First it would break my heart. I'd cry. I'd blame myself. I'd go to substance abuse meetings trying to find out how these addicts got off their drugs. Then I'd look very, very, hard to try and find a way to help her out of this problem. And then I might realize that she has to do it herself. This could take me more then a year. And that's what I actually did when I found out my daughter was on drugs. I wish you well.

Answer 9

If my daughter told me this I would cry!!!! I am glad you are going to tell them and they will be to. What would I do.....I would support you and would be there for you during withdrawals. I would love you and at the end I would be so proud of you and would be glad knowing that you trusted me enough to have me look after you.

Answer 10

welll i dnt really know i think i would speak with a specialist about this kind of stuff make sure she dose not spend any time on the phone or with her friends coz i am sure they introduced her to cocaine....... and sweet heart i am sure if she said a well beahved then she is because teenagers forget everything they were taught when they have bad friends and i wish u best of luck