He talked for 10 hours last night, then we cuddled. I think it's sweet that he can tell me everything but honestly thats not what he's for. He knows this, we've been "buddies" for years but lately he's changing. He calls just to talk, he's around just to be around, if I have plans he gets upset, and he got me a birthday gift ( for the first time in 6 years)
This was originaly a NSA (no strings attached) arrangement and nothing on my end has changed except I'm losing interest.
I asked a couple of other females that he dealt with how he was with them, they all say cold & nonchalant. No cuddling, no kissing, no conversation, no emotion.I've seen him cry several times, he greets me with a kiss, he took me to his family reunion ( I probaly shouldn't have gone). Isn't he wrong for expecting more from me? We had an agreement. Should I end it ? What would you do?
2007-06-08 19:23:05 · 8 answers · asked by Still*Perfect 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to break his heart. = (
but I don't want to be his "girlfriend"?
Can't it just be like it used to be?
2007-06-08 19:29:11 · update #1
He has very strong feelings for you. If you don't feel the same way you need to tell him ASAP. It may ruin what you have, but you cannot go down a path that you feel has no future for you.
2007-06-08 22:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ending it just because of the agreement you had would not be wise. It depends on how you feel about him. If you like this person and you can see something happening between both of you then you should think about it before you let go. In case you are not interested and still want to stick to your arrangement which you had, then you should clear it with him and let him know that you would not want to take this to the next level. If he still shows interest, well then just enjoy the attention you are getting since you have already cleared it from your side.
2007-06-09 02:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by All Aces 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other women dream of guys like this. Ultimatley its your call weither you end it or not, but you may regret it later in life when you want to find someone who actually cares about you and wants to stay with you, and all you can do is think back about something you could have had. I know its hard to imagine yourself differently, but thats the best way to think about things. With an open mind.
But to answer your question: He Loves you.
And to answer your comments: I dont think it can go back to the way it was. He crossed the line of casual relationship and love. There is no turning back.
2007-06-09 02:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by ZERO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am guessing that you are sexually involved since there is a (nsa) relationship between you, but sex comes with a lot of emotions and it sounds like he is/has fallen in love with you. If this isn't what you want then i would start backing off slowly so he doesn't get too hurt
2007-06-09 02:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's gotten serious. You'd be cruel expecting him to pretend not to care or show it while being with you from now on. Best to distance the relationship before things really get out of hand and he asks you something 'really' serious. Don't be selfish.
2007-06-09 02:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by IncognitoGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously sees you as a partner. If you don't feel the same way you have to be honest with him and tell him you can't see him anymore. And you can't have your cake and eat it too with this issue, you either have to be ready to commit 100% to loving him, or break his heart and move on.
2007-06-09 02:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it looks like he has developed deep feelings for you. if you are unable to return those feelings, be sure he understands. you should cool it if you don't want him to get hurt more than he will be. be honest with yourself too. make sure this isn't something you might want somewhere down the road. if it is, then you re-negotiate the agreement.
2007-06-09 02:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by TLC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Smily Guy...
Yes, u shud tell him. u'l hurt him by not telling him... be honest..
2007-06-09 02:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋