Slept with him too soon. What do you think he is thinking now?

Question

Well I already know that I gave in too soon and now I have to deal with it. Actually I should mention that it was more than on one occasion. I'm also a sweet girl and at first he seemed like he really liked me (while we were intimate) it's been a week and now it died. The sex is still there and its good but it seems like that's all it is. Can I regain what I lost. The good girl image. At least a little bit. How do I do so?

Thank you for your answers. Keep 'em comming.
What I meant by image is that I am not a slut and I made a mistake and I want to get it back.

Answer 1

Put your sweats on and run out to the book store get this book and live by it and you will turn things around!
The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein (Author)

Also while you're at the book store....find the book "Getting to I do" by Dr. Patricia Allen. Stay there until you've read all of chapter 10, page 121 is where it starts, but first read page 139 under the heading "If you are already having casual sex".

You didn't say how old you are but if you are 25 or older try this book to: What men want by Gerstman, Pizzo and Seldes

I lived by these books and they got me through some tough calls!!! You can also look them up on the internet if you want more info now. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well...

That is how guys pull you in...sweet words, promises, tender touches, professions of love that are empty, and then, you give in.

That trap has been laid by men since the fall of Adam and we women still fall into it every time believing that this time it will be different...HE'S different. (Oh Brother!)

There is nothing you can do to have whatever you had with "Mr. Wonderful and Suddenly Cold"; you messed that up by having sex with him. You are no longer a challenge. You have been conquered and now are just a steady piece of tail until something else comes along...and about that...how can the sex be good when you feel like a used towel after it's over and he does not want to chat or have anything to do with you??? And to answer your question...if it seems that all your relationship is based on is sex, you are probably right! (Stop having sex with him to 100% test this theory...I bet ya he runs like roaches when the light is turned on!)

The way the male mind works is a simple yet confusing piece of grey matter. They are what they are; that is why women need to wise up and catch a clue...if he really cares he can wait and show in his waiting how sincere he really is. We women have seemed to forgotten, we control whether he can use us or not. Unless he rapes us, a guy is not able to go any further unless we allow it. Women have the power of sex, not men...regain control! I guarantee, if more women would catch the understanding of control of the "poodie" and make these men wait, we would probably get a better quality of men out there...unitl then we will continue to have the CRAP that our lack of control produces!!!

ANYWAY...about your reputation as a good girl is dependent upon how you carry and conduct yourself. There is NOTHING you can do to thwarth off his locker room conversations about you twos sexual escapades in the gym locker room or how his guy friends choose view you...the only thing you can do is conduct yourself as a lady and move on from that point and not fall into the trap of thinking that sex is a way of keeping or showing your "love" to some guy.

Put your pleasure cave on lock-down and move on!

Answer 3

Is what HE thinks of you that important? If it is, then ok, what he is thinking right now depends on his own morals/standards. Cause its different with everyone.
Generally though, if sex is all that's left at this point, then that's probably all he wants from you. Not that that's bad, in my opinion. But if you really care about your image with him, then I'd say it's too late to get the good girl image back.
Just try and remember, it's a double standard that a guy can sleep around, no problem, but if a girl does....it shoudn't be any different!

Answer 4

All you care about is your image?

It's time to accept that pretending to be something you're not isn't going to get you anywhere. If you're the kind of girl who sleeps with a guy before you've established a commitment, then what kind of image do you think you deserve? If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck...

Sorry to be harsh but that's how I see it. If you want to portray a certain image then you have to LIVE that image. And think about worrying about more important things in life than your image.

Answer 5

It depends what type of guy he is. Does he really like you or was he just interested in sex? If it was only sex, learn from your mistakes and move on so it doesn't happen next time. If he actually likes you and is a nice guy, talk to him and tell him you want to start from the beginning again and really "date". Tell him you liked him but you moved things forward too quickly and want to get to know him better. If he is actually interested in you and not just the sex he should be willing to do this..

Answer 6

Its your body close the gate to the garden. Let him know you have a good head for things not carnal in nature. Ask that it be Your decission not his whining whim that makes it a special occasion and the intr+++ is for those times not to wipe his feet on your rug and handle your merchandise with out a howdy dooo!
We all like the result of intimacy.... but it can be VERY interesting To Try It with your pants (ies)on. Try Orgasms while 'standing' in a public place stradle his leg,,, or a little handsy in the pansy while talking to MOM on the phone in front of his people. let him drive down the street With a smile on his face and looks like he's all alone, Put on a L.o.n.g pearley bead necklace on one shoulder run it under clothing =~= between your legs for a weggie effect and let him roll your OHos for you in a busy shopping mall. Its putting the Date Fun back in a shack job loveaffair. NEVER let him know when he is going to SCORE on you, Keep him at Third base till the Moment You want him to slide home under the bUUtter. batter?

Answer 7

You fall into his "girls I've had" category.

I don't know . . . If it is meant to be these things feel right and they fall into place.

If it is not meant to be, they feel uncomfortable. Go with your feelings. Maybe next time around keep some distance . . .

Being sweet has nothing to do with sex, you can still be a sweet girl and have all the sex you want. The question is if he respects you. These things are so tricky . . .

Answer 8

I agree with mom in love. ya gotta turn the heat down. Guys can be dickwads when it comes to stuff like that. Even the sweetest smile can conceal a desire for hoochie hoochie...to regain the good girl image, just be a "good girl"...telling him it was too soon, saying you don't wanna rush it that it was perhaps a mistake (although that may turn him off and his liking you may decrease dramatically)

Answer 9

Don't worry about your image. As long as you're a good person who cares what others think. F' them.
He's probably in it for the "convenience" and not for the relationship. So if that's OK with you fine, if not dump him and move on. Learn from the experience and be better prepared for the next.

Answer 10

Easy don't lay down don't be anywhere you might lower your guard and just talk and hold hands and if he is not interested than I am sorry and don't let it bother you too much but really wait the next time and get to really know each other more before going to the next step