Hi there, I have a girl friend whom i met online. i help her in may ways...our online chats, sms msgs , phone talks were since 6 months, She infact saw my picture, but i could not see her. Now she says , she is in love with me, never somuch about any other guy, she wants to share her entire life with me, she say that she want to come to see me in couple of days, but i like her as friend , not as patner, how should i tell her when she meet me in person ?
2007-06-08 19:04:02 · 6 answers · asked by vinnu5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her BEFORE she comes to meet you. Honesty is the best policy and if she's wanting to marry you before she has met you than I suspect she has some issues. I met my husband on line and we dated almost 2 years before we got married. I don't believe love is something you can feel for word on a computer and a voice over a phone. It is more like infatuation with the idea of being in love. You have to meet the person to truly know how they are. Maybe you eat with your mouth full, never pick up your underwear, or snort when you laugh. Not life-shattering traits, but traits that can still drive a person crazy if you are married to them.
2007-06-08 19:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mikki Sue71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on line now---Tell her she has went way overboard with the love stuff, she is a big romantic, and okay! But its an unwarranted crush of a huge magnitude and meeting on a weird basis is not acceptable. Say you accept her on line friendship but until she lands back down on the earth---- its not going to happen cause shes not living in the real world.
2007-06-09 02:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gads! No woman want's to come cross country expecting to see the love of her life only to see him and be told that he just wants to be FRIENDS! Do it on line. Tell her that you think that perhaps she misconstrued the relationship or that maybe you weren't clear enough......you really value her friendship but that's as far as it can go. Please end it soon with her before she delves further into her own relationship fantasy about you. You may want to consider ending this friendship though it might be the healthiest move you can make for her.
2007-06-09 02:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her before she comes all the way out to see you. It is better she knows what to expect when she gets there then to be let down and have her trip ruined. You should tell her that you are glad to have her as a friend and you are not seeking a relationship but would still like to meet her.
2007-06-09 02:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by dasgo404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is certainly wonderful but you aren't ready to make any kind of commitment yet. Also, you know only part of her and when she comes on like this it is frightening. Does she want you to honor her feelings? Fine...but is she willing to honor your feelings? Point out that a relationship cannot be based on honoring only one person's feelings. Who knows what will happen tomorrow...but for now, cool it. Good luck with this one. Better to have headed it off at the pass before now.
2007-06-09 02:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just got to let her know. But be gentle. Tell her its not her looks/personality but you just want to be friends. On the other way, you may also like to watch your language in future that might have led her to believe that the love feeling is mutual.
2007-06-09 02:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jcql 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋