I started working at Hooters to help pay off my student loans. My boyfriend of 7 months doesn't like it at all because he thinks it degrades woman and exposes them. The guys there look at me and make sexual comments and gestures toward me and my boyfriend absolutely is appalled by it. I tried to explain to him that I need the money for the loans but he thinks I should find a different job. What should I do?!?
2007-06-08 17:55:56 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's just your boyfriend, not your husband or your father. chances are he won't be around much longer anyway. keep the job. if it doesn't bother you, why should it bother him. i'm a waitress and have a uniform that is fully covering and have guys make passes and say thing all the time. it's not just that job.
2007-06-08 18:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hooters does degrade women and exploit them and you should find another job but until you do your boyfriend should understand and deal with it. Besides, tell him that all these other men fantasize about you but he gets to have the real deal all he wants. Tell him to have more faith in you, stop being insecure and make up for all the other guys who degrade her by worshipping you. Really, shouldn't it be kind of a turn on that you are a hooters girl. Some night jump him in your uniform for Hooters. The real propblem I think is that he is worried that one of the guys at work will win you over and he will lose you. That is something else you need to deal with.
2016-05-20 08:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is willing to help make up the difference and pay off your loans then do what makes him feel comfortable. If not, then perhaps you should tell him to keep his mouth shut.
Sure, it may be degrading but just remember if your "cleaning up" in the cash department, at the end of the day, you are the one who's laughing!
And a job with hooters could lead to all other types of oppurtunities! You could go on to do promotional work, be a customer service superstar etc....
Business is business! Dont let morals, emotions and personal issues get in the way of making an honest living! There are worse things you could be doing and im sure your boyfriend will get over his jealous behaviour if he really loves you!
Good luck!
2007-06-08 18:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen, it's a job. This guy has only been around 7 months. I personally would not work there for many of the reasons your boyfriend expressed.
It's nice that he has respect for women. But you want to pay off your loans and maybe need flexible hours to work while still going to school. If you can find a different job that works for you financially and academically, then go for it. But if this works for YOU then stay where you are and continue paying those loans off.
Either way, good luck.
2007-06-08 18:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's really just about the money--if you don't actually like the job better than anything else you think you could get into--then ask him to help you find a different job. Tell him what you'd be willing to do, what your qualifications are, and how often you're willing to go to interviews. He can read the want-ads, search online, help you network with your friends and family, his friends and family, etc., and maybe he could even make appointments for you.
After a while, either you'll have found a job you both like better for you, or one or both of you will be so sick of job-hunting that you'll stop.
2007-06-08 18:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel degraded and disrespected by working there, then continue. You're the one who has to deal with the comments and gestures on a daily basis. Make a deal with him that you will quit as soon as you pay off your loans.
2007-06-08 18:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by jacki lynn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of other jobs you could have gotten. can you really blame your boyfriend for being upset when strange men are hitting on you???
come on. be a little sympathetic. maybe while you work there your boyfriend can help you try to find another job.
if you guys can't compromise then maybe its a breaker-upper.
good luck
...ever hear of strippers saying "oh I just need the money to pay for school"
does that sound a little odd to you?
I'm like $30 000 in debt from school so I worked at the mall.
2007-06-08 18:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should change jobs, If I was him I wouldn't want my significant other working at Hooters. It does degrade women and a lot of perverted men are out there. I wouldn't want other men touching my significant other too! There are so many other jobs out there and I wouldn't recommend Hooters. If you care for him enough you should change jobs.
2007-06-08 18:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him completely. You shouldn't put yourself in a place where guys look at you like that! I understand that you need to pay off your student loans. Find another job!
2007-06-08 18:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Christi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a Hooters girl is one step above being a stripper. There's plenty of better jobs out there. But if you like to be looked at by creeps and talked to that way I guess it's your own business. But hey, you asked and you probably know that your BF is right. You just won't admit it to yourself.
2007-06-08 18:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No he is not over reacting.....what if he joined Chip n Dales For everyone who says they need the money there is alot more that do not see the money as a good excuse to put your self in this environment. Get two jobs just don't allow others to see you self your self image for a few bucks
2007-06-08 18:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by truely human 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋