2007-06-08 17:21:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If he's going for the money I would suggest you get a good damn job and let him live off of you. If he's going to support our country just let his dumb butt go and get yourself a real man that wants to be there for you and your kids if you have kids.
2007-06-08 17:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
HELLO!! It is his life not yours. YOU do not need to or want to join the Marines, so don't. Your boyfriend wants to and is going to with or without you. Just by asking this question you have proven to me that you are not fit to be a girlfriend or wife to a Marine or any other military guy. Tell him you can't do it and break up with him. He is doing what he needs to do with his life. You don't just happen into becoming a Marine. There is a lot at stake when you choose and they let you enlist as a Marine. He has something very strong inside of him telling him to do this, so let him and get off his back. A long distance relationship will not work anyway and you aren't in for the program. Don't ruin this for him by playing games and the poor me girlfriend thing. YOU need to get your own life. Go to college and make something of yourself. You are NOT him you are you. Yes it is going to hurt, but I bet you get over him really fast when you find a civilian guy willing to spend all his money on you, spend all his free time catering to you and doing whatever it is you want them to do. Your Marine boyfriend is not that guy. He's going to be a Marine and that stuff doesn't work with Marines. Semper Fi and leave him alone.
2007-06-09 00:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
I believe your bf is a big boy now so lets let him make his own decisions. Why don't you want him to join? Heck I would love to have a bf who is in the Marines. I never understood why people don't support other people who want to join the Military. Well if you try to discourage him from joining....I bet you won't be around much longer. Just support him thats all he wants!!!
2007-06-09 00:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ticked off American 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You don't do anything of the sort.
You give him a big kiss and tell him how proud you are of him. The night before he goes to the enlistment station, you take him to his favorite restaurant, then to a nice place where you and he can sit and talk, then you take him back to his place and hold hands and pray with him before he goes in for the night.
If for some reason the Marines decline to take him (it happens frequently), you encourage him to look at the other four branches.
If he wants plenty of action without having to go halfway around the world and live in the desert, suggest that he join the Coast Guard. What with intercepting contraband and rescuing the perishing, he will seldom have a dull moment.
2007-06-09 00:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
If he truly believes in the Marines there isn't anything you can do. Let him serve and stand behind him in his decision. I have a nephew, bother-in-law and son-in-law all serving and I support them completely. Even though I don't agree with all political decisions I support the Troupes all over the World
2007-06-09 10:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by bellslady65 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have some specific and RATIONAL reason for him not to go anywhere, then let him be the man he is meant to be. If that means the Marines, then so be it.
It's not for you to control--it's his.
I would never dream of telling my husband that he couldn't join.--In fact, when I met him in high school he knew what this was what he wanted to do with his life. I became pregnant, he had one more year of school to go. I convinced him that we needed to place our child for adoption so that this child could have a great life. There was no way I was going to try to force him to marry me, have this child, and have him give up his dream of being in the military. None.
You have to become very selfless to be a girlfriend or wife to someone who wants to be or already is in the military. You have to be independant, strong, resourceful. Not clingy.
He'll become resentful of you and your relationship will NOT be happy or last, I promise you that.
2007-06-09 00:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you have exactly ZERO right to demand anything of him in this regard. If you were married, I'd have a slightly different opinion, but only slightly.
you have NO right whatsoever to force him to choose between you and the military. if this is something that he wants to do, you have absolutely no right to tell he he can't.
How would YOU like it if he came home and told you he didn;t want you to go to college..or to work, or to volunteer at the SPCA? wouldn't you be ticked off at him for interfering in YOUR life and YOUR future?!
girlfriends come and go, but he will always have the Marines.
2007-06-09 07:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can't, it's his decision. i understand though why you don't but bottom line it's his life and his decision. you wouldn't want him telling you what to do with your life. it's obvious that you really care about him but the only thing you can really do is be supportive. let him know how you feel without it sounding like a demand and just listen to him, ask him why he wants to join and try to understand from his point of view. let him know why you feel the way you do. one thing for sure, when you get his address for basic write to him, you may not hear from him very much as they keep them very busy and they are lucky to get even an hour of personal time a day, which is usually used to shower etc. but keep writing, keep your letters positive and uplifting, send him supportive quotes or poems, pictures of home etc. the first few nights during basic is very difficult for any recruit, many really tough guys have been reduced to tears from missing their loved ones and the many changes they are going through. so just be there for him, be strong for him because he will need you.
2007-06-09 01:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by ?! 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just because he chose the military over you doesn't mean you have to try to compete against it nor stab-tosh his dream you heffer. You can't stop him, because it's his decision. BY the way-You won't be part of his life for lon,g I can guarantee it. It's people like you that should put a bag over you heads-for too may reasons to name, 1) being jealous because he is willing to die for this country and you're a coward and unpatriotic noob that won't -2)I'm surprised he hasn't told you how ashamed he is of you or surprised his family hasn't stepped in-you need to be ashamed of yourself. You give the rest of us a bad name. Heffer.
2007-06-09 02:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you posted this out of fear (for his life, what will happen to your relationship, etc) than you need to speak to HIM about it not us.
While I understand your fears about what your future might hold I can guarantee you it won't be dull!! Irritating, grating, hard, but never never dull!
Be proud of him for being a MAN who's willing to stand up for what he beleives and be there for him weather he washes out of boot or not! Support him in his dreams and make plans for yours while he's away. That's what real love is honey - not trying to get him to change his mind.
2007-06-09 09:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not want him to join the most feared and respected branch of the military? When he gets through boot camp he will be a strong and respectful MAN..........
2007-06-09 07:20:36 · answer #11 · answered by pgnprincess1212 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋