bored of boyfriends?

Question

is it abnormal to keep going in a cycle in which u only go out with guys u don't like, get bored of them, dump them, and find someone else in a week?
y am i getting so bored with my boyfriend after like...5 days?!?
its almost as if i like them until i get them....?!?!

yeah. im in highschool

Answer 1

because they easy...lol....basically if they was a challange to get afterwards they ain't no fun....you are still young and trying to figure out what you want...ain't no shame in playin the field my advice is to stop makin them your boyfriends and just make them take you out and then decide who you want

Answer 2

Simply enough, take some time off of the cycle, think about some deep, important stuff, define what love and relationships mean to you, and see if the cycle isn't broken.

From the sounds like it, you may just feel pressured by society to rush into a relationship and not remain single. Or perhaps you are afraid of beign available, maybe you just don't want a bunch of guys' attention. Despite the reason, you're making a mistake if you're just going to do this. What if you run into a guy who really cares about you, but he just becomes part of the cycle and you lose him forever, what then? I'm not sure whether or not it is abnormal, not personally having had a boyfriend, but I don't think this is particularly healthy for your emotional well being.

Answer 3

"it'salmost as if i like them until i get them".That is the crux of your problem. You seem not to want a long term relationship or commitment.Rather you enjoy the thrill of the chase, the adrenaline rush. You are what is called an adrenaline junkie.Plus,you don't see these guys as real people with real feelings and hearts that can be broken.I will go out on a limb and say that you are not very happy right now. There are serious and major issues in your life now complicating matters for you Which is why your serial dating is a bore.

Answer 4

I don't think your bored of your boyfriends i think your bored of what your doing because i think your hiding something from your self or more like in denial, in plain english you sound like you want a nice guy but you don't think your good enough for what ever the reason. this ain't gonna stop cause each time you break up in essence your regeneratiing what's called the honeymoon phase or courtship process people go through when they get married and once the thrill is gone then it's up to each other to make the marriage work not based on initial attraction but real love and caring for one another. It sounds like you went through a rough nurturing process when you were a baby, simply put, the hand that rocked your cradle also threw in a few kicks on the side, now your trying to find the missing peices that will fit your emotional puzzle . . .

Answer 5

What's going to happen when you run out of guys in your high school??

You should reconsider, why you find the need to be with so many different boyfriends. Try being their friend first, this way you both get to know if you are compatible. You may just be going through a phase, and hopefully you are not having sex yet.

Answer 6

Sounds like how I dated in H.S. are you a teenager?
If so you are only being smart, have fun and go out on dates not Date one guy after another
Go on group dates and have a rule up front that you can't date someone more than twice a month
If you have close girl friends you can all adopt the same dating rules and teach the boys your rules that they have to follow
take control

you are young , enjoy it to the max!!!

Answer 7

you need to re define boyfriend, five days isnt enough time to go out on more than a date or two, much less make any kind of commitment or choice. Lets call this playing the field, and chalk up some experience for when you get a real bf.

Answer 8

I understand what you mean, you should use that energy and find an interest out side of men. I went through a similar phase, I redirected that effort to myself. I got a better job and bought my own home, and when I wasn't looking a good man found me.

Answer 9

i really cant tell you why you feel that way but maybe your going out with the wrong guys you may need to lay off the boys for a while till you find someone that you really like then just befriends for a while and see how that works if you get bord of him while your friends then hes not the one

Answer 10

You seem to be onto something, humans naturally want what they can't have. And pleasure is about build up and release. For you the build up is the "chase" or being chased. The release is being obtained or obtaining, and then after that there is nothing. Luckily I'm like that about shoes, you have a bigger problem. Good luck.