Sometimes I wonder if I am the only one with this problem.?

Question

This has been going on a long time and it is ruining my life. I actually dread waking up in the morning as I feel so terrible - it is like I feel I can barely get up, sometimes I try to take various things to make me feel a bit normal. I am trying not to take any addictive things as they work really well to make me feel normal and I know I cannot go down that path (eg pills for pain)
Does anyone know of any substance that I could take to feel better. My husband cannot understand it as he is a very happy morning person and he wants us to do things early in the day.
Sometimes I actually feel like I might have to give up as each morning is such a struggle. I am on an anti-depressant (Celexa) and have been for a couple of years. I also take ativan for anxiety. PLEASE, any way you can help me get going without so much anguish in the morning and even feel better throughout the day, I would appreciate your help so very much. I am truly desperate and cannot get a doctor right now.

Answer 1

Can you go get your thyroid checked?
Anyway, I hate to get up in the morning. I try to fall back asleep after a full night of restful sleep but it just doesnt happen. I used to promise myself I'd take a nap. I dont take naps. At bedtime, I hate to go to bed. I have to make myself go to bed.
My husband is the same way as yours. And he's in bed before me at night also. He is respectful of my late mornings just as I am respectful as his early evenings.
Why dont you think of yourself as a night person and quit beating yourself up, instead of looking for a substance? Who says your husbands hours are the example of proper sleep habits?
If you are energized in the afternoon or evening then go with that and just do something creative and enjoyable during your quiet time. Write, read, or take up some craft you like.

Answer 2

I know you say you can't get to your doctor, but I sure would try. The celexa and ativan might be causing some of the problems. Both of those medications sometimes cause drowsiness. But DON'T stop taking them w/o consulting a doctor. Especially the antidepressant. Its also possible that your still depressed. If its been a couple of years your dosage may no longer be right for you. It could also be another kind of physical problem such as a vitamin deficit. Another problem, is exercise, fresh air, being active and all of those kinds of things make you feel a ton better, but when you feel like you do its very hard to get started w/them. You should try to set yourself small goals each day. Start w/telling yourself if you get up and go sit outside on the steps for 15mn. then you can take a nap. Do that all week, then the next week go for a short walk, keep upping the goal. I hope some of this info helps you. If you need anything else or just to talk, feel free to email me.

Answer 3

I've got three answers for you:

1. No, you're not the only one who feels that way. Relax, it can and will get better. You're asking the right questions.

2. Make sure you're doing all the lifestyle things you can to improve both your physical and mental health. A good, nutritious diet and even modest regular exercise can make a huge difference. Also, I cannot overstate the value of keeping a journal - what went well or poorly each day, what seems to trigger good or bad episodes, etc. It doesn't have to be War And Peace; a few sentences a day does the trick.

3. Sounds like you need to get your meds re-assessed. As you and your symptoms change, it may be necessary from time to time to adjust your meds accordingly. If money's the issue (can't afford a doc visit), check with your local community mental health provider. They usually can link you up with free, reduced-cost or sliding-scale cost mental health providers.

Answer 4

I went through the same thing. It was hard. If you can't get to a Doctor, talk to your druggist. I ended up going on Effexor and it helped a lot. You have to get the attitude that you live on this Earth, adjust !! So things aren't perfect, enjoy what is good and don't worry about things.You have heard " Don't sweat the small stuff." Well, it's all small stuff. When we are dead and gone, this old world will still be here for a long time. Relax and enjoy life. Do the best you can with things and remember, God is in controll. Go for a glider ride, go down the river on a raft, go cave exploring. You will see that God takes care of things. You will have to force yourself at first but do it. I listen to music a lot also.

Answer 5

You sound clinically depressed. that's a serious medical problem, with no easy answers. A combination of approaches can be helpful. It is likely a doctor gave you the prescriptions for the medication you are on. You are not getting the desired results from the meds. You need to change something. I do not know why you can't get to the doctor, it should be a priority. Some ideas Get meds changes, add counseling get couples counseling Don't give up things can get better!

Answer 6

I am not a morning person either, to start the day a good walk will get your blood flowing to your brain and any exercise releases endorphins (a chemical in your brain that makes you feel good). Taking a cool shower can help you feel refreshed. When I lie in bed and hit the snooze button for an hour i.e. weekends, I don't feel so good when I do get up. You might consider that your diet has a lot to do with how you feel: healthier foods like fruits do you better than.. say... doughnuts. Eating right with even a little exercise helps a lot.. if you still feel awefull do yourself a favor and make time for a doctors visit. Best of luck to you!
-Bob

Answer 7

I will say forthright I HATE MED FOR EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS!!!!! My mother was diagnosed with chronic deppression when I was 10. I was diagnosed at 17. I will tell you this. There is NO outside force, pills, a relationship, a new town, that will make you feel better. But there is hope. YOU have all the power to change how you feel. Now Im not going to act like its easy, it seems like everday I get caught up in life and forget that only I have the power to make me feel happy. And its not going to change over night. But dont exspect those pills to do a bit of good. They may calm the problem for a little while, (in my case only INVISION killing myself instead of Trying) but the real change the one that will stick is this: very simply CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK. You know those thoughts you have where you say "God you are such an idiot (insert name)!! why are you always messing things up!?!" well tell that stupid and mean voice to shut the hell up! Think about it, if someone was to speak to your husband or someone else you care about the way YOU speak to yourself, you wouldnt let it slide, would you? Try loving yourself enough to not say bad things to yourself. Try to forgive yourself, try to learn when you make mistakes to not chastise or punish yourself ( my mother liked to punish herself by not eating- very productive... IM SURE!) remember you are being the best "you" you can be and no one can be you exactly the way you are. And if you like to see the glass half empty, go stare at some flowers, they will show you something very important, and if you cant figure out what that is email me and I'll let you know. Plus I think someone who has been on meds as long as you doesnt even need a doctor you need a support group just like AA (they do have them) b/c you have a sadistic little addiction that you had no way of preventing, you are addicted to the sad hormones that you brain secretes, think about it.

Answer 8

Your biological clock just doesn't match your hubby's, and there's nothing wrong with that. I have the exact problem, too, and I don't care to sleep my morning away, so I take meds. I get up around 6am eat my pop-tarts and take Concerta and Effexor. Then I go back to bed. Within an hour or so, the meds kick in and I can't sleep anymore. I don't know if those meds are okay for your situation, but this is how I do it.

Answer 9

It's hard to understand exactly what your up against without more information. Do you get plenty of sleep every night. For some people it runs from 7 to 9 hours. If your aren't you may just be to tired to get up and moving. Could you try earlier bedtimes to adjust. An over the counter remedy for regulating sleep is Melatonin. Available anywhere in the vitamin section. Start with 1mg tablets, and follow directions from there to help you sleep. If you take to much, you'll have very vivid, bizarre dreams, and wake up groggy. So you can adjust very quickly. If these aren't the problem, speak with the doctor prescribing your current meds, maybe they need to adjust. It sounds more like a sleep problem to me. If you can just sleep earlier, you should feel more like waking and feeling more energetic earlier in the morning. Hope that gives you some help. Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

If you cannot get a doctor get a medical card or /and try visiting www.psychcentral.com it is a wonderful site that is so supportive! I also suggest when you feel that way think of some exciting things coming up. You can also hug your Husband and talk with him make sure you have a good relationship with him and you will feel better that you have someone to trust and go to when you are not feeling so well. Perhaps your medication is not working. Talk with a doctor and get them switched. Ask for Cymbalta, best of luck!
Here is a link to the Cymbalta website,
http://www.cymbalta.com/index.jsp

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