what type of emotional problems does someone have if they TALK TOO TOO MUCH??

Question

Constantly and ALL the time, our neighbor every single day seems like he can't get enough of talkin to everyone.
He's nice and all, however once he talks for hrs. and hrs. to me, then he goes across the street to talk to another neighbor for a long time, then he goes to yet another neighbor and chats w/them for hrs. as well.
Seems to have good manners, but isn't there a line between being social vs. some type of handicap [excessive talking beyond belief]?
Isn't a little more than him being afraid to be alone?
what is the matter exactly w/a person of this nature?
any therapists out there who could analyze a jibber junkie?

no he's not single he's married and I wish she was at home a lot more for the guy
even when she is home he's blabbing away like parrot
he's job isn't stressful he says he likes what he does/photographer

he said he was 34

I did learn something
I learned I highly value my privacy

he has a doggie already
[good suggestion 2 the guy who posted that]
but today I introduced PROJECTS for him to do which seemed to very much interest him/since he loves gardening so much and decided today to help me w/mine voluntarily
he decided to stop working later [instead of working on his own garden] got a beer and sat there jibbering away so anyway I suggested maybe he could make a jiant life-size topiary horse to put in his backyard
he loved the idea
I helped him it seems by telling him about all those dead tree trunks out back n his yard that he could start carving figures/planters outta them[since he said he likes carving]
hope he starts soon

Answer 1

It's about boundaries and filtering socially correct behavior.
I was this person one time and constantly reminded that I talk way to much and way to long. It took a while to get to the point where I examined what I was doing, and when I had the URGE to talk (yes it was an urge to identify and find associations with another person)... I made myself stay still and quiet and listened. Instead of trying to find a way to connect to a person where that person NOTICED.. I simply found and acknowledged it to myself ...kinda like and "Ive done that or like that also" moment.

But a person must learn to filter what is coming in and what is coming out. He may have ADD and those filters aren't working that great to begin with. So, if you stop him when he becomes obsessive with his speech. simply say I understand and ya know what... .we've discussed this before. It something most people learn when they are 4-5 and are asking questions that go on. They are looking for someone to notice them and point out something special about them. It's sad when a 34 year old man has to be taught that because he was never taught in a loving way to filter and respect boundaries.

Answer 2

How old is this person? It sounds like he needs a girlfriend or a multi-level marketing franchise. In all seriousness, it could be one of three things:
1. He's from somewhere where his behavior is normal (yes, really). Some people believe that's what neighbors are for.
2. He's really lonely....maybe he lost a relative recently.
3. He has a high-stress job and this is his way of unwinding.
4. He is making up for lost socialization time. He could have been working in Alaska the past five years and he is catching up.
Assuming for a second that he is crazy which, I don't think is the case, it is a free country. Let him be unless you really don't want to talk, humor him. You may actually learn something. If you don't have time tell him you are busy.

Answer 3

Some people that are bipolar (manic depressive) can be a motor mouth. It can be very draining to talk to them for extended periods of time.

You can research the symptoms in a book called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM-IV-TR Fourth Edition (Text Revision)

You will find all kinds of mental disorders in this book. It's really fascinating.

Answer 4

I know a lady EXACTLY like this tell you exactly what she told me:

She never married or had kids, so YES, lonely.
Talks 4 hours non-stop and you will NEVER get a word in if you tried.
She admits that she is selfish, and never wants to share with another person, and lives ALONE.
She gossips non-stop twists stories, gets into family business, and talks and talks. She wants to feel superior and usually people like this are very SELFISH, UNLOVED, DEPRESSED, AND WANT TO BE HEARD -- SOMETHING MENTAL. She needs meds though. She even admitted that she needs to go to a Psychiatrist.
After 4 hours of talking to me, God help her, yes.

Answer 5

Maybe his constant gibberish come from force of habit. You say he is a photographer? That's what photographers do all the time. When they take shots they talk to their customers all the time, specially to children, to make them feel at ease. At least, you have given him something to do, to be busy about - with his fingers and not his mouth. I hope it works. Good luck!

Answer 6

No it just sounds like she is very introverted. But if she does show signs of mood swings, Depression, fears and violent behavior it may also be a part of Bipolar.
Here is a link for you to read about Bipolar
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar.cfm

Answer 7

he could be lonely and needs company.my neighbor is single and he always talks to me and our other neighbors. maybe a talking parrot will help of even a dog.

Answer 8

People who talk too much are insecure. They think they are being extroverted, but they drive people away by such actions. I am sure they would benefit from therapy.

Answer 9

He's lonely and bored. Why doesn't everyone go buy him a dog to talk to.

Mexiville

Answer 10

Insecurity, over secure or they love the sound of their own voice.