I really like this guy and he used to like me. Then he started thinking about me like his little sister and started noticing my best friend. Now he feels like he has to protect me all the time and tries to set me up with his friends. He thinks I'm over him which I'm fine with because I don't want him to know that everytime I see him and my friend together I want to go crawl in a hole. I know I should be over him and I have tried so many times, but I can't!
2007-06-08 14:50:58 · 11 answers · asked by ¥Carrie¥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I liked him since before my friend. She spent most of her time telling me how ugly and horrible he was. Now, just cuz he likes her, she's in love with him.
I've told him before about how I felt and his reaction wasn't too great. I'm scared that if I tell him again...that the feeling hasn't gone away..that I'll lose him. That I'll lose the friendship.
2007-06-08 14:57:11 · update #1
My sister told me to add this part. The only reason he noticed her and hung out with her at all was because he liked me. Sometimes I'll flirt with him by accident, not even know I'm doing it, and he'll flirt back. He'll call me at night and tell me that I looked really good that day. I try not to flirt with him or even talk to him know that it's summer because I know my best friend is going out with him. I don't want to break them up, I'm happy that she finally found someone.
2007-06-08 15:00:47 · update #2
When he liked me, he knew I liked him. I didn't know he liked me untill it was too late and it was really hard to deal with. The thought that I could have had him and didn't know. He said that he didn't ask me was not because he thought I would say no, he knew I would say yes, but was because he was simply too shy.
2007-06-08 15:05:40 · update #3
Carrie, I was there once, a long, long time ago. What I did for myself was to enroll in a "Finishing School," for about 3 months. Kind of like a high-class spa, except they give you charm lessons, etc. I worked hard to make the best of my assets. When I completed the course, I was a different person. I knew I looked fabulous [ guys always notice your physical appearance ] and also believed I could have a meaningful conversation with a person of any age, with just about anything. My composure and poise was at an all time high. I got a new job. Began going out to social events and anywhere I could meet people. I became popular. One day when I was alone, the thought popped into my mind, "I've come a long way; I've gotten to a place where I don't break down and cry at the most unexpected moment, or when someone says a kind word to me." I was at a place where I could have any guy that I wanted, and you know what? I could finally say and really mean it..... I did not want him anymore. And I just knew in my heart, that if he and I were to run into each other by chance, I would not be surprised if someone were to tell me later, that he wanted to be introduced to me. The tables would be turned. It would be him wanting me; not me anymore wanting him.
BTW, fast forward into the future; he ran into a mutual friend about this time a year ago, and ask this friend for my phone #. I was gone when he phoned, but when I checked my "messages," was surprised to see that he had called. I have the satisfaction of being able to say "I did not call him back......"
2007-06-08 15:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, he seems like a real loser. I would NEVER speak to him again. Never have contact with him again. And never let a guy take your clothes off unless you are dating and it is mutual and a fun thing for you that you want to do. It seems like he did date rape you if you were scared. Did you say "no"? If you feel like you made a mistake and you made a bad decision, that is one thing, but if he forced you and you said, "No" maybe you should call the police. He may have done this to other girls, or he may be starting a pattern that will only get more violent. Maybe he just wanted to see if he could make you do it before he tries it on anyone else? He sounds like a sicko to me. I have heard so many girls say that their BF did things to them and then said "Sorry" a lot, but they still continue to screw with the girls and do mean things. You are better than that, you should write him off! How old are you? Maybe you should tell your Dad and let him have a "talk" with this guy?
2016-05-20 06:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with your bf... that's enough of a reason to stay away from him. Is this guy worth ruining your friendship with your bf?! If not, leave it be and stay away from him so you're not tempted to flirt with him! How can you "flirt" with someone and not even know you're doing it? You shouldn't be spending so much time talking to him on the phone and without your friend present if you know you have these types of feelings. I don't mean to sound rude, but I'd be afraid to have you as my bf!
2007-06-08 15:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you hook up with him when he was available?
Mabe he thought you were not interested in him, becuase you knew he was interested in you.
Sometimes we play games, and by the time we realize we felt something for someone, its too late. Now your friend is involved, and if you are a real friend, you either tell her or just let them be.
The only way you will get over him, is to stay away as much as you can, and find yourelf someone who is free and cares about you too.
Good luck.
JIL
2007-06-08 14:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Emerald 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely DO NOT tell him you're into him still. He's seeing your best friend - you need to realize he's taken and get over him. Otherwise, you're going to lose both of them as friends. If you tell him and he's not interested, it's going to be too awkward, not to mention he'll tell your best friend, who won't be too happy with you for trying to steal HER boyfriend.
Concentrate on other things and try to find someone else.
2007-06-08 15:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel like you should respect the fact that your best friend is dating this him, keep it at a friend basis and don't let them 2 together make you feel any less of a person. There's someone else for you!
2007-06-08 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by tyeshajasmine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let me know 'cos you never know what he truly thinks of you too. But, on the other hand, get yourself ready for rejection
2007-06-08 14:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Carrie, If she is your friend, back off and move on.
2007-06-08 14:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and want him tell him.It is best he knows how you feel.
2007-06-08 14:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by sunfire051895 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave him alone....you just want him because you can't have him.
2007-06-08 14:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋