what would you if you had a bf that you lived with, and you worked and he didn't. Doesn't even have any interests in looking for a job, and was lazy all the time???
2007-06-08 14:32:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him....unless you'd rather stay and put up with him.
2007-06-08 14:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by (◕‿◕✿) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving a person can only go so far..but a relationship always requires both people to contribute (unless your rich then you don't have to work) in all aspects, love and affection, money, expenses, responsibilities, If your boyfriend doesn't have any interest in anything then it's obvious he has no interest in you he doesn't show you the love or the respect that you deserve he is just a parasite he's living off of you.
Don't say to yourself that he is going to change or that hes just too young or that he's hurt your just making up excuses for yourself and him. you have to come up with the courage and tell him straight out (get a job or get the f@ck out) your a intelligent woman you deserve a good man that will do anything for you not a man that wants you to do everything for him.
2007-06-16 19:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by navagator73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation for over a year, and kept telling myself it would change....It didnt! I know it is hard to think of not having him around anymore, but it is alot better on you if you tell him to get out or get a job and help out. You will save yourself a lot of headaches and arguements if you handle it right away dont wait or it gets harder to deal with. You dont need to support his lazy butt for the rest of the day, week, month or year. Deal with it and be strong.
2007-06-16 21:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by rsprettygirl25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move him out, or move myself if he had a lease or something in his name. That doesn't mean break up the relationship necessarily, just that you aren't compatible as an economic unit. Maybe that will spur him to grow up. If he goes off in a huff then you'll know you're not wasting time in an unresolvable conflict.
2007-06-08 21:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to him about it and tell him that he NEEDS to get a job and that you shouldnt be doing all the work....give him two options...if he wants to be with you, he gets a job.....if he doesnt get a job and continues to use you and be lazy all the time, he needs to find another place to live and someone else to be with...
2007-06-08 21:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by urlostprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i would talk to him about getting a job to make ends meet. However, if he doesn't make a move( try to get a paying job) then i would put him out.
2007-06-16 21:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by getlostnochance2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You woun't be able to change him. If he is lazy now, then unless he gets the picture himself, he will continue to be lazy.
2007-06-08 21:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him hes got three mounts to get a job or get out .because you Reilly don,t love him if you r not welling to keep him up. dump him girl life hard enough with out any more bage
2007-06-15 13:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by TENN, LOVE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have an ambition in life? if he doesn't and hes the type of person to sponge off you, then is that what you would want in a boyfriend?
2007-06-16 21:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by RAY T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you are crazy b/c there's no way I'd work and my man wouldn't, if anything it would be the other way around
2007-06-08 21:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by lil, mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and you should leave his ***. He'll only mooch off of you until u stop it..then he'll be angry and try to find someone else to mooch off of.
2007-06-16 17:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by I AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋