Why do the nice people finish last at times?

Question

I'm a 39 year old lady. I've always been very quiet and nice. However, I feel that people take that as a weakness. It started from elementary school, throughout life in college and even now as a registered nurse in a hospital. Other fellow nurses haved gossiped, lied, and mistreated me. You feel guilty when you say "no" to people. You don't want to be viewed as a "B". People always tells me "You're are too sweet". You have to be a B". My parents are 2 very loving, nice people and that's all I learned. I'm in court now for lending thousands of $ to someone over 3 years ago who never paid me back. His busines went out of business and he disappeared. He only returned $400. Luckily, I have a signed note and cancelled check returned to me as my evidence. People have borrowed alot of money and one ex boyfriend credited a beautiful bedroom set and an a/c on my credit card and never finished paying for it . How can you ensure people will hold up their side of the bargain?

Answer 1

Don't worry honey, there is such a thing as Karma. They'll get their just dessets eventually.

Just continue to do what you do dahling, one way or the other, You will get the laugh last. There is a God. Trust me. Those buggers won't get away with it.

Answer 2

Debora,

As the bible stated never trust man. I believe all the choices that we make has an outcome, and sometimes we really do not know how that outcome will play out. I'm sorry to hear of the terrible things that has happened to you, but will say try not to be so trusting of people. It is in a humans nature to think about self. I too grew up with wonderful parents in a great household learning manners and respect, but a lot of people in the world today are mean. It is not a bad thing to think about and take care of Debora first.

Answer 3

Why do the nice people finish last at times?

What do you mean "At times"? They always finish last. I've been nice and finished last everytime.

My niceness however doesn't go with money. I never borrow or never lend.

You can never ensure that people will hold up their side of the bargain. What you can do is to lend (if you must) only amounts that you can live without if it is not returned.

I really like nice people and would go out of my way to help them. That means giving more of myself and my time to them. I find lot of nice people in places of worship or voluteer organizations. I rarely find anyone at office.

Answer 4

Because we live in a world that has accepted aggresiveness. People who are nice are seen as weaklings and are looked down on. Nice people tend to put others first in almost any situation, sometimes sacrificing thier time for another. Sadly, many people see this as foolish and never commend the nice person for his deed. I long for a time when ALL will be eqaul and nice people finally stand out as example setters. It is aggressive people who cause the many problems we see in the world today!

Answer 5

The ruthless and agressive ones are the people who get to the trough first. So unless there's some legal or outside regulation they get the first pick. Those who hesitate or are not as concerned with beating the competition will naturally have less. The key is to have less and be content with it. It sounds like you have lousy taste in men. Stop going to bars and clubs and crap to find men. Hope you win your case, bring as much evidence (recipts, notes, statements) as you can. Good luck

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with being nice, but it should not override your common sense. Never loan money, that's why we have banks. You are a nice person, but you allow people to take advantage of you. Take the experience you already have and learn from it. Not everyone can be trusted.