My 21 yr old bf of 6 months lives in the city neighboring mine in California. I'm 18. He's my first bf. His mother lives in Texas. His half sister was graduating from high school in late May so his mom flew him out to see her. He was supposed to come back on the 3rd of June. His mom got a serious eye infection that she had been getting for years 2 days before he was to leave. A few days ago I was talking to him Online and he told me he was thinking about staying there for good. He said once he got some money he could send me a ticket so I could live there with him too. I never said no. I just asked questions like "where would I stay, how would I get there ... etc" when he blew up on me out of nowhere. Now he won't talk to me. We NEVER once fought when we were together, it was great. I love him with all my heart. This whole thing was a huge misunderstanding. I know he loves me a lot. What should I say to him and when? He never cheated on me, this I know. What should I do? Please help!
2007-06-08 11:39:39 · 12 answers · asked by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did nothing wrong. Give him time to sit and stew. He'll come to his senses. Don't get all panicky and try to keep making contact with him. He over reacted and wigged out so sit back, be cool and let him wonder what's going on with you. If he cares about you, he'll get in touch with you. If he doesn't, better to find that out now than after you make a move. Good luck. Love is all around you and this boy may be missing out on the best thing that ever walked into his life - you! Be strong, be proud, be patient. Have fun!
2007-06-08 11:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Phil Conners 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call him. Emailing has obviously lost something in translation. He may have interpreted your answers as no. Men and women have misunderstood each other since the beginning of time, so this may just be a misunderstanding. If you can't get it straightened out when you're actually talking on the phone then there is something else going on.
Good luck!
2007-06-08 18:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be over you. Or he just needs time alone. Give him some time to be with his family. In a week or so give him a call and see how he is, that way everything is blown over and you guys could actually talk things out. Serious things should never be discussed on the internet, because you can never tell emotions through Words.
2007-06-08 18:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's really stressed out maybe there is more going on than he's telling you? Why not send him an e-mail that you don't know exactly what is going on or what he is going through, but you are there for him and would really like to talk to him about what is going on in his life. Maybe let him know you love him and feel shut out. Perhaps he will calm down and tell you what is going on and if not... At least you tried your best to communicate with him. Good luck.
2007-06-08 18:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by I.J. Riley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, believe me, doing a long distance relationship is hard enough, not to mention all the stress it sounds like he's going thru. If you love him, as you say you do, let time tell. Sounds like he wants you too, just doesnt have all the answers right now.
2007-06-08 18:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Leann ~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when he got the idea that you were not just falling in line to his plan he went off. That tells me he is a control freak. If you are ready and willing to be totally controlled then you should try to work it out. If not - dump him like the plague.
2007-06-08 18:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Moondog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is probaly just going through some rough times with his mom just wait till he gets better then try to talk to him
2007-06-08 18:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by mary l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he was trying to get u mad so that u could break up with him first. from what i've read from u he probably is making u break up the relationship because he doesn't want to be with u anymore
sorry for being so harsh but that's reality :-/
2007-06-08 18:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just call him and apolize and say that you loves him so much and that you miss him so much. just say the sweet world.it will change everything. men are so complicate there are like a children sometimes.
2007-06-08 18:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by felicity m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this may be his way of kicking you to the curb without hurting you too bad.
2007-06-08 18:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by babyzilla7321 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋