I started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago. He has not really befriended any of my friends, though they have all reached out to him. Last year one of my best friend's husbands invited him on a guys camping trip. He said he would go but then he cancelled at the last minute. This year, the same guy invited him again to go on a guys camping trip. My bf again said he would go, but then today called me to say that he had to work and would have to cancel. (The trip is one week away). Not only is he putting me in the middle, I really want my friends to like him, and now they are going to think that he is someone who goes back on his word, or is a flake. I am an only child whose parents are deceased--my friends are my family--so it is important that he and my friends get along. What gives?
2007-06-08 10:47:27 · 10 answers · asked by jocundity5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should have mentioned that I spend tons of time with him and his family, beause he told me it was important to him that I do so, I have rearranged my work schedule on several occasions to do things for him or with him, and and I often spend time with his friends with whom I have very little in common (though they are nice...)
2007-06-08 11:29:19 · update #1
But he IS a guy who goes back on his word-- they have 2 year of this to prove it. He IS acting like a flake.
He is who/what he is. He has no interest in your friends, his word means nothing, and he doesn't care if he blows them off. That's what gives.
2007-06-08 10:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He doesn't want to go on a guys camping trip with your friends. Because they aren't his friends. You shouldn't try to force him to befriend people if he doesn't want to. For all you know, he may know there's a guy on the trip who he's gonna bump heads with and would rather avoid the drama, for your sake. And HE'S the one between a rock and hard place.
Can't you have your own friends, and he can have his?
I'll be honest, If I was him, and you made a drama about something like that, I'd leave you. Respect his decision not to go. And if it's that big a deal, dump him. I'm sure your friends will find someone for you who gets their stamp of approval. And you can all be good clones of each other. Maybe even start laughing and dressing the same way.
2007-06-08 11:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Bojangles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-07 03:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to him about this ? and if so what does he say . does he use alot of excuses . It could be that he does not like your friends and he has to make excuses so that you wont get mad at him for not liking your friends . Have you asked him if he likes your friends and another thing you cannot push your friends at him or force him to like them . I think that he might think that you are forcing him to be friends with them . Sit him down and talk to him and why is he putting you in the middle . I mean theyshould know it is him not you . good luck .
2007-06-08 10:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask us, ask your boyfriend exactly what you wrote down here.
Brutally honest communication is the cornerstone of all successful relationships. Marriages are hard work. You two need to practice a bit before the big show...
good luck!
2007-06-08 10:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your overreacting at all. Your trying to include your boyfriend in events that would probably bring your bf and friends all closer. It seems like he's resisting. Talk with him privately. Maybe theres somthing bothering ahim that hes not telling you.
2007-06-08 10:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not overreacting at all. You've got to find out why he so nervous or scared to be around your family. He should be more sympathetic to your situation, and understand how important it is for him to meet them. My uncle just got married and his new wife is the same way. She doesn't want to talk to me or my mother. It's weird. I say find out his reasoning.
2007-06-08 10:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea thats unfortunate that he doesn't want to go most likly becasue he will feel uncomfortable......All i can say is I could never go out with a guy who didn't get along with my friends.
2007-06-08 10:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he isn't sociable! r u friends with his friends? does he have friends? maybe your friends don't interest him, you should tell him to on this trip instead of asking him my mom always said "you need to put your pata on his neck" 2 get them to do what you want! whatever she meant by that i don't know but try it! LOL it might just work!
2007-06-08 10:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he is antisicial or suffers from anxiety and doesn't want to let on. try talking about it deeply and see what gives
2007-06-08 10:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋