I sent a gift to my cousin for her birthday. I sent her an e-mail letting her know that she should look for two packages - one from UPS and one from Federal Express arriving by Friday of this week.
She did not respond to the e-mail.
One of the gifts was delivered yesterday. She did not reply or say anything. I did speak to her.
The other gift will be delivered today. I was hoping she would call and say if she liked them.
If she does not call, should I feel hurt and upset or am I asking too much?
2007-06-08 10:46:27 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There are people out there that don't know they are suppose to acknowledge gifts, send thank you cards. They just don't have manners...like how easy would it be to shoot you an email or a text. Chalk it up to bad manners.
Here's a story: My Mom sent her biological father and his wife a Harry & David's Gift basket..it was about $120 bucks w/shipping for Christmas last year. Months went by and my Mom never received a thank you card or phone call..nothing. I called Harry & David's and they said it was delivered. So being sassy as I am I phoned my Grandfather's home and spoke to his wife. I'm like "Hello, I'm Yvonne and I'm calling from Harry & David's Customer Satisfaction Department, just wanted to make sure you received your gift basket in December and if everything was to your liking? She said, oh yes we loved it...thank you so much. ****Yeah...what a bunch of losers. I told my mom...just to forget about that Man and cherish her awesome Step-dad!
2007-06-08 11:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Yvonne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should probably call her after the second package is supposed to be delivered because Fed Ex and UPS will both deliver packages without people even being home and I've seen where sometimes people don't get the packages because something happens to the packages before the recipient gets home. I actually had a package that was stolen so if I were you I would just call her and ask if she had received the 2 packages since you know that sometimes Fed Ex and UPS just leave packages on the porch and you want to be sure she got them both. I am sure she would not think anything of your asking since it IS a possibility that she might not have gotten the packages plus.....the packages might not have been delivered or they might even be lost. This way you will be sure she got them and at the same time it will give her the opportunity to thank you for them at the same time. It's always best to be sure someone has actually received something you mail or ship to them because there are so many things that can happen......and sometimes you won't know unless the recipient calls to thank you OR you call to be sure they received the packages. If they didn't get them, you can't expect them to call you...so you really sometimes don't know if they just didn't GET the package OR if they just haven't taken the time to call you. Either way, if you don't hear, be on the safe side and call to be sure she got them. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-08 18:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Stella Meredith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should feel hurt! Its definitely not asking too much! I would be mad if I sent something to someone and they didn't even say anything let along a thank you! You should call her and ask her if she got them. But if she doesn't appreciate what you get her then just send a card!
2007-06-08 17:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by CS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a case like this, I recommend coming right out and asking her if she received them. If you spoke with her and she failed to mention it, there's a possibility that the package was delivered to someone else and you'll want to contact the shipper quickly.
2007-06-08 17:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by L.A. Poker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just the type of person that thinks you know she's appreciative.It is inconsiderate but it's hard to say,just let her know how much you hoped she liked them,and by that you'll know what she thinks.It is her birthday she could be busy.But don't worry and don't feel hurt it will probably all clear up.
2007-06-08 17:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not asking to much but you need to realize that your time frame and hers is not the same. Forgive her for her short comings and a thank you will be forth coming from your cousin once the dust settles down from her bd.
2007-06-08 23:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you track the shipments? If so, and you are sure they delivered, wait a day. Then call and confirm she got them, just in case they were both (not likely) misdelivered. You aren't wrong for asking, she is wrong for not calling.
2007-06-08 17:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by J M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its beyond me when people cant send a simple email in response. she should have at least thanked you for the gifts, even if she didnt like them. if she doesnt say anything to you, you have a right to feel bad, but remember next year and dont send her anything and see if she says anything that time.
2007-06-08 19:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by dianna_lenger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin should say, "Thank you" Perhaps she is waiting for the second gift.
2007-06-08 19:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call tomorrow and just ask if she got them. Don't be rude like "what you didn't like it"? But hey, you wanna make sure it didn't get to somebody else.
2007-06-08 18:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋