About 40 minutes ago I got home from a friend's place. I've been walking that road for 5 years now and I've seen many groups of teenagers walk around there. Tonight for the first time I came across a group of around 6 acting like retards on that same road, and looking quite drunk while at it. As I passed the group one slapped me across the neck. It did not hurt physically, but I did feel embarrassed by the fact that I didn't do anything and just kept walking after simply replying to him in a surprised and slighly shocked voice: "What's going on man?!"
Also, they are the kind of people that are known to carry knives around here...
I am completely not a violent guy, I'm 18, and can stand up to myself if needed against one or two guys at best, but prefer not to.
Now, while I was still walking I just wanted to avoid trouble, but as I got home I just got mad at myself for not doing anything.
So I ask of you experienced ones: Considering all circumstances, what should have I done?
2007-06-08 10:31:13 · 13 answers · asked by AJ-kun 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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Just an addition to show my gratitude to everyone who answered and helped me out with my issue.
I cannot give any of you the 'best answer' since you all have the best answers here. But regardless, thanks a lot to everyone! For reassuring and advising :)
2007-06-08 11:04:18 · update #1
You SHOULD have done exactly what you DID do...kept walking. You're an unarmed guy, not violent, not confrontational and when you're dealing with a group of idiots, the less you say, the better...and safer you are for it.
It's ridiculous for you to have to do this, but if you see them ahead of you, maybe consider moving to the other side of the street or slowing your pace substantially in an attempt to avoid them altogether.
No, you shouldn't have to do this, but unless you're prepared to duke it out, I recommend trying to avoid a confrontation at all costs. Who knows? Maybe they're waiting on a reaction so they have a reason to pummel you. From experience, a bully who can't get a rise out of you most times will get bored after awhile and find someone else to pick on. (Depending on the bully, the opposite holds true, too: kicking the snot out of a bully could promote him to leave you alone, too).
In your case, since you're dealing with a group, be safe...be smart. Avoid. That's your best bet.
...hope this helps some.
-Faith
2007-06-08 10:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took the course of wisdom. I once had a guy a little younger than me sucker punch me in the mall. I was 18, and he looked no older than 16. As much as I would have loved to pound his head in (and back then I was violent and ready to prove it), I came to my senses and realized he's probably a juvenile and he had 4 or 5 others with him. And while I sometimes like to believe I could've taken them all, fact is I might not have been able to. I would have ended up in jail or on probation or who knows what, and might have gotten my butt kicked in the process by a bunch of 16- year- olds! How embarrassing would that have been!? Instead, I turned back around slowly and locked eyes with him and started approaching him slowly. After 2 or 3 steps, he and his buddies took flight through the mall. The attendant at the arcade saw everything and he went after the kids but I told him to let them go. In retrospect, seeing the fear in their eyes when I took the punch and then moved toward them was better than anything else I could've done! I guess the inexperienced lad was expecting ME to cower in fear when he sucker punched me. Oh well. If nothing else, we have a scriptural principle- when someone slaps you, turn the other cheek to them so they can slap it, too! Matthew 5:39
2007-06-08 10:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 03:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was perfect.
Since they were acting like retards, you thought they might have been drunk and have been known to carry knives, you did the best thing possible. Ignore them. You were practicing self-protection and it sounds like they may have been out of control.
Good for you! Pat yourself on the back (or slap your neck, if so inclined)!
2007-06-08 10:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have done exactly what you did. Standing up for yourself is one thing, but getting yourself into danger is another. Good job on not letting those guys get under your skin at the time and walking away. You're much safer because of it.
2007-06-08 10:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I don't blame you for feeling mad at yourself; you probably wanted to knock him down. You could have gotten in trouble being that they were minors though so you did right. You could have called the police and reported him and filed charges for assault - that would have served the punk right.
2007-06-08 10:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, in my opinion. They would've probably ganged up on you if you had reacted more, you never know what drunk people will do to a person.
2007-06-08 10:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Call the police and file an assault charge.
2007-06-08 10:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Yvonne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have done exactly what you did. They may have knives. Who'd want to get killed for no good reason?
2007-06-08 10:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He who fights and runs away will live to fight another day.
If it happens again, then catch those punks one at a time when their 'buds' aren't with them... and kick the daylights out of them.
2007-06-08 10:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋