Should I even try to get him back?

Question

We dated for over a year. He was my first real boyfriend, and I was his first girlfriend. We didn't hang out a whole lot, but it was amazing when we did. He was never completely comfortable with the physical stuff like holding hands, and he never kissed me, but I think now that he was probably scared to, typical young guy. I tried talking to him about this stuff a few times but I always got scared, and in my mind I built it all up and felt I had to end things. I know I should have talked to him first; I really messed things up. He won't even talk to me right now. But anyway, my real question, I guess, is do you think that feeling scared/awkward about physical stuff is normal for this age (15) and do you think that if I tried to get him back, we could fix things and make an even better relationship? Or do I just need to move on? I feel so strongly about him, I care about him and I truly believe I love him. Leaving him was the hardest thing ever, and my reasons weren't great. Opinions?

Answer 1

U should wait a couple of days let him cool off.Then u should talk to him about ur situation,ask him how he feels about u.Love takes time to happen.It's normal for a 15 year old to feel this way,Everyone gets scared in a relationship.Maybe he's Scared too.

Answer 2

At 15, young men have mixed feelings when it comes to the opposite gender... Most of them are oblivious when it comes to female emotion or emotion giving.. such as affection. Girls are more mature at that age and feel and think differently then guys do... Depending on the reasons you both broke up, There may or maynot be a chance to get back together. He probably won't talk to you because he is still upset.. I would give him more time and slowly build the relationship back up if you are Serious about him. Talk to his friends, see what they are saying... They probably know his true feelings.. If they lean on the positive side.. go for it..
If not.. well , maybe you might want to move on...
Good Luck.

Answer 3

If he wants you he will persue you (he'll do whatever it takes to get you, no matter what it takes, he won't take no for an answer, and he'll keep trying until you are his) - and if he's not doing that he's not interested in you as a partner. I think you should stay friends, and there's always value in having a friend. You never know. I know of people who dated in high school, ended up marrying other people, and stayed friends the whole time, and then both were widowed and then started dating after each lost their spouse. So you never know. there's 30 years or so in between...

You want a man that really wants you.

if he's available, you can certainly try to get his attention (dressing nice) etc. (your job to get his attention) - (his job to persue you). It's not your job to persue him. It doesn't work that way. I really believe that the man chooses his wife. It isn't the other way around. He needs to treat her with kindness of course. A lot of people think that's insensitive. I'm not against women, but if a man is going to be the head of his household, he has a say in who is in his household.
no disrespect intended.

Answer 4

See, what you should do is try and talk to him tell him how you feel let everything come out in the open and Please don't hold nothing back let it all out and when you are done if he has something to say about what you had said then listen and try to understand where he is coming from because guys are very complicated but if he doesn't know where you are coming from as beening a female well you really don't need him because it will show you he doesn't really know how to make you feel as beening his woman. And if you love him and he doesn't love you well forget him because one mans trash is another mans treasure. And don't you forget it

Answer 5

Next time remember that building a relationship takes time. He respect you enough to wait.You missed out on a decent guy. Either that or he is gay or wasn't attracted to you.

At 15 you may HAVE love for him but you have alot of maturing to do. Try and talk to him and tell him you made a mistake but was confused about his intensions.

Personally I would let it go. Find a new guy. Take it as a lesson learned

Answer 6

If you really had a connection you would not have been scared so honey no one can tell you ho2w you are sopposed to feel but maybe you can start things over but only if you feel happy and safe with him! I advise you to follow your heart cause that ansewer will be better than any yahoo answer I promise! Good Luck finding true love

Answer 7

At 15 guys want to hug, kiss and try for anything else they can. If he did not try any of that or felt uncomfortable when you did then he is either, gay or not into you the way you were into him. Move on sister and find someone new.

Answer 8

Well your still young, and when I was that age, I was scared to talk about those things. Talk to him about it. Once you get older it's so much easier to talk to guys. Me and my boyfriend talk about everything and I'm 17 and he's 18.

Answer 9

apologize, get your friends to apolgize for you too, do everything you can for a while to make it clear that you are sorry. If he starts talking to you again, (and it may take some time) just try to build up a friendship. If he accepts your offer of friendship, after a little while, try dating again.

Answer 10

tell him what you told us. he may not want to get back because he is hurt, but you can always try. if he says, no, then grieve for the loss of the relationship and move on with dignity.