debate on spanking?

Question

do you or do you not spank your child/children?

when do you think its acceptable

do you think its wrong to spank
i personally dont see anything wrong with it
but i know there are a lot of people who do
just want some opinions

Answer 1

1. We do
2. As a last resort, or for breaking our "Core Rules"
3. Nope, we believe strongly in our methods, and have seen the positive results.

Answer 2

Yes on spanking. I was spanked, so were my two older sisters. My younger brother was spanked, but, after my brother, all the other kids grew up w/o a swat on the butt. If you took a look at my family, everyone who was spanked as a child actually respects our parents a lot more than those who were not.

Words are not enough, time-outs: seriously, I think are a waste of time. If I have to repeatedly tell my daughter to stop doing something, and she doesn't, sure, I'll give her a spanking.

I think every child should be spanked at some point in their life. For those who are against spanking, I think they're confusing spanking with beating/hitting/abuse. Those who are confused between these two, should obviously, not use spanking as I believe it will get out of hand on their end. If you can't tell the difference between the two, who are you to try to use it?

Answer 3

that is a tough one. There are some children that are so rude/beligerant that need a good slap across the face. (i say this figuratively!!! - i would never do that if i had a kid) Regardless..In some cases they deserve a swat on the behind. (not a beating, but a swat) open palm on a fully clothed bottom.

I was on a streetcar this morning (I'm from Toronto) and this mom got on with two kids - a young one and an older one - a school age kid who should know better. It was a nice ride - until this kid (older one) began to get rather loud in his complaint and issue with something (don't know what his problem was cuz he was speaking spanish) Regardless, this kid's mother should have at least told this kid to keep it down. No this kid does not deserve a spanking, but he deserved some kind of discipline - he was certainly sulking about something.

I don't believe in the "naughty spot or naughty step" as "super nanny" teaches because it is too much 'work'. Kid is told to sit on naughty spot and then he cries and screams and gets up. meanwhile the disciplinarian then has to hold him on the spot to get him to sit and calm down. Ends up being too time consuming (this person most likely has better things to do then hold a screaming child on the naughty step)

A swat on the behind and being sent to a neutral room (where there are no toys) for the same amout of time as his/her age. Then going on to talk to him/her about why he was put in the room etc... then all is "forgiven" but a caution is told to him too - if he does this again...then this is going to happen again. (leanring concequences)

Answer 4

I spanked my kids. There is a big difference between spanking and beating. If you repeatedly tell your child not to do something, especially if it is something that could harm them like sticking a finger in a light socket ,and words or time out is not working, then a good swat on the butt will not kill them. I rarely had to spank my girls, they learned that if you pushed mom to far you were gonna get it. Sending a child to their room now days is a waste of time as they have their toys, games, TV' etc. I remember getting a few good wallops from mom and I don't have any underlying emotional problems. In fact I respect her for raising me right and teaching me right from wrong, even if it did entail a few spankings.

Answer 5

I think it is based on how you were brought up as a child. I come to find out that spanking doesnt really work. I tried it for a while. Lets say my kids are arguin over a toy first i say they need to come to an agreement or the toy goes in the trash normally this solves everything. If that doesnt work i have a prize box. I go to the dollar tree and buy little cheap toys and at the end of the week if they are good they get to pick one. My grandma put fear in me personally. Always try something else because you dont want to spank your child out of anger

Answer 6

My husband and I decided against it. Although we both love our parents, we both have very negative and upsetting memories of being spanked. I think you should never spank you child when you're angry (if you decide to spank) You should always wait until you cool down and aren't yelling and make a smart decision about it. I think 3 would be the age to start spanking if you're going to do it.

Answer 7

Personally I have never spanked any of my 3 kids and they are turning out great. I choose to use other forms of discipline and have been lucky, mine never have "acted up".

However, I fully support each parents RIGHT to decide what works for their family and do not think spanking is child abuse. I would vote against any laws delegating child rearing, especially one that can also interfere with some families religious beliefs.

Answer 8

It depends on what you refer to as a spanking. It's not the same thing as a beating. It's usually only a swat or two on a typically padded butt, is NOT done in anger, and is only used when the child flagrantly defies authority and disobeys.....not when he makes a childish mistake. It is done as "sparingly" as possible so that when the child gets one, he will KNOW what he has done is very wrong. If he gets them all the tine for everything, he will expect them, and not take then seriously any more.

Answer 9

I'm a grandparent and yes I spanked my children. And have spanked my grandchildren.

I do not think it is acceptable if you are angry. As that can prompt you to spank too hard. You absolutely need to be emotionally in control.

Answer 10

I was spanked when I was a child up to 12. The only thing it taught me was to never get caught. I didn't even get the whole why I did what I did was wrong, or even knew why I was being spanked.
There are better alternatives to spanking.

Answer 11

i dont mind giving the odd spanking to my son.... but it wouldnt be for no reason.... children have to learn right from wrong and learn how to behave..... I give my son a slap on the hand or bum when he is touching something he is not suppose to or being naughty or cheeky.... for instance one day he picked up a vase i had bought that was very expensive and he was told not too then when i told him out it down he shouted no and dropped it straight on the floor which was the end of that...... but yes i do agree with a spanking only when it is needed tho....