Gay muslim ;(?

Question

Gay muslim=(?

K first of all dont show me any verses, im tired of looking at them. I'm tired of this, why do many muslims believe homosexuality is a choice? I am gay and however i am not proud of it, and wish to be straight but their is no possible way. It's like asking a straight person to become gay ITS IMPOSSIBLE. You cannot stop feeling attraction for the sex you originally liked. I've been this way since i've been like 3... I dont ever remember liking women. It's pretty heart breaking when you find out that you will be hated, disliked, prohibited for who you are. It's hard to hiding it from everyone i dont wanna be hated for this. I do pray sometimes, and USED to have plans getting married to a female. My plans for now are just do to whatever keeps me alive, and hopefully one day find a wife, who will love me for who i am. Obviously, i do believe homosexuality is a grave sin, but i just dont understand why its wrong? I know all you straight people dont understand, but if you believe it's wrong you dont have to hate them for being that way. How do you expect us to get rid of this impossible habbit if you people are gonna make fun of us and such? I'm always depressed now because all i think about is men etc, and knowing the fact i cant tell anyone this issue is VERY hard. My mom one time heard me talking to some guy on the phone. I had to make so many lies it was a girl and etc. It's just not fair how my OWN parents wouldnt want me for being this way. Nor will friends, nor will anyone. I love men, and i wish i could be attracted to women but thats not happening. This just shocks the hell out of me, i mean seriously.... Well if anyone knows anyway to become straight someone let me know? شكرا له هو الافضل.

Answer 1

you can choose not to have sex with other men.

Answer 2

If you're being sincere, and I've no reason to believe otherwise, then you prove the point that sexuality is not a choice. Just specific bad luck to have been born into a Muslim family, as they seem as unenlightened as fundamental Christians about such matters.
When I say "born" I am only guessing that you are not a gay Muslim convert, there are not many of them. Actually I think I'll ask that question, not as a joke, it's interesting if there are any.
You cannot make yourself straight by choice, but you can choose to refrain from homosexual activity.
It seems very painful for you, and I hope you manage to come to terms with the best way to proceed, whatever it is.

Answer 3

well, I'm not going to say you are not gay, but I do know people who could care less about either sex..ie physical/emotional/sexual attraction just is not there... For them friendship is based solely upon how interesting you are to them, not whether or not they want to get into your pants.

So that could be an option..However and I only speak from the aspect of dogma, if Islam is intolerant of your gayness, then how can you really call yourself Muslim?
(for that matter why do you need to call yourself anything). Find a way to be happy w/ who you are. If being "gay" is not making you happy, then no your not gay, but you can also NOT be straight at the same time..it's called "I really just dont care".. Only you (through soul searching) can really kjnow what makes you happy, if neither men nor women make you happy, then you just really were'nt meant to have a relationship at that level. It's not a bad thing, but it also does not mean you're gay b/c you dont like the opposite sex. In this case, I'd say open your own mind up to really search what makes you happy and dont force anything upon yourself.

My only hope is that you are young enough to take the time to go on one of those soul searching experiences (ie..in the words of Jim Morrison "I went to the desert to find myself").


Okay..finding a "wife" is kinda moot if you're not into women, so dont bother, you dont have to have a wife, also understand that you are talking about rules (homosexuality is bad) that someone made up to make you think a certain way.. so read above, dont give into dogma just to have a label to "fit in" after all calling yourself "gay" as well is a label...I have a noble Idea, and it's something very few people actually do, or believe in..Just try being "you". no label required, and it's totally unique, after all, you are you and only you can really know and understand what you think/feel/are going through..

So good luck in whoever or whatever you decide to be, but dont give in to some dogma just because you want to have a label applied to who you are..

Answer 4

Well America and other countries like France do allow Gay marriages but I think America and France are better for Muslims to live in than countries like Russia and Poland, where gay marriage is not allowed but at the same time there are Muslims killed by skinheads.

Answer 5

Oh bless your heart...

I am completely straight and my dear my heart absolutely goes out to you. Sadly, your religion does not accept homosexuality, I understand that and sadly that is why you are having such a difficult time.
I have to tell you though, you are not evil, you are you and you have a right to be.
I am so sorry you have to lie about your sexuality, but you are only doing so because you know it would be difficult for your family to know.

In this instance maybe you need to find someone to talk to, who is maybe not Muslim. If only so as you can open up and say what is really in your heart, otherwise I feel it will tear you up inside.

There is no way to change who and what you are. You are unique and special just as you are and that means you are the way you are. If you decided to marry to keep everyone happy, how will it end? You will be betraying your wife and yourself.... Only unhappiness will result.

Talk my friend, open up, if only on here, and stay safe and well. xxx

Answer 6

(YES) I would say 80 to 90% of all Muslim men are Gay ! here is Proof. (1) when muslim men see one another the kiss each other a grab on to one another. (2) the out right hate and mistreatment of women they keep better care of the dogs then there women. (3) in fag islam women must be coverd head to toe are they affend the mans eyes ! Really only gay men don't like to look at a women. (4) they have huge I mean huge all male only behind closed doors meetings. (5) if a man attacks beats and rapes a women,, in the fag islam it is her ( FAULT) YES HER FAULT THAT A **** HIT BAG RAPED HER so her own family kills her !!!!!

Answer 7

Most Muslims I know don't view homosexuality as a choice, they view the behavior itself as a choice (whereas the inner preference for the same sex is a challenge posed by God).

While I am not Muslim and do not view homosexuality as a sin, I also know that a homosexual person makes a choice to have sex with men. The alternative choice could be more difficult, but if it conflicts with your religious beliefs, then it's probably your only option to be with a woman.

Answer 8

I expect you for who you are. You can't choose to be gay. I do not believe the quarrn or bible said anything wrong about being gay. I believe most people look down at being gay is because they don't anything about it and that if were not like them they look down upon you. When first heard of gay people I thought they were weird at first, but sister said something against my statement, even though did not like the tone she use, what said was right. I feel ashamed of the mistake. I hope one day your family and friend expect you for who you are.

Answer 9

Okay, if you are serious about your question I humbly suggest you consider being a muslim through the Unitarian Universalist Church. They have nationally openly declared their support for the gay community for 20 years (in America) and continue to advocate for gay rights. The UU church endorses spirituality through all religious beliefs that advocate peace.

I'm not gay, but I AM Wiccan and I really needed to find a "safe place" to support me through my spiritual journey. I feel welcome in UU churches, like part of the community. I don't worry that my children will be influenced into a belief that isn't right for them, nor do I worry that they will be insecure or afraid of who they are no matter what they choose to believe. I hope you can find sanctuary there too, as many homosexuals have. Check out these articles if you're interested.

Answer 10

this started out to be why can't I be a gay muslim?
Then ended up being a rant for God to make it okay to be a gay muslim. Wait until you grow up and move away and get into the gay community and forget being a muslim that is an oxy moron. They do not accept gays.
Since you can't change God's feelings about this then you do have a problem.

Answer 11

I can't tell you how to be straight. But we all struggle with something and if you are really sincere about being who you are then I say that the only person that you really should be concerned about a bad relationship is with God. Honestly, pray about it, the answer will come in time and I hope that you find some peace in your life.

Peace and Blessings!