And my wedding is local for most people. My cater told me to average that 20% will not be able to come. If everyone has to travel- buy plane ticket, rent a hotel ECT... how many people do you think will not come. Plus most of these people are old college friends and 3rd cousins. (Yes, it's my crazy friend :)
She inviting 125 people (just her not including the groom) but almost 100 people has to travel to get there. What is your educated guess on how many people will really show?
2007-06-08 08:40:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She trying to book a room for 250 people and I told her don't bother until you talk to people. My guess is 40% won't show due to traveling in Jan and money. I told her to talk to the hotel about being able to switch to a smaller room after the offical head count.
2007-06-08 08:41:54 · update #1
So far she called 10 "close" college friends and they all told her they couldn't make it.
2007-06-08 08:42:48 · update #2
My fiance hated me for this, but we estimated how many people would come in a spreadsheet (the same one we used to get addresses for everyone we were sending invites to).
So if we thought there was a 75% chance of an old friend coming and a 100% change of a close relative coming, it all added up. It wasn't exactly right, but it was VERY close and definitely helped us with the catering. We ended up saving a lot of money this way, because if we hadn't counted on some people not coming, we would have had to pay for them anyway.
It's painful at first, but put a quick estimate next to everyone and see what it adds up to.
2007-06-08 08:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ronald M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to guess stuff like this- people will always surprise you. We have family members and friends flying from all over the country, and we have some people in the same town not coming. We have friends who are coming, and my fiance's grandparents and my godfather RSVP no.
Booking a room for twice the amount of people seems like overkill, since with that many out-of-towners, there will be quite a few no's. One way that we got an idea of the out-of-towners was by setting up a room block, and sending that info out with save the dates. A lot of people booked the hotel rooms early to get the discount, and we knew who was planning on coming based on who had booked a room before the invites were even sent out. But the best way to get a good idea is to send out the invitations early (like 10 weeks out) and have an early RSVP date.
2007-06-08 10:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on how close her family is. I can tell you this though, I wouldn't go to a whole lot of effort to attend a 3rd cousins wedding, if it weren't local to me, and if the timing didn't work out, I wouldn't bother attending but would send a gift. I would go to the effort to attend a sibling's wedding, and MAYBE a neice or nephew's wedding, but I'd start drawing the line pretty quickly.
If I were your nutty friend, I'd assume that most, if not all, of the "old college friends" won't go to the time, trouble or expense to physically be at the wedding. I would assume distant relatives wouldn't bother with arranging travel either. Why do I think that? People are simply WAY too busy to spend time travelling to an out of town wedding for someone who isn't that close to them, ya know? At least, I am.
2007-06-08 09:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-08 08:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since my wedding is in hawaii, probably about 10% of the people i invited from the mainland are actually able to attend, due to the costs of travel/hotels/etc and the amount of time it would take to make the trip. with that in mind, i wouldn't expect 80% of her invitees to show up - it'll probably be more like 50%, if she's lucky. keep in mind that many of those who do manage to come will bring dates/children/etc, so leave some room for them! i just had an rsvp i sent to two people come back with 9 attending!
anywho, good luck to your friend!
2007-06-08 09:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by trillian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should get her estimate after having the RSVP in.
You are right, booking a 250 ppl room this early might be a mistake, specially after the holidays and during one of the coldest months of the year.
Good luck
2007-06-08 08:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not book anything unless she must until she has the low down on who will make it. If she does not have the time to talk to each and every one, she should get a reliable person to help spread the word. If she could just get a general idea, it would be better.
2007-06-08 08:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by NAOMI'S MOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You should make sure that the hall you're booking has a smaller room, just in case. It might be better for the two of you to do this at a restaurant.
2007-06-08 09:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's way too hard to judge. It really depends on family and friends. For organizing things, though, she has to count on planning things as though everyone were coming!
2007-06-08 08:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe 60 people will show up
2007-06-08 08:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋