Suicide if I can't change this life?

Question

Recently I have been considering suicide because i've been overwhelmed with money and social issues. I don't believe I am depressed. I'm 19 and my mother wants me to move out but I just quit my job and it's been hard for me to find another. I feel as if she sees me as a failure. I also don't have a social life what so ever and people just aren't attracted to my personality no matter how pleasant I am. I have no hope in things getting better and I haven't had good times since early childhood. Sometimes I question my purpose here on earth.
But I am scared that any method of suicide will be painful and I don't want to regret it. I know life is a precious gift and I'm apprecative of my good health but I am not happy at all. I wish I could be someone else. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. (please NO HOTLINE #s or psychiatric referrals)

Answer 1

You are in an uncomfortable position, but you should not be thinking about ending it all. Just one simple event could change the rest of your life into the most wonderful thing you could ever hope for. You are not a failure by any means. At 19 you are just beginning life. Get out and meat people, not necessarily by going to bars, but ny joining a club of some kind; a reading club, a photography club, a sport club, darts, bowls, bowling, anything; take up martial arts. There are plenty of opportunities for you to meet people. If you want to find a job, then I'll give you one very good piece of advice which will help, all good business people have one thing in common; they are all extremely good liers. Employers hardly ever check the contents of a CV, so just put anything on it. Falsely claiming qualifications is a no no, but you can have experience in just about anything you want, so long as you're sensible. If you feel that your mum is being unreasonable, sit down with her and ask her for some advice about what she wants and try to come to some arrangement. It's easy to tell somebody to go to the doctors for some tablets, I've done it often enough on this thing myself, but I don't really think your position warrents that advice. There really are many things that you could be doing each day, to help yourself, that don't need money; simply going for a walk each day will help. Visit your local shop/store and find telephone numbers of groups meating in your area. I'm sure that you mum will help out if she sees that you really are trying to improve things for yourself.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel, but two days ago I saw someone who just jumped out the 13th window of a high flat. Recently I've had thoughts along those lines, but seeing that poor woman kind of made me step back and really think about things. Your 19, so are old enough to make your own desicions, they might be the right desicions or not but only you can make them. I hate having regrets, I regret so much of the past few years but I would rather live with regrets than not live at all. Everyone has hard patches in their lives at some point, your still young and so are still finding their purpose in life. It takes time to figure out what you want from your life. Once you know where your going you'll be more comfortable with yourself. Suicide is never an option, no matter how tempting it is. Suicide is running away, experiences make you who you are and you'll be a stronger person for making it through this part of your life. I'm sure you'll make the right choice. Remember your loved x

Answer 3

How about the emergency room - before you do something that will hurt many. Depression is a real ILLNESS, and does need to be dealt with.

You can always get another job, at 19 you have years to become highly successful, you just might meet people to socialize with at your new job (try to find one of true interest to you--example, a cause that touches you).

You remembered that life is a precious gift, do you also remember that suicide is a selfish act?

Answer 4

A dear friend of mine just did that the other night. It is a HORRIBLE choice to make. You know that that is the most FINAL solution to your problems. Hopelessness is a scary place to be. I think that you really should consider getting some kinds of medications. You would be surprised to see how much better you can feel and suddenly there will be hope. You have a lot of time in your life to figure this out. Please make a commitment to life and how to help yourself. I want you to think about all the things that you may be missing that are very likely to happen to you someday. Love, children, travel, all of that stuff YOU can do. Find the positive within. Get some help....Please don't do it.

Answer 5

I strongly urge you to seek medical attention. You are depressed and depression is a REAL medical problem. There is help available.

There are a number of things you can do. Talk to your doctor. Go to a local ER. CAll 911.

Many, many people deal with depression every day. Yes, it does bring people to the brink of suicide and beyond. What can save you is being able to ask for and accept help. Depression is treatable.

I have dealt with it, personally and professionally (I'm an EMT). I have a previous suicide attempt. I sought help. I was treated for it with both counseling and medication. I'm fine now. I no longer take medication. I made changes in my life that enabled me to get past it and live happily.

Please seek help. It is available. Suicide is never the answer. I wish you the best. Good luck.

EMT

Answer 6

Please do not do anything as irreversable as ending your life.

I agree, life can be quite painful...but you are here for a purpose and job is to find out what that is.

Many things can be painful, childbirth, learning, straining muscles to strengthen them...etc.

Learning what your purpose is can take a long time (or not!)....perhaps half a lifetime. But how can you find out if you're not here?

I agree that you should go out and get a job and empower yourself. Growing up can be painful, but you can do it. Compromise can be difficult, like getting a job that you don't like. It doesn't have to be permanent.

Consider what ending your life would do to others. It would be devastating to the people who love you. Even if you don't think so, I am sure it is true.

Answer 7

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is not the answer. You can change this life. I am 36 years old and so much different than i was when i was 19. Don't give up. Just look at all the folks who don't know you and are reaching out to help you

take care and good luck to you

Answer 8

This is your cry for help, if you genuinly wanted you wouldnt be thinking if it would hurt or other things like that, those things wouldnt bother you. Speak yo tour mum no matter how many phyciatric referals etc that people refer if your mum is supportive and loves you, it willl be better than anything! By the way im not saying dont go to a doctors because depression is a illness. Good luck xx

Answer 9

What if you try to commit suicide and it doesn't work and it leaves you maimed for life? It could happen. It sounds like you are very depressed. I think most of us have been there. If you don't want to see a psychiatrist, please talk to a good friend or another relative besides mom. Trust me, things will get better. Try to think positive. And don't stop the job hunt. You'll feel a lot better once you get another job.

Answer 10

I'd feel really really SAD, like my family are not all that kind to me but since I knew them all my life I'd be missing them quite a lot.