2007-06-08 07:06:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Boobie La Bug -- if I'm cheap for not offering to pay, is a girl cheap for not offering to pay when I ask her out?
Why the double standard, ladies? You say you want to be treated equally, but things like this show that what you really want is privilege, right?
2007-06-08 07:25:04 · update #1
Absolutely! If she asks you out, it's her job to pay the bill...That's how invitations work, really. If you had asked her out, she would expect you to pay for it, to be sure!
If you decide in advance to "go dutch", then it would be appropriate for you to pay half, but otherwise, you should expect that you're being treated.
2007-06-08 07:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it's ok, but you may want to either talk it over beforehand, which is difficult, or just be sure to have enough cash on you to pay for both of you, just in case. Either way, I think the gentlemanly thing to do is pay for the meal, or at least offer and if she protests, fine. But it doesn't hurt to offer.
2007-06-08 14:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wouldn't expect her to pay half if you asked HER out. But be honest with yourself and her.
The best thing to do is to offer to pay half, then she can decide to pay the whole or half of the dinner, but don't be a cheepskate and don't offer anything.
Basicly think about what you would want her to do if the roles were reversed.
2007-06-08 14:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by taliswoman 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DEPENDS ON IF U WANT A SECOND DATE OR NOT MATE......i would pay because it is the gentlemanly thing to do, if she doesn't want u to pay, she will take the bill from the waiter........but if it is a first date n u don't want a second, don't pay n if you do not want to pay....then don't go in the first place, meet somewhere neutral instead.........womans lib only work so far........some things can be seen as a test????
2007-06-08 14:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by supertadpole999 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's the one who asked than she should be the one that pays. HOWEVER, as a courtesy, you could at least OFFER to pay for your half, or even the whole bill. Women like to be treated, but if she asked than she should be willing to pay.
2007-06-08 14:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Unless you agree to split the bill before you go out, the one who asks, pays.
2007-06-08 14:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since women offer to pay their share when out on dates, then so should a guy offer to do the same. or else, offer to pay for the next date.
2007-06-08 14:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by xaronne1971 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Um, maybe I am a little old school, but I think it would be rude to not at least offer to pay for half. If you really like her and would like a second date that is.
2007-06-08 14:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Starr 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm always prepared to pay for it all if I ask someone out, but it would be a nice gesture if he wanted to chip in, but as I said ... I wouldn't expect it or find it rude if he didn't.
2007-06-08 14:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she asked you out, she should treat you.
It would be nice if you offered to pay for your half, and it would be supernice if you treated her, regardless of who asked.
2007-06-08 14:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋